Unhappy, frustrated son

[Anonymous]

Anyone who thinks it is okay to curse at a 10-year-old because it's "travel sports" is part of the problem. There are many levels to competitive sports and honestly a place for anyone who wants to be active. The culture and mindset that only the elite should play a sport is ridiculous. How about learning teamwork, get exercise and have fun? There are plenty of lower-level teams throughout the DMV where kids can get just that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone who thinks it is okay to curse at a 10-year-old because it's "travel sports" is part of the problem. There are many levels to competitive sports and honestly a place for anyone who wants to be active. The culture and mindset that only the elite should play a sport is ridiculous. How about learning teamwork, get exercise and have fun? There are plenty of lower-level teams throughout the DMV where kids can get just that.

OK snowflake parent....You were probably raised as an over protected snowflake yourself. Cursing is part of sports nd lockeroom talk get over yourself. Go but that first place participation trophy for your kid. If words make make your kid cry and damage their self esteem your kid has bigger problems than a competitive coach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m very passionate about football/soccer. However, despite my vehement temperament I have never cursed to my players. I have to the ref and gotten expelled from the game but at least I do it in a different language and never to my players. Is this odd?

These are youth players and you shouldn’t curse around them or at them. I don’t care what kind of temperament you have.
Set a good example.

[Anonymous]

That's Right! Get out of here if your 10 year old kid can't take being yelled at for not understanding. It can't possibility be that the coach doesn't know what hell they are doing or how to teach the kids. That coach just needs to take it up a notch.

They need to scream right in their face and then take out a stick and flog them if they are not performing.

That'll fix'em good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m very passionate about football/soccer. However, despite my vehement temperament I have never cursed to my players. I have to the ref and gotten expelled from the game but at least I do it in a different language and never to my players. Is this odd?

These are youth players and you shouldn’t curse around them or at them. I don’t care what kind of temperament you have.
Set a good example.

Again You obviously have never spent anytime around sports teams. I can almost guarantee you darling little Bobby or Mary drops F bombs around their friends a lot more than you want to believe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's Right! Get out of here if your 10 year old kid can't take being yelled at for not understanding. It can't possibility be that the coach doesn't know what hell they are doing or how to teach the kids. That coach just needs to take it up a notch.

They need to scream right in their face and then take out a stick and flog them if they are not performing.

That'll fix'em good.

+1. This. This is exactly right. I hated youth sports as a child - I ended up quitting because I wasn't getting yelled at enough. Sometimes I dream about what might have been, the career I could have had, if only some inarticulate, overweight, youth coach had just yelled at me a little louder and thrown in a few more curse words. Now I will never know. It is my greatest regret.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's Right! Get out of here if your 10 year old kid can't take being yelled at for not understanding. It can't possibility be that the coach doesn't know what hell they are doing or how to teach the kids. That coach just needs to take it up a notch.

They need to scream right in their face and then take out a stick and flog them if they are not performing.

That'll fix'em good.

Or tell them is great to watch you not succeed and here's a big participation trophy to show your a winner even when you lose. and dont believe that you get rewards for winning because even when you fail your the best. Never ever compete to beat anyone we wouldn't want anyone feeling bad because the lost. You dont need to take pride in winning because there might be consequences if you lose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's Right! Get out of here if your 10 year old kid can't take being yelled at for not understanding. It can't possibility be that the coach doesn't know what hell they are doing or how to teach the kids. That coach just needs to take it up a notch.

They need to scream right in their face and then take out a stick and flog them if they are not performing.

That'll fix'em good.

Or tell them is great to watch you not succeed and here's a big participation trophy to show your a winner even when you lose. and dont believe that you get rewards for winning because even when you fail your the best. Never ever compete to beat anyone we wouldn't want anyone feeling bad because the lost. You dont need to take pride in winning because there might be consequences if you lose.

Nice strawman. Beautifully crafted work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's Right! Get out of here if your 10 year old kid can't take being yelled at for not understanding. It can't possibility be that the coach doesn't know what hell they are doing or how to teach the kids. That coach just needs to take it up a notch.

They need to scream right in their face and then take out a stick and flog them if they are not performing.

That'll fix'em good.

Or tell them is great to watch you not succeed and here's a big participation trophy to show your a winner even when you lose. and dont believe that you get rewards for winning because even when you fail your the best. Never ever compete to beat anyone we wouldn't want anyone feeling bad because the lost. You dont need to take pride in winning because there might be consequences if you lose.

Nice strawman. Beautifully crafted work.

Was about to post exactly this same comment. Those of us who are opposed to coaches who choose to express themselves loudly, inarticulately and abusively are not therefore in favor of treating kids as snowflakes and handing out particpation trophies. It is perfectly possible to provide necessary feedback and criticism, and withhold unearned rewards, without resorting to incoherent profanity.

[Anonymous]

because you didn't grow up in Africa you are privileged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m very passionate about football/soccer. However, despite my vehement temperament I have never cursed to my players. I have to the ref and gotten expelled from the game but at least I do it in a different language and never to my players. Is this odd?

These are youth players and you shouldn’t curse around them or at them. I don’t care what kind of temperament you have.
Set a good example.

Again You obviously have never spent anytime around sports teams. I can almost guarantee you darling little Bobby or Mary drops F bombs around their friends a lot more than you want to believe.

He didn't say that people don't curse. He said they shouldn't, and he suggested that a coach should be setting a good example rather thna a bad one. We all know the world is filled with people who do what they shouldn't. Still if we get to choose, I would rather my son's coach were setting a good example.

Would I pick a guy who couldn't coach but didn't curse over an excellent coach who cursed? Probably not, but I would prefer an excellent coach who didn't curse to either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:because you didn't grow up in Africa you are privileged.

What if I grew up in Myanmar?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:because you didn't grow up in Africa you are privileged.

No my friend. It is you who are privileged. I, on the other hand, am burdened with a deeper understanding of the human condition than you, and must perpetually suffer the follies of fools. Not possessing my intelligence means you can have no comprehension of the degree of emotional distress this condition causes - so I would ask you not to respond. In fact, for one such as you, any response other than an immediate apology for your folly implies that you are lacking in both empathy and morality - and as such are a disgraceful human being who deserves public shame and ridicule. I will accept your silence, however, as preferable even to an apology.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone who thinks it is okay to curse at a 10-year-old because it's "travel sports" is part of the problem. There are many levels to competitive sports and honestly a place for anyone who wants to be active. The culture and mindset that only the elite should play a sport is ridiculous. How about learning teamwork, get exercise and have fun? There are plenty of lower-level teams throughout the DMV where kids can get just that.

OK snowflake parent....You were probably raised as an over protected snowflake yourself. Cursing is part of sports nd lockeroom talk get over yourself. Go but that first place participation trophy for your kid. If words make make your kid cry and damage their self esteem your kid has bigger problems than a competitive coach.

Wow, someone has issues...

[Anonymous]

That broflake is a friendless narcissist whose kids are probably worse and that makes that broflake happy.