Casual relationships and STDs

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I initially thought the same way but when you are very busy it beats casual sex or ONS or no sex. I look forward to the day when I have the time for a serious relationship.

something is off if you are too busy for a relationship, red flag

Three children ten and under, 100% custody and a full time job. No I’m not busy! I’m sure there are plenty of moms like me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP find a committed person and both of you get tested. Practice safe sex.

OP here, someone mentioned finding a monogamous FWB but I assume men that want a FWB are having casual sex with others. I don’t plan on having sex with more than one person at once, just don’t want to spend time on a relationship. Is it really possible to expect a FWB to follow along with not sleeping with others if you’re only having sex around twice a week?

plenty of men would jump at monogamous FWB without relationship pressure.

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Anonymous wrote:After reading this it is so nice to be happily married with a very active sex life. No tests, no condoms, no dental dams just care free sex a few times a week.

Until you found out your spouse had unprotected sex with someone else!!!

Talk about major betrayal for somebody that is highly health conscious.

Just awful and he was still having sex with me 3-4 times per week while boning her unprotected.

I am so proactive about my health and a microbiologist/immunologist so this was the biggest part of the betrayal : my health at risk by these two r@tards.

The lasted two studies are microbiomes are all the rage in what’s causing cancers and other problems and this isn’t STDs this is getting someone else’s subpar flora that can cause chronic diseaseS. It’s a new study area that is very prominent known, responsible for gynecological and colon cancers, etc.

DP, I’m so sorry this happened to you.

I'm really surprise how many people don't realize the cancers one can get from other people.

I know about hpv. What other cancers can one get from having sex with someone?

Thanks pp.

To the 2nd pp, microbiomes are the latest and biggest research area. Every individual has their own unique micrbiome (bacteria profile) with good and bad bacteria. Healthy individual and genetic predisposition as well as antibiotic use or periodontal disease all affect a person’s microbiomes.

Oral bacteria is now implicated in colon cancer. Certain uterine and gynecological cancer are now being found to be related to microbiomes.

So, as in my case, if my husband bones a woman he is getting her micro flora/microbiome in his weiner and his mouth which then can be transmitted to me. This isn’t std/sti this is bacterial flora as well (not the ones causing acute STDs/Stis like chlamydia).

So, yeah, somebody that works in the field like me is very conscious about their health...and don’t get me started on HPV. I was on a 5-year PAP plan because I was HPV negative and now because of 2 whores I did t know to tell my gynecologist I was not in a monogamous relationship to my knowledge.

@ssholes. Complete selfish stupid @holes. They never physically saw each other’s tests just took each other’s word they were clean. Meanwhile her husband could be boning men for all any of us know and I could have been a whore (I’m not).

Wow. Thanks for this.

This is one of the bacteria that causes colon cancer and you can get from bodily fluids:

Fusobacterium species (F.nucleatum) are part of the normal flora of the oropharyngeal, gastrointestinal, and genital tracts. Modes of transmission include mucous membrane contact, accidental inoculation, and [/b]contact with infected body fluids. [b]Person-to-person transmission has occurred from bite wounds.

There are other bacteria that do not cause acute infection that can cause uterine and ovarian cancers.

So if you and your spouse have no family history but go screwing other people you just may now have changed your microbiome to high risk.

[Anonymous]

for this type of situation do you just do it or is there kissing and intamacy involved.

[Anonymous]

I was newly divorced and didn't want a "real" relationship.

I only slept with someone who would go get tested for a full panel of STDs and show the results, and use condoms.

I had an amazing time, by the way. That was multiple years ago and I ended up in a relationship that turned into marriage (not someone I met through the FWB route).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm soon to be divorced, and I wonder about all this too. I dont know anyone who uses protection for oral! And yet it's the only way to be safe. But it also takes all the fun and sensation out of it, so then what's the point. I'm so confused. I feel like the "get tested every week! wear condoms!" people have never actually had casual sex?

Maybe not. Maybe they value their health more than you do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was newly divorced and didn't want a "real" relationship.

I only slept with someone who would go get tested for a full panel of STDs and show the results, and use condoms.

I had an amazing time, by the way. That was multiple years ago and I ended up in a relationship that turned into marriage (not someone I met through the FWB route).

For oral?

[Anonymous]

You accept some level of risk, get tested, and always use condoms. Probably not for oral though, that's the risk acceptance part. I've never known anyone to use condoms and dental dams for oral.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You accept some level of risk, get tested, and always use condoms. Probably not for oral though, that's the risk acceptance part. I've never known anyone to use condoms and dental dams for oral.

I use condoms for oral

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I'd avoid oral sex with a casual partner.
-someone who got herpes that way from a long-term partner and who also knows hpv can be transmitted that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd avoid oral sex with a casual partner.
-someone who got herpes that way from a long-term partner and who also knows hpv can be transmitted that way.

Exactly

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'd avoid oral sex with a casual partner.
-someone who got herpes that way from a long-term partner and who also knows hpv can be transmitted that way.

Exactly

Lol. Ok, so you guys just don't even know what good sex is then. I got it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You accept some level of risk, get tested, and always use condoms. Probably not for oral though, that's the risk acceptance part. I've never known anyone to use condoms and dental dams for oral.

I use condoms for oral

What's the point? How could that possibly feel good if you're with someone who is not a 15 year old virgin?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You accept some level of risk, get tested, and always use condoms. Probably not for oral though, that's the risk acceptance part. I've never known anyone to use condoms and dental dams for oral.

I use condoms for oral

What's the point? How could that possibly feel good if you're with someone who is not a 15 year old virgin?

Sorry but I’m not willing to get throat cancer from going down on a guy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You accept some level of risk, get tested, and always use condoms. Probably not for oral though, that's the risk acceptance part. I've never known anyone to use condoms and dental dams for oral.

I use condoms for oral

What's the point? How could that possibly feel good if you're with someone who is not a 15 year old virgin?

Sorry but I’m not willing to get throat cancer from going down on a guy.

It’s the guys going down on women unprotected that are taking huge risks when it comes to HPV cancer in the oral cavity, at least 10-15X the cancer risk vs. your HPV throat cancer risk going down on a guy.

For guys who have provided six or more women unprotected oral sex, their chance of an HPV cancer (for which there is no way to screen like a Pap) is so high as to constitute an epidemic. Most will survive the brutal treatment, but emerge with permanent issues to deal with.

https://www.cedars-sinai.org/discoveries/an-epidemic-ignites.html