Neighbor flirts with husband...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Like others, this would make me uncomfortable. But it's also sad a woman can't be friends with a man unless his wife is included.

Does this apply to coworkers, too? There's a mid-60 year old woman at my husband's office that continuously throws herself at him (he is mid-40s).

I hit the roof when I found out they'd had 1:1 lunches during work. He was all, "but, her age?? And I don't find her attractive (she's not)" yet I'm sure she doesn't see it that way.

This makes me so annoyed. I am in a male dominated industry. I can't invite a colleague out for a friendly lunch without his wife getting upset? Ugg, I have no sexual interest and if I were a man no one would blink.

This is a lie. If a man were constantly going to lunch with his female coworker and texting her constantly, hanging out with her people would assume they were involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not sure why people keep bringing up Mike Pence but this neighbor's behavior is wildly inappropriate. You don't repeatedly invite one half of a married couple on outings like this. Was a problem with my thankfully now ex, some gross woman from Twitter went out of her way to invite only him to activities/ outings over and over again. He wouldn't even acknowledge it as an issue much less shut it down.

Ghost the neighbor, her personal background doesn't excuse this.

People love whataboutism on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Like others, this would make me uncomfortable. But it's also sad a woman can't be friends with a man unless his wife is included.

Does this apply to coworkers, too? There's a mid-60 year old woman at my husband's office that continuously throws herself at him (he is mid-40s).

I hit the roof when I found out they'd had 1:1 lunches during work. He was all, "but, her age?? And I don't find her attractive (she's not)" yet I'm sure she doesn't see it that way.

I think you overreacted.

Yeah, with that age difference and the situation (lunch? during work hours? really?), I wouldn't worry about it at alllll. You sound insecure.

There's been many private lunches. Happy hours. She messages him frequently about personal things. When they speak on the phone his voice is different, I don't know how else to describe it. He sounds nicer. She has been divorced twice, both absolute divorces, so I assume she cheated in those.

But okay, guess I'm just insecure.

That's got to be difficult to hear, PP, sorry. The change in his voice could just be that friends (same sex or opposite) tend to get more of the positive side of a person while spouses get the entire package.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Like others, this would make me uncomfortable. But it's also sad a woman can't be friends with a man unless his wife is included.

Honestly because of women like you who don't understand boundaries. It's rarer for the husbands because most men just get how to handle being the friend vs the SO. The know their role. Whereas women no matter what they claim, with rare exceptions set up a competition with the wife. It's well I knew him longer etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your husband says something direct to her. “I don’t go out with other women without [your name].” And he pulls back on spending time with her. Next time she invites just him over, both of you go together. And keep doing that. The invitations aimed just at him will quickly stop.

This. Your husband has been handling it well, but he needs to be more direct. For her part your neighbor may not be aware of what she is doing and her little crush on your husband which is why he needs to be more firm with her o snap her back to reality. You coming over will also help with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your husband says something direct to her. “I don’t go out with other women without [your name].” And he pulls back on spending time with her. Next time she invites just him over, both of you go together. And keep doing that. The invitations aimed just at him will quickly stop.

This. Your husband has been handling it well, but he needs to be more direct. For her part your neighbor may not be aware of what she is doing and her little crush on your husband which is why he needs to be more firm with her o snap her back to reality. You coming over will also help with that.

Better yet, next time neighbor extends an invite DH should say, "Sorry, I won't be able to come over for a beer but DW would love to! She'll be over in 15 minutes!"

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your husband says something direct to her. “I don’t go out with other women without [your name].” And he pulls back on spending time with her. Next time she invites just him over, both of you go together. And keep doing that. The invitations aimed just at him will quickly stop.

This. He needs to be like Mike Pence.

Just stop! This is not like Mike Pence. Mike Pence won't take work meetings with women alone AT WORK. WTF- that is not the same as being asked on dates, which is what the pattern from OP indicates. One is treating the opposite sex like the boogey man the other is being put in a super awkward position, even if the woman is not really doing it intentionally

[Anonymous]

There was a very pretty young (35 ish) air force pilot's wife that lived across the street from us while he was deployed overseas.

