Proposing To Girlfriend

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, but 10 months of dating, during a pandemic, no ability to travel, the reason you cite as loving her is because she stuck by you while you were sick (?), and you make "great" money plus are planning to spend $50k on a ring and have never talked to her about it.....


It is statistically extremely unlikely that your marriage will last! Get a prenup, spend $25k. Sorry, but in 8 years you'll be thinking back on this thread with frustration and anger.

OP here. It’s a short time but we are older and have experienced enough to know when it’s the real deal. I love her for sticking by my side, but that isn’t the only reason. I love her because she is my best friend. Her ability or make me laugh and just feel so content and comfortable is an amazing feeling. She is so sweet and kind. She is sexy as hell and the sex is the best I’ve ever had. There are so many more reasons why I’m in love with her.

We have talked about marriage and kids many times. I have not told her when I’m going to propose, but she knows that it will happen. We are in love and very serious. I do not need a prenup. I want to give her the best and spending money on a ring that I know she will love is important to me. She deserves it.

How old are you? How much do you make? $50k on a ring is insane. But if you have money to burn then go for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The thing is...she will always remember what happened in that moment. The trip to Hawaii later...it’s really like any other vacation. Don’t spend so much on the proposal event that it’s awkward (what else you could have used the $$ for in starting your life together). But on the other hand, don’t do something so simple it’s not a special thing she would love describing, because she will be asked “How did he do it” over and over and will remember that moment forever. You can still make simple things memorable and special during the pandemic. Like having “Will you marry me?” spelled out in something fun or the ring hidden inside something as you’re enjoying a special evening or place. A google search should have tons of fun ideas that you can adapt.

After you get married, literally no one will ever, ever again ask you how you got engaged. Anyone who thinks that "she will be asked 'how did he do it' over and over" is either unhappily not married, or doesn't have a job or kids. Literally, there are about 100 things in life that are going to quickly override the memories of a pretty silly event that has only become an intensely over the top thing in the pinterest age. Women who put this much stock in a proposal are not much more mature than a 17 year old girl longing for a big prom-posal.

I am another in the camp that OP will be divorced in 8 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, but 10 months of dating, during a pandemic, no ability to travel, the reason you cite as loving her is because she stuck by you while you were sick (?), and you make "great" money plus are planning to spend $50k on a ring and have never talked to her about it.....


It is statistically extremely unlikely that your marriage will last! Get a prenup, spend $25k. Sorry, but in 8 years you'll be thinking back on this thread with frustration and anger.

OP here. It’s a short time but we are older and have experienced enough to know when it’s the real deal. I love her for sticking by my side, but that isn’t the only reason. I love her because she is my best friend. Her ability or make me laugh and just feel so content and comfortable is an amazing feeling. She is so sweet and kind. She is sexy as hell and the sex is the best I’ve ever had. There are so many more reasons why I’m in love with her.

We have talked about marriage and kids many times. I have not told her when I’m going to propose, but she knows that it will happen. We are in love and very serious. I do not need a prenup. I want to give her the best and spending money on a ring that I know she will love is important to me. She deserves it.

How old are you? How much do you make? $50k on a ring is insane. But if you have money to burn then go for it.

OP here. She is 32 and I’m 37. I make close to 300k/year. She makes a little over 100k/year. I have no debt ( besides mortgage and car payment) and have large savings. I don’t have to spend $50k. That’s just the max amount.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, but 10 months of dating, during a pandemic, no ability to travel, the reason you cite as loving her is because she stuck by you while you were sick (?), and you make "great" money plus are planning to spend $50k on a ring and have never talked to her about it.....


It is statistically extremely unlikely that your marriage will last! Get a prenup, spend $25k. Sorry, but in 8 years you'll be thinking back on this thread with frustration and anger.

OP here. It’s a short time but we are older and have experienced enough to know when it’s the real deal. I love her for sticking by my side, but that isn’t the only reason. I love her because she is my best friend. Her ability or make me laugh and just feel so content and comfortable is an amazing feeling. She is so sweet and kind. She is sexy as hell and the sex is the best I’ve ever had. There are so many more reasons why I’m in love with her.

We have talked about marriage and kids many times. I have not told her when I’m going to propose, but she knows that it will happen. We are in love and very serious. I do not need a prenup. I want to give her the best and spending money on a ring that I know she will love is important to me. She deserves it.

How old are you? How much do you make? $50k on a ring is insane. But if you have money to burn then go for it.

OP here. She is 32 and I’m 37. I make close to 300k/year. She makes a little over 100k/year. I have no debt ( besides mortgage and car payment) and have large savings. I don’t have to spend $50k. That’s just the max amount.

