Redshirting? Will there be more this year?

[Anonymous]

This is a goofy post imho. We moved across the country before what would have been our child's first grade year. He was born June 3rd. We kept him in K so that he could adjust and know a few people before starting.

Like others have said had be been born 72 hours earlier we wouldn't have even had the choice.

[Anonymous]

You’d have to be nuts to NOT redshirt your kindergartner this year if you couldn’t find a private in person kindergarten.

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Anonymous wrote:Those who can, should. And I hate redshirting. It's skewing things to your kid's advantage. And that goes against every rule of good parenting. But these are not ordinary times. I would redshirt this year if I was faced with the decision and not feel quilty at all.

I agree with this though I didn’t redshirt my kindergartner this year either. She will be 6 in December and I thought the better option long term is not for her to be so old for the grade. That said I have the privilege of being able to afford private K this year. We are a dual working family household and I know virtual K will be so miserable.

It doesn't apply to you. You redshirt a summer birthday, not a mid-year birthday.

Do not cite the deep magic to me. I was there when it was written.

Under VA rules I believe I would have had the option to redshirt same as anyone else.

Virginia school cut offs are 9/30 in most places, not December.

Right and anyone who is not 6 before 9/30 technically can be redshirted. That is the actual rule. To be clear, I wish redshirting wasn’t allowed at all. But what I have written is the actual rule.

[Anonymous]

We have an early Sept birthday who should be starting K next year. I was the fence about redshirting her but now I think I will because she's essentially losing this year of school AND I don't want her thrown in with a bunch of older kids that redshirted this year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’d have to be nuts to NOT redshirt your kindergartner this year if you couldn’t find a private in person kindergarten.

Said the selfish lazy parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kinder is such great year normally. I would redshirt a June bday this year in a heartbeat. April or earlier, probably no. June? Absolutely.

Does anyone ever ask you how old you were when you graduated high school? College? It doesn’t matter at all. In the grand scheme of things, we are talking about a year difference. Do what is best for your kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have an early Sept birthday who should be starting K next year. I was the fence about redshirting her but now I think I will because she's essentially losing this year of school AND I don't want her thrown in with a bunch of older kids that redshirted this year.

This is just anecdotal but notwithstanding the posts here, I don’t actually know of more than usual redshirting this year. You may check around your local area before deciding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There have been a million threads on this already. I am not redshirting my late June girl, she'll just be a year and a half younger than some of her classmates with crazy parents.

+1. I don’t relate to the majority of people in this thread. We’re not redshirting my August boy. He’s doing private K which is virtual now but will probably be hybrid soon. I guess we have IQ to spare and are not trying to raise a pro athlete! A bored child is not good thing. Why are parents so allergic to challenging their kids?

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Anonymous wrote:There have been a million threads on this already. I am not redshirting my late June girl, she'll just be a year and a half younger than some of her classmates with crazy parents.

+1. I don’t relate to the majority of people in this thread. We’re not redshirting my August boy. He’s doing private K which is virtual now but will probably be hybrid soon. I guess we have IQ to spare and are not trying to raise a pro athlete! A bored child is not good thing. Why are parents so allergic to challenging their kids?

Because its easier on them and the teachers. They don't have to provide any support or guidance and let kids figure it out on their own. Plus they want bragging rights to being in gifted programs when they really aren't gifted or should be there or sports.

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Anonymous wrote:Kinder is such great year normally. I would redshirt a June bday this year in a heartbeat. April or earlier, probably no. June? Absolutely.

Does anyone ever ask you how old you were when you graduated high school? College? It doesn’t matter at all. In the grand scheme of things, we are talking about a year difference. Do what is best for your kid.

How do you think a kid will feel being an 19-20 year old senior? Kids know who was held back.

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Anonymous wrote:There have been a million threads on this already. I am not redshirting my late June girl, she'll just be a year and a half younger than some of her classmates with crazy parents.

+1. I don’t relate to the majority of people in this thread. We’re not redshirting my August boy. He’s doing private K which is virtual now but will probably be hybrid soon. I guess we have IQ to spare and are not trying to raise a pro athlete! A bored child is not good thing. Why are parents so allergic to challenging their kids?

Because its easier on them and the teachers. They don't have to provide any support or guidance and let kids figure it out on their own. Plus they want bragging rights to being in gifted programs when they really aren't gifted or should be there or sports.

I think you’re right. I was young for my grade and yes I was bummed when my friends got their drivers licenses before me and all that but I’d rather be racing to keep up and learning I dunno some grit than just breezing along under the delusion that I’m superior. Looking back, I had a classmate who was the oldest in the grade — not redshirted, but I went to school in the days where it the grade was the calendar year and his was January — he seemed SOOOO smart at the time, had also read more books than me, etc. Now I look back and realize oh duh, he was like a year older! He totally burned out after high school, in a pretty tragic way in fact. I remember racing to keep up with him in school, but I think ultimately it served me well. I’m far more successful than him. Obviously an anecdote, of course, so I guess the takeaway is YMMV.

[Anonymous]

^^^ I don’t mean “burned out” like he overworked himself. I mean he seriously lacked coping strategies to deal with issues and there were negative consequences.

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Anonymous wrote:There have been a million threads on this already. I am not redshirting my late June girl, she'll just be a year and a half younger than some of her classmates with crazy parents.

+1. I don’t relate to the majority of people in this thread. We’re not redshirting my August boy. He’s doing private K which is virtual now but will probably be hybrid soon. I guess we have IQ to spare and are not trying to raise a pro athlete! A bored child is not good thing. Why are parents so allergic to challenging their kids?

Because its easier on them and the teachers. They don't have to provide any support or guidance and let kids figure it out on their own. Plus they want bragging rights to being in gifted programs when they really aren't gifted or should be there or sports.

I think you’re right. I was young for my grade and yes I was bummed when my friends got their drivers licenses before me and all that but I’d rather be racing to keep up and learning I dunno some grit than just breezing along under the delusion that I’m superior. Looking back, I had a classmate who was the oldest in the grade — not redshirted, but I went to school in the days where it the grade was the calendar year and his was January — he seemed SOOOO smart at the time, had also read more books than me, etc. Now I look back and realize oh duh, he was like a year older! He totally burned out after high school, in a pretty tragic way in fact. I remember racing to keep up with him in school, but I think ultimately it served me well. I’m far more successful than him. Obviously an anecdote, of course, so I guess the takeaway is YMMV.

I don't want my child the first to get a license as I don't want them having the pressure to drive their friends. My child keeps up just fine and is in the higher level classes. A year back my child would have been really bored. We talked about switching schools to private and many pressured us to hold back on age/not grades and child was against it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You’d have to be nuts to NOT redshirt your kindergartner this year if you couldn’t find a private in person kindergarten.

Said the selfish lazy parent.

Yep - you got me. I'm selfish and lazy. Again - you would have to be nuts to NOT redshirt your kindergartner this year. You are only proving my point.

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Anonymous wrote:You’d have to be nuts to NOT redshirt your kindergartner this year if you couldn’t find a private in person kindergarten.

Said the selfish lazy parent.

Yep - you got me. I'm selfish and lazy. Again - you would have to be nuts to NOT redshirt your kindergartner this year. You are only proving my point.

What on earth are you talking about? Mom of August boy here who’s not redshirting. What do you think kids learn in kindergarten? It’s not like they’re missing a year of medical residency here!