Do you want your DC to be tall? And why?

[Anonymous]

My daughter was adopted and we know her birth parents are short. She’s currently 12 and 4’10”. She hasn’t gotten her period yet so she’s hoping she can make it to at least 5’ as an adult. I did one of those height projectors and it said she was going to be 5’2”, which is respectable given her genetics. So hoping she’s tall isn’t in the cards but she hopes she gets to at least 5’2”.

My bio son is 10 and he’s 5’ at the moment. He’s supposed to be 6’1”. It’ll be weird when he’s my height or taller.

DH is 6’1” and I’m 5’3”.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yee, I'd prefer my son to be around 6 feet. I believe that as a collective whole, taller men are more successful in all aspects of life than shorter men. Of course, I want my son to be successful.

I don't care about my daughter. I don't believe that height is correlated to success in women.

Of course I realize all of this is out of my control.

i've read it somewhere going to bed early/not staying up late during growth years makes a not insignificant difference.

I've read this too. If you want your children to reach their full height potential, make sure they get enough sleep. Also, do not drink caffeinated beverages (which may impair sleep) and drink milk.

https://kidshealth.org/en/teens/sleep-growth.html
https://www.ketv.com/article/can-milk-make-you-taller/7128495

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes life is easier for tall people. You tend to look better and are more likely to be treated with respect.

+1

5’7 female here. Being tall is an advantage for boys, but I always got unfairly screwed because of it.

I’m young though. Tall women older than me often say that they used to hate it, and now love it.

I dont really think a 5'7" woman is tall. I'm 5'9" and what I would call tall-ish, I think tall for women is over 5"10. isnt' 5'5" average? To me 5'3" to 5'7" feels average, middle of the bell curve

What you said, in itself, is not a problem, but the moment chosen was quite catty. I know my story, and your dismissive passive aggression was uncalled for.

[Anonymous]

I'm 5'11" (F) and my husband is 5'8". I was 5"11" when I was 12 and all of 110 lbs, it was not fun. And no, I had no eating issues, it was just the way I was. I have a small frame and could eat whatever I wanted until my mid 40s. I have 2 children that are now adults, 34 and 39. The girl ended up being 5'2" and the boy 6'3". I guess it's good that they ended up that way but truthfully, I never thought about how tall they would end up being.

[Anonymous]

If I could choose a height for her, yes, she would be tall. If she could choose a height for herself, she would choose to be tall. But, she has terrible genetics on both sides, and would be lucky to break 5'. I'd be ecstatic if she ended up any taller than that.

As for why, it's hard to be taken seriously, when you lack a physical presence. TBH, shorter women have to be considerably more assertive to make themselves heard, which then of course gets you labeled as aggressive/bitchy. Clothes shopping is a nightmare, as pants especially, have to be altered to fit. There are very few sports where being short is an advantage. One of the few positives I've been able to glean so far, is that people always underestimate how old you are.

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Anonymous wrote:Yee, I'd prefer my son to be around 6 feet. I believe that as a collective whole, taller men are more successful in all aspects of life than shorter men. Of course, I want my son to be successful.

I don't care about my daughter. I don't believe that height is correlated to success in women.

Of course I realize all of this is out of my control.

i've read it somewhere going to bed early/not staying up late during growth years makes a not insignificant difference.

My 14 year old son is 6'1 and goes to sleep around midnight/1 am on a good day. 1 to 3 am on a meh day and 5 am on a bad day.

DP. How tall are you and your DH? Just curious.

I'm just shy of 5'7, dh shy of 6"0. We don't know of any especially tall people on either side of the family. I suspect he will taper off soon as his rate of growth has been slowing lately.

Thanks! You are a taller mom so it makes sense your ds will be pretty tall.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes life is easier for tall people. You tend to look better and are more likely to be treated with respect.

+1

5’7 female here. Being tall is an advantage for boys, but I always got unfairly screwed because of it.

