Proposing To Girlfriend

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, only on DCUM would people not bat an eye at 50k, and suggest spending 20-30k instead. I’m afraid I cannot relate or imagine!

I agree PP. Meanwhile the line for free dinner at McPhèson Square was the longest I've seen tonight.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like the gf realizes she found her meal ticket, as she's made her boyfriend of a year her entire life. Let OP spend the 50 K. Do yourself a favor OP, and get a good prenup.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If she's someone who needs a $50k ring/proposal, you'll need at least 250 for the wedding.

OP here. She doesn’t need it but she deserves it. I got really sick after the first month of us dating. I think most would have walked away but she has stayed by my side this entire time. I’m fine now was battling some health issues and she was always “ we will get through it”. It was “ you”, it was “ we”. I’ve had girlfriends in the past not handle it all well. She had blown off friends and canceled vacation trips to be with me when I was having a hard time. She deserves an amazing ring and an amazing proposal.

She seems like a great gal!

Do you live in the DC area? I’ve noticed that engagement rings are pretty modest here ie it might be a bit garish.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If she's someone who needs a $50k ring/proposal, you'll need at least 250 for the wedding.

OP here. She doesn’t need it but she deserves it. I got really sick after the first month of us dating. I think most would have walked away but she has stayed by my side this entire time. I’m fine now was battling some health issues and she was always “ we will get through it”. It was “ you”, it was “ we”. I’ve had girlfriends in the past not handle it all well. She had blown off friends and canceled vacation trips to be with me when I was having a hard time. She deserves an amazing ring and an amazing proposal.

She seems like a great gal!

Do you live in the DC area? I’ve noticed that engagement rings are pretty modest here ie it might be a bit garish.

While I'm glad OP is well, nothing else about this situation sounds great or emotionally healthy.

[Anonymous]

Op, ignore these jealous b's. Congrats to you for finding someone who makes you want to go all out to impress her. Maybe find a small jewelry store who would custom make the ring for you and rent the store for a couple hours. Flowers, candles, personal shopping for the ring ... then go out for an amazing New Year's Celebration. Congratulations!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous[b wrote:]Op, ignore these jealous b's. [/b]Congrats to you for finding someone who makes you want to go all out to impress her. Maybe find a small jewelry store who would custom make the ring for you and rent the store for a couple hours. Flowers, candles, personal shopping for the ring ... then go out for an amazing New Year's Celebration. Congratulations!

He doesn't want to impress her. It's all about him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like the gf realizes she found her meal ticket, as she's made her boyfriend of a year her entire life. Let OP spend the 50 K. Do yourself a favor OP, and get a good prenup.

OP here. She is not like that. She doesn’t see me as a meal ticket. I’m not rich and she makes good money too. She has not made me her entire life. She has helped me through some rough times, but she has her own life. I’m sorry you’re not as loyal or compassionate and caring as others.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If she's someone who needs a $50k ring/proposal, you'll need at least 250 for the wedding.

OP here. She doesn’t need it but she deserves it. I got really sick after the first month of us dating. I think most would have walked away but she has stayed by my side this entire time. I’m fine now was battling some health issues and she was always “ we will get through it”. It was “ you”, it was “ we”. I’ve had girlfriends in the past not handle it all well. She had blown off friends and canceled vacation trips to be with me when I was having a hard time. She deserves an amazing ring and an amazing proposal.

She seems like a great gal!

Do you live in the DC area? I’ve noticed that engagement rings are pretty modest here ie it might be a bit garish.

While I'm glad OP is well, nothing else about this situation sounds great or emotionally healthy.

What doesn’t sounds great or healthy? It seems fine to me.

[Anonymous]

Your marriage won’t last.

$50k for a marriage and proposal tells me you haven’t thought at all about the important stuff: the actual marriage.

It is ridiculous to spend that much on ring and proposal.

[Anonymous]

This is funny.

1 carat used to be the norm.

Now we all need Kardashia/JLo celebrity bling.

