Running laps as punishment

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DS 8 had his first soccer practice last night on a new team. The coach was playing some game trying to help the kids learn each other names. Like kick the ball and say their name. I’ll admit it was a little bit babyish. My DS couldn’t remember any of the names so coach pointed to a kid and said “hey, why don’t you ask him to tell you his name.” My DS was kind of rude and said “I don’t really care what his name is.” I think he just thought the game was silly. The coach got upset and made my DS dribble the ball around the soccer field once. Honestly this just upset my DS more and he was pretty mouthy the rest of the practice. I do not think the coach handled this way. My DS didn’t know a kids name, on the first day of practice, and then got embarrassed, so he said something stupid. DH thinks I should leave it alone, but the “running laps” As punishment thing is really bothering me. I didn’t think coaches still did that.

Your husband is right. Your kid was rude. You don't like it? Pull your snowflake or become a coach yourself.

+1

The coach did an icebreaker to help learn names. Your kid couldn’t remember any names, so the coach told him to...ask. Your kid then acts like a jerk and says he doesn’t care what the kid’s name was. Did you even consider how the other kid might have felt after being dismissed by a teammate?

And...how dare you allow him to be mouthy the REST OF PRACTICE? Next time, take him home. The coach isn’t paid to do this, and then you allowed him to be a jerk the rest of practice? Come on, OP.

I know! I pull my kid from practice if he continues to act up after the first warning. She clearly heard him being mouthy the rest of practice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS 8 had his first soccer practice last night on a new team. The coach was playing some game trying to help the kids learn each other names. Like kick the ball and say their name. I’ll admit it was a little bit babyish. My DS couldn’t remember any of the names so coach pointed to a kid and said “hey, why don’t you ask him to tell you his name.” My DS was kind of rude and said “I don’t really care what his name is.” I think he just thought the game was silly. The coach got upset and made my DS dribble the ball around the soccer field once. Honestly this just upset my DS more and he was pretty mouthy the rest of the practice. I do not think the coach handled this way. My DS didn’t know a kids name, on the first day of practice, and then got embarrassed, so he said something stupid. DH thinks I should leave it alone, but the “running laps” As punishment thing is really bothering me. I didn’t think coaches still did that.

Your kid was really rude. It doesn't matter if he thought the game was silly, he shouldn't have talked back like that. Obviously the punishment didn't work since he was rude the rest of the practice but maybe after having to do it several times your kid will learn some respect.

Also, you defend your kid by saying he didn't know another kid's name on the first day of practice, but the coach was trying to help make that happen. Finally, your kid is EIGHT YEARS OLD. You think the game of learning other kids' names was babyish for that age? You and your kid sound very unpleasant, to be honest. I can only imagine what the other parents thought.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds really bratty, OP--my 8yo would never mouth off at an adult like that. And that you're here defending him suggests it's an entrenched parenting problem.

Sounds like the coach was trying to humiliate the kid. The kid talked back.

Wow! An 8 year old talking back to an adult on the first day of practice is pretty bratty. The coach was setting boundaries and teaching the kid appropriate behavior since the kid’s parents refuse to do so.

OP is the problem.

[Anonymous]

Well OP, Five pages of consent with I think a lone dissenter? Almost unheard of on DCUM. I guess you have your answer. Please be sure to tell your husband that we all agree with him.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DS 8 had his first soccer practice last night on a new team. The coach was playing some game trying to help the kids learn each other names. Like kick the ball and say their name. I’ll admit it was a little bit babyish. My DS couldn’t remember any of the names so coach pointed to a kid and said “hey, why don’t you ask him to tell you his name.” My DS was kind of rude and said “I don’t really care what his name is.” I think he just thought the game was silly. The coach got upset and made my DS dribble the ball around the soccer field once. Honestly this just upset my DS more and he was pretty mouthy the rest of the practice. I do not think the coach handled this way. My DS didn’t know a kids name, on the first day of practice, and then got embarrassed, so he said something stupid. DH thinks I should leave it alone, but the “running laps” As punishment thing is really bothering me. I didn’t think coaches still did that.

Your kid was really rude. It doesn't matter if he thought the game was silly, he shouldn't have talked back like that. Obviously the punishment didn't work since he was rude the rest of the practice but maybe after having to do it several times your kid will learn some respect.

Also, you defend your kid by saying he didn't know another kid's name on the first day of practice, but the coach was trying to help make that happen. Finally, your kid is EIGHT YEARS OLD. You think the game of learning other kids' names was babyish for that age? You and your kid sound very unpleasant, to be honest. I can only imagine what the other parents thought.

Exactly. This the first practice and the kid is already mouthing off to the coach. Yikes! If I watched this happen and the coach did nothing, I would have serious doubts about his ability to manage the team. The coach did what he was supposed to do. He’s showing those boys that there are consequences to inappropriate behavior.