She routinely texted my husband for help around the house. Once at 10 at night she asked him to come inspect a 'huge' leak in the basement. He goes over and she's braless in a thin essentially see through camisole, PJ pants and drinking a glass of wine. She offered him a beer and followed him around the basement basically on top of him. The leak was a tiny spot where the AC drain line met the floor drain.

It still blows my mind as I was friendly with her. I honestly can't decide if she thought he was going to screw her with his wife just across the street or if she got off on flirting or if she really was just that clueless.

[Anonymous]

That is way more than just flirting. That danged ho after your man, woman!

[Anonymous]

Woman on the prowl!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There was a very pretty young (35 ish) air force pilot's wife that lived across the street from us while he was deployed overseas.

She routinely texted my husband for help around the house. Once at 10 at night she asked him to come inspect a 'huge' leak in the basement. He goes over and she's braless in a thin essentially see through camisole, PJ pants and drinking a glass of wine. She offered him a beer and followed him around the basement basically on top of him. The leak was a tiny spot where the AC drain line met the floor drain.

It still blows my mind as I was friendly with her. I honestly can't decide if she thought he was going to screw her with his wife just across the street or if she got off on flirting or if she really was just that clueless.

Ahhh, yes, that woman was most certainly trying to sleep with your husband. Not one of your girlfriends clued you in?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There was a very pretty young (35 ish) air force pilot's wife that lived across the street from us while he was deployed overseas.

She routinely texted my husband for help around the house. Once at 10 at night she asked him to come inspect a 'huge' leak in the basement. He goes over and she's braless in a thin essentially see through camisole, PJ pants and drinking a glass of wine. She offered him a beer and followed him around the basement basically on top of him. The leak was a tiny spot where the AC drain line met the floor drain.

It still blows my mind as I was friendly with her. I honestly can't decide if she thought he was going to screw her with his wife just across the street or if she got off on flirting or if she really was just that clueless.

Marriage fidelity can be pretty dicey among the military set. There is an oft used phrase, "What goes on TDY (deployed) stays TDY (deployed)." Many spouses know about this so they think it is acceptable for it to happen on the homefront too. Not saying all do this but it happens with great frequency.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Like others, this would make me uncomfortable. But it's also sad a woman can't be friends with a man unless his wife is included.

Does this apply to coworkers, too? There's a mid-60 year old woman at my husband's office that continuously throws herself at him (he is mid-40s).

I hit the roof when I found out they'd had 1:1 lunches during work. He was all, "but, her age?? And I don't find her attractive (she's not)" yet I'm sure she doesn't see it that way.

I think you overreacted.

Yeah, with that age difference and the situation (lunch? during work hours? really?), I wouldn't worry about it at alllll. You sound insecure.

There's been many private lunches. Happy hours. She messages him frequently about personal things. When they speak on the phone his voice is different, I don't know how else to describe it. He sounds nicer. She has been divorced twice, both absolute divorces, so I assume she cheated in those.

But okay, guess I'm just insecure.

Doesn't have to be either or- can be crossing a line AND you can be insecure and foolish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Woman on the prowl!

Sounds like a cougar. So hot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There was a very pretty young (35 ish) air force pilot's wife that lived across the street from us while he was deployed overseas.

She routinely texted my husband for help around the house. Once at 10 at night she asked him to come inspect a 'huge' leak in the basement. He goes over and she's braless in a thin essentially see through camisole, PJ pants and drinking a glass of wine. She offered him a beer and followed him around the basement basically on top of him. The leak was a tiny spot where the AC drain line met the floor drain.

It still blows my mind as I was friendly with her. I honestly can't decide if she thought he was going to screw her with his wife just across the street or if she got off on flirting or if she really was just that clueless.

Does she still live there? What neighborhood?