I think you will be fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, but 10 months of dating, during a pandemic, no ability to travel, the reason you cite as loving her is because she stuck by you while you were sick (?), and you make "great" money plus are planning to spend $50k on a ring and have never talked to her about it.....


It is statistically extremely unlikely that your marriage will last! Get a prenup, spend $25k. Sorry, but in 8 years you'll be thinking back on this thread with frustration and anger.

OP here. It’s a short time but we are older and have experienced enough to know when it’s the real deal. I love her for sticking by my side, but that isn’t the only reason. I love her because she is my best friend. Her ability or make me laugh and just feel so content and comfortable is an amazing feeling. She is so sweet and kind. She is sexy as hell and the sex is the best I’ve ever had. There are so many more reasons why I’m in love with her.

We have talked about marriage and kids many times. I have not told her when I’m going to propose, but she knows that it will happen. We are in love and very serious. I do not need a prenup. I want to give her the best and spending money on a ring that I know she will love is important to me. She deserves it.

How old are you? How much do you make? $50k on a ring is insane. But if you have money to burn then go for it.

OP here. She is 32 and I’m 37. I make close to 300k/year. She makes a little over 100k/year. I have no debt ( besides mortgage and car payment) and have large savings. I don’t have to spend $50k. That’s just the max amount.

What kind of ring did you get? What did you decide for the proposal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, but 10 months of dating, during a pandemic, no ability to travel, the reason you cite as loving her is because she stuck by you while you were sick (?), and you make "great" money plus are planning to spend $50k on a ring and have never talked to her about it.....


It is statistically extremely unlikely that your marriage will last! Get a prenup, spend $25k. Sorry, but in 8 years you'll be thinking back on this thread with frustration and anger.

OP here. It’s a short time but we are older and have experienced enough to know when it’s the real deal. I love her for sticking by my side, but that isn’t the only reason. I love her because she is my best friend. Her ability or make me laugh and just feel so content and comfortable is an amazing feeling. She is so sweet and kind. She is sexy as hell and the sex is the best I’ve ever had. There are so many more reasons why I’m in love with her.

We have talked about marriage and kids many times. I have not told her when I’m going to propose, but she knows that it will happen. We are in love and very serious. I do not need a prenup. I want to give her the best and spending money on a ring that I know she will love is important to me. She deserves it.

How old are you? How much do you make? $50k on a ring is insane. But if you have money to burn then go for it.

OP here. She is 32 and I’m 37. I make close to 300k/year. She makes a little over 100k/year. I have no debt ( besides mortgage and car payment) and have large savings. I don’t have to spend $50k. That’s just the max amount.

Oh in that case don't do it! That is insane amount of money to spend on a ring. I make around $100K a year and my DH makes around $450K a year. I would NEVER want him to spend that much money on a ring. Not sure if you are planning on having kids or not but a huge ring is a pain in the ass when you are changing baby diapers! I have had 3 kids in 5 years and am always changing diapers and washing my hands. I wouldn't want anything bigger than a 1.5 carat otherwise I would be afraid of scratching the baby. Also kids are expensive. We are paying $4000 a month for daycare.

[Anonymous]

Take her and let her pick out the ring. $50K on your income makes no sense. $5-10K ok but save the money for other things. I never wear my rings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, but 10 months of dating, during a pandemic, no ability to travel, the reason you cite as loving her is because she stuck by you while you were sick (?), and you make "great" money plus are planning to spend $50k on a ring and have never talked to her about it.....


It is statistically extremely unlikely that your marriage will last! Get a prenup, spend $25k. Sorry, but in 8 years you'll be thinking back on this thread with frustration and anger.

OP here. It’s a short time but we are older and have experienced enough to know when it’s the real deal. I love her for sticking by my side, but that isn’t the only reason. I love her because she is my best friend. Her ability or make me laugh and just feel so content and comfortable is an amazing feeling. She is so sweet and kind. She is sexy as hell and the sex is the best I’ve ever had. There are so many more reasons why I’m in love with her.

We have talked about marriage and kids many times. I have not told her when I’m going to propose, but she knows that it will happen. We are in love and very serious. I do not need a prenup. I want to give her the best and spending money on a ring that I know she will love is important to me. She deserves it.

How old are you? How much do you make? $50k on a ring is insane. But if you have money to burn then go for it.

OP here. She is 32 and I’m 37. I make close to 300k/year. She makes a little over 100k/year. I have no debt ( besides mortgage and car payment) and have large savings. I don’t have to spend $50k. That’s just the max amount.

What kind of ring did you get? What did you decide for the proposal?

OP posted in another thread (Gift for Girlfriend) that he is postponing the proposal to next year and wants help picking out a nice lockdown order compliant gift instead.