Is TTC much harder in late 30s than in mid 30s?

[Anonymous]

OP, the realities of interracial adoption and the expense can all sound like insignificant issues but it's something you should really look into closely before saying we'll wait, it will be fine. I felt the same as you (and we were able to concieve at 37, luckily) but I know several families who have adopted and after seeing their experiences, there can be some real and serious issues with neuro problems, attachment issues, your kids being subject to racism, even within your family/friend group, etc. It's not enough to feel liberal about all of it, and I don't mean that as a slam at you OP. Infertility can be also devastating. If you know you want to be parents, maybe explore ways to start that process sooner rather than later, rather than waiting for some "perfect" time in the future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"That's ONE study..there are more. In contast, what evidence do you have to support your statement that ALL women over 40 have diminished fertility --besides your own experience or those of your girlfriends? "

LMAO!

You're right, I should rely on random Google searches for my medical information rather than reading randomized studies and books written by M.D.s.

Those posters who posted from "random Google searches" have actually provided evidence of studies. Have you? Gee, that would be a no. Care to identify any of your mythic "randomized studies and books written by MDs"? Thought not.

[Anonymous]

OP here.

Thank you all for the thoughtful replies! I am surprised that this thread is still going. I sincerely thank you, especially those who shared their personal experiences.

We've decided to just go ahead and TTC now. During the week, I talked to a couple of parents that I know well and are in my profession. Neither of them think that this is a bad time (career-wise) for me to have a child. In fact, they both said that it wouldn't be any easier from a professional standpoint two years from now. My husband is supportive and his career offers a lot of flexibility. We can easily afford a nanny. DH is a great guy and I have no doubt that he will continue to due his share and more at home, as he always has.

I have thyoid issues and will go see my endo to make sure things are ok.

Good luck to everyone!

[Anonymous]

That's wonderful OP....Good luck to you!!!