I’m young though. Tall women older than me often say that they used to hate it, and now love it.

I dont really think a 5'7" woman is tall. I'm 5'9" and what I would call tall-ish, I think tall for women is over 5"10. isnt' 5'5" average? To me 5'3" to 5'7" feels average, middle of the bell curve

What you said, in itself, is not a problem, but the moment chosen was quite catty. I know my story, and your dismissive passive aggression was uncalled for.

Huh? Passive aggressive? I'm not saying you didn't experience whatever you are being cryptic about, I'm saying it is interesting that you experienced negativity around "being tall" when you, objectively, are not that tall compared to the rest of the population. I have no aggression toward you at all, nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I could choose a height for her, yes, she would be tall. If she could choose a height for herself, she would choose to be tall. But, she has terrible genetics on both sides, and would be lucky to break 5'. I'd be ecstatic if she ended up any taller than that.

As for why, it's hard to be taken seriously, when you lack a physical presence. TBH, shorter women have to be considerably more assertive to make themselves heard, which then of course gets you labeled as aggressive/bitchy. Clothes shopping is a nightmare, as pants especially, have to be altered to fit. There are very few sports where being short is an advantage. One of the few positives I've been able to glean so far, is that people always underestimate how old you are.

My 19 yo dd who is short but not insanely so (she’s 5”2) is constantly mistaken for being 12-13. She is not curvy at all though. She doesn’t dress in glitter clothes with unicorns on them but she chooses not to wear revealing stuff either!

[Anonymous]

I'm a tall woman, and it's fine unless you are looking for a boyfriend / husband.
Would want a son to be tall, but there is still a definite preference for average or short women in society.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess OP has never read the stats regarding the advantage height gives you in life.

For men it is particularly important. Many women do not want to even date short men. My minimum requirement was 6'. I married 6'3"

I'm 5'10" and I could never get a guy who was 6 feet or over to even look at me. My dh is 5'6".

I found that being a taller women is great at work when I working in an office with more men.

[Anonymous]

I would prefer it, but I doubt it will happen. My 13 yo DS is short and chubby like me. At least it's forcing him to develop a dynamite sense of humor.

[Anonymous]

I'm 5'5" and my husband is 5'7"

I hope our son grow to be over 5'7" I don't imagine he will make it to 6' but that's ok.

My husband grew up in a poor country so I'm hoping better medical care, nutrition, less stress allow for our son to have a higher growth potential.

[Anonymous]

5' 0" with three girls. Hope to god they make it to over 5'3". My height is a problem EVERY SINGLE DAY because the typical height at which they hang kitchen cabinets means I can't reach further than the bottom shelf. I can't chop things on the counter or stir things on the stove for a long time without having to lift my shoulder above a comfortable height, and over time I've developed repetitive stress injury from other similar tasks. And I can't reach the top shelf in most grocery stores, I often have to ask random strangers to get things down for me.

Being short is literally a pain, so yes, I hope my kids are taller! At least close to average height!

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Anonymous wrote:Yee, I'd prefer my son to be around 6 feet. I believe that as a collective whole, taller men are more successful in all aspects of life than shorter men. Of course, I want my son to be successful.

I don't care about my daughter. I don't believe that height is correlated to success in women.

Of course I realize all of this is out of my control.

i've read it somewhere going to bed early/not staying up late during growth years makes a not insignificant difference.

My 14 year old son is 6'1 and goes to sleep around midnight/1 am on a good day. 1 to 3 am on a meh day and 5 am on a bad day.

since before puberty? and even when there's school? that's pretty unusual pattern.

[Anonymous]

For men it is particularly important. Many women do not want to even date short men. My minimum requirement was 6'. I married 6'3"

This comes across as so so shallow. You had a “minimum requirement” for height? I would love to see you other requirements. Also, you didn’t marry 6’3”. You married a person, but I’m sure he would live being reduced to a statistic. Gross.