As a bystander parent, I would be glad that the coach is holding the boys to a reasonable standard. (Honestly, asking the kids to be respectful doesn’t even count as a high standard - it’s the bare minimum. Teach your kid manners OP - and his coach won’t have to do your job for you.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS 8 had his first soccer practice last night on a new team. The coach was playing some game trying to help the kids learn each other names. Like kick the ball and say their name. I’ll admit it was a little bit babyish. My DS couldn’t remember any of the names so coach pointed to a kid and said “hey, why don’t you ask him to tell you his name.” My DS was kind of rude and said “I don’t really care what his name is.” I think he just thought the game was silly. The coach got upset and made my DS dribble the ball around the soccer field once. Honestly this just upset my DS more and he was pretty mouthy the rest of the practice. I do not think the coach handled this way. My DS didn’t know a kids name, on the first day of practice, and then got embarrassed, so he said something stupid. DH thinks I should leave it alone, but the “running laps” As punishment thing is really bothering me. I didn’t think coaches still did that.

Ive only heard your side and your child sounds like a huge brat. You sound like a terrible mother for refusing to parent your child and getting upset that his coach didn’t accept your child’s rude behavior.

Please quit.

People like you and your son ruin it for everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS 8 had his first soccer practice last night on a new team. The coach was playing some game trying to help the kids learn each other names. Like kick the ball and say their name. I’ll admit it was a little bit babyish. My DS couldn’t remember any of the names so coach pointed to a kid and said “hey, why don’t you ask him to tell you his name.” My DS was kind of rude and said “I don’t really care what his name is.” I think he just thought the game was silly. The coach got upset and made my DS dribble the ball around the soccer field once. Honestly this just upset my DS more and he was pretty mouthy the rest of the practice. I do not think the coach handled this way. My DS didn’t know a kids name, on the first day of practice, and then got embarrassed, so he said something stupid. DH thinks I should leave it alone, but the “running laps” As punishment thing is really bothering me. I didn’t think coaches still did that.

Long time coach here. Ice breakers like this to learn your teammates names are common, even at that (young) age. Why wouldn't you want to know who you play with? What your kid did was rude and disrespectful to both the coach and his new teammate.

TBH he sound like a brat who is going to be a nightmare, and so do you. Kids and parents like you are what make coaches want to quit. Fortunately there are (usually) enough good kids to make up for it. But it can really hurt a team and destroy morale over time.

[Anonymous]

Your kid is obnoxious and its completely appropriate plus a punishment at home. I'd be really upset if my child said that.

[Anonymous]

I guess I’m in the minority. Kids this age say stupid stuff. When my kids make comments like this, I just ignore because I know it’s developmentally appropriate. Plus, my children are allowed to think things are silly, or not fun. I do not expect them to just comply because an adult is telling them to do something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess I’m in the minority. Kids this age say stupid stuff. When my kids make comments like this, I just ignore because I know it’s developmentally appropriate. Plus, my children are allowed to think things are silly, or not fun. I do not expect them to just comply because an adult is telling them to do something.

We played the same game on my first day of grad school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess I’m in the minority. Kids this age say stupid stuff. When my kids make comments like this, I just ignore because I know it’s developmentally appropriate. Plus, my children are allowed to think things are silly, or not fun. I do not expect them to just comply because an adult is telling them to do something.

This has to be a troll. Are you 8?

[Anonymous]

I am a woman and played basketball for years. Running laps was a common punishment. A great one.

[Anonymous]

Eh, running laps is pretty old school but is not a bad punishment. I bet your kid was pretty embarrassed about he correction and punishment, but obviously not enough to stop being mouthy so seems like a good sign he has a bad attitude. You need to talk to your kid. He was disrespectful and even though I don't think the coach sounds stellar, he doesn't sound like he was in the wrong either. Running laps is good for your kid's health, if not his bad attitude. Bad attitude is bad for the team.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess I’m in the minority. Kids this age say stupid stuff. When my kids make comments like this, I just ignore because I know it’s developmentally appropriate. Plus, my children are allowed to think things are silly, or not fun. I do not expect them to just comply because an adult is telling them to do something.

I mean...all people are allowed to think things are silly or not fun. Some of life’s greatest lessons are:

1) You don’t need to express your every thought
2) Be kind

Her kid failed both of those. Would you ignore if your kid told another kid on his team he didn’t care what his name was? I’m ok with a lot of stuff, but telling someone you don’t care what their name is during a team icebreaker is just...not ok. And then to keep talking the whole practice? And why inflict youR kid on the unpaid coach if you don’t expect them to participate and be civil? WTF?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess I’m in the minority. Kids this age say stupid stuff. When my kids make comments like this, I just ignore because I know it’s developmentally appropriate. Plus, my children are allowed to think things are silly, or not fun. I do not expect them to just comply because an adult is telling them to do something.

What?!?

You don’t ignore something because it’s developmentally appropriate. You do something to correct it so they learn from their mistake.

That’s like saying it’s developmentally appropriate for a 2 year old to run out into the street so I just ignore it. I mean c’mon!