[Anonymous]

Budget for insurance for the ring. Also the groom is expected to pay for the honeymoon. Rings get lost or stolen. Wives gain weight during pregnancy and the ring no longer fits.

Wishing DH and I spent more on our honeymoon....

[Anonymous]

OP, she sounds like an amazing person, and you do as well to want to show her how much you appreciate her.

These days, wedding bands often have diamonds too, so that could easily be part of the $50K. A really nice 2-3ct Diamond, planning on part of the money being for her diamond wedding band, and then part of the money for a really special occasion for the proposal.

I love the idea above of New Year’s Eve on the water on a boat for the proposal. I’ve always wanted to do that here, the fireworks reflected in the water, and it’s special but also more private. That might be a great option since travel to anywhere not in a car is tough right now.

The trickiest part of this is figuring out what style to get. Hopefully her friend has really good intel on what to get and what she would like. But for that much money and how much you love her, you REALLY want her to love it. One option is to still have the occasion for the proposal and something special to signify it, but also let her pick out the real diamond and setting afterward as something you do together, you know? Picking out her diamond and wedding band and your band all as a set together. Not sure how to do that...a ring for the proposal that she would wear on another finger, something like that? Again it’s a huge amount of money for her not to be involved in the choice. The only other thing I can think of is for the friend to get pics of her favorite shape and settings somehow.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If she's someone who needs a $50k ring/proposal, you'll need at least 250 for the wedding.

OP here. She doesn’t need it but she deserves it. I got really sick after the first month of us dating. I think most would have walked away but she has stayed by my side this entire time. I’m fine now was battling some health issues and she was always “ we will get through it”. It was “ you”, it was “ we”. I’ve had girlfriends in the past not handle it all well. She had blown off friends and canceled vacation trips to be with me when I was having a hard time. She deserves an amazing ring and an amazing proposal.

She seems like a great gal!

Do you live in the DC area? I’ve noticed that engagement rings are pretty modest here ie it might be a bit garish.

While I'm glad OP is well, nothing else about this situation sounds great or emotionally healthy.[/q

What doesn’t sounds great or healthy? It seems fine to me.

It's all about him. He likes her because she's all about him. She has no interests except him.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If she's someone who needs a $50k ring/proposal, you'll need at least 250 for the wedding.

OP here. She doesn’t need it but she deserves it. I got really sick after the first month of us dating. I think most would have walked away but she has stayed by my side this entire time. I’m fine now was battling some health issues and she was always “ we will get through it”. It was “ you”, it was “ we”. I’ve had girlfriends in the past not handle it all well. She had blown off friends and canceled vacation trips to be with me when I was having a hard time. She deserves an amazing ring and an amazing proposal.

She seems like a great gal!

Do you live in the DC area? I’ve noticed that engagement rings are pretty modest here ie it might be a bit garish.

While I'm glad OP is well, nothing else about this situation sounds great or emotionally healthy.[/q

What doesn’t sounds great or healthy? It seems fine to me.

It's all about him. He likes her because she's all about him. She has no interests except him.

It’s funny to see these comments from someone who doesn’t even know anything about their relationship or her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If she's someone who needs a $50k ring/proposal, you'll need at least 250 for the wedding.

OP here. She doesn’t need it but she deserves it. I got really sick after the first month of us dating. I think most would have walked away but she has stayed by my side this entire time. I’m fine now was battling some health issues and she was always “ we will get through it”. It was “ you”, it was “ we”. I’ve had girlfriends in the past not handle it all well. She had blown off friends and canceled vacation trips to be with me when I was having a hard time. She deserves an amazing ring and an amazing proposal.

She seems like a great gal!

Do you live in the DC area? I’ve noticed that engagement rings are pretty modest here ie it might be a bit garish.

While I'm glad OP is well, nothing else about this situation sounds great or emotionally healthy.[/q

What doesn’t sounds great or healthy? It seems fine to me.

It's all about him. He likes her because she's all about him. She has no interests except him.

It’s funny to see these comments from someone who doesn’t even know anything about their relationship or her.

So you know them then and can vouch that it's all good and healthy?