Would you date/marry a vegan/vegetarian?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Beer, donuts, French fries — healthy vegan food, yay!

I will not date vegans because they are too weak and listless to keep up with me.

i have a friend I met in 1986 who was a vegan until a few years ago. He was always overweight, then got diabetes and had a heart attack by 50. He's lost some weight now that he is not a vegan anymore. But he looks terrible.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was a vegan (and had been for 5 years) when DH and I married. For various personal reasons I’m not a vegan anymore.

Really glad he didn’t reject me over something so minor!

Being a Vegan isn’t “minor”. I dated one picky eater a long time ago and would never choose to do it again.

Oh yes, it is minor. I’ve been with my DH for over 15 years, we have three kids, and we’ve been through our fair share of ups and downs in life. Eating habits are minor - as long as each respects the others’ preferences.

Everyone who replied to this thread should have added whether or not they are happily married and for how long, because I question how someone could endure life’s ups and downs with a partner if they’re so willing to eliminate someone based on veganism.

It might be minor for you, but the responses here show it’s not minor for everyone. Dating a picky eater sucks for people who enjoy or care about food. Sounds like your family doesn’t really care about food if you consider it a minor part of your life, so it works for you. As someone who loves to cook and eat all kinds of foods and finds enjoyment from sharing the experience, I wouldn’t be compatible with any kind of picky eater (which includes Vegans). I also couldn’t date or marry a smoker, but for some, they don’t care. I’ve been very happily married for almost exactly 10 years.

[Anonymous]

Ugh. I have wheat and milk allergies, and a couple others, and I know I am a pain in the ass. I try not to make a big deal about it. I wish I could eat everything!!!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was a vegan (and had been for 5 years) when DH and I married. For various personal reasons I’m not a vegan anymore.

Really glad he didn’t reject me over something so minor!

Being a Vegan isn’t “minor”. I dated one picky eater a long time ago and would never choose to do it again.

Oh yes, it is minor. I’ve been with my DH for over 15 years, we have three kids, and we’ve been through our fair share of ups and downs in life. Eating habits are minor - as long as each respects the others’ preferences.

Everyone who replied to this thread should have added whether or not they are happily married and for how long, because I question how someone could endure life’s ups and downs with a partner if they’re so willing to eliminate someone based on veganism.

+1. Anyone who sees veganism as the same as being a "picky eater" (which comes with connotations of whining and demanding) has never really interacted with vegans -- at least not beyond the superficial.

Anyone with a super strict diet by choice is just a sanctimonious picky eater.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was a vegan (and had been for 5 years) when DH and I married. For various personal reasons I’m not a vegan anymore.

Really glad he didn’t reject me over something so minor!

Being a Vegan isn’t “minor”. I dated one picky eater a long time ago and would never choose to do it again.

Oh yes, it is minor. I’ve been with my DH for over 15 years, we have three kids, and we’ve been through our fair share of ups and downs in life. Eating habits are minor - as long as each respects the others’ preferences.

Everyone who replied to this thread should have added whether or not they are happily married and for how long, because I question how someone could endure life’s ups and downs with a partner if they’re so willing to eliminate someone based on veganism.

This. Prior to meeting my vegan DW, I was Mr. "meals are sacred because they are about people sharing the same thing" Foodie. Yes, her veganism takes some restaurants and food experiences off the table, but not nearly as many as most people think. People hear that I have a vegan spouse and are all, "how can you deal with it?!?!?" but she has never tried to "convert" me and after 10 years, it's just not on the radar screen anymore. Dinner is usually vegetable-focused and vegan, and then I frequently add a meat protein and some cheese for myself. It's really not that big a deal, and frankly meals are more interesting and creative as we try to find ways to explore cuisines and flavors in vegetarian ways. And I'm totally with you, PP, life has so many ups and downs, the idea that this would have been the deal-breaker to me -- and early in our relationship I thought it might be -- now seems so childish compared to the !*&% we've been through.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was a vegan (and had been for 5 years) when DH and I married. For various personal reasons I’m not a vegan anymore.

Really glad he didn’t reject me over something so minor!

Being a Vegan isn’t “minor”. I dated one picky eater a long time ago and would never choose to do it again.

Oh yes, it is minor. I’ve been with my DH for over 15 years, we have three kids, and we’ve been through our fair share of ups and downs in life. Eating habits are minor - as long as each respects the others’ preferences.

Everyone who replied to this thread should have added whether or not they are happily married and for how long, because I question how someone could endure life’s ups and downs with a partner if they’re so willing to eliminate someone based on veganism.

+1. Anyone who sees veganism as the same as being a "picky eater" (which comes with connotations of whining and demanding) has never really interacted with vegans -- at least not beyond the superficial.

Anyone with a super strict diet by choice is just a sanctimonious picky eater.

I might be with you on the "super strict diet by choice" part but where did that come from? Projecting much?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was a vegan (and had been for 5 years) when DH and I married. For various personal reasons I’m not a vegan anymore.

Really glad he didn’t reject me over something so minor!

Being a Vegan isn’t “minor”. I dated one picky eater a long time ago and would never choose to do it again.

Oh yes, it is minor. I’ve been with my DH for over 15 years, we have three kids, and we’ve been through our fair share of ups and downs in life. Eating habits are minor - as long as each respects the others’ preferences.

Everyone who replied to this thread should have added whether or not they are happily married and for how long, because I question how someone could endure life’s ups and downs with a partner if they’re so willing to eliminate someone based on veganism.

+1. Anyone who sees veganism as the same as being a "picky eater" (which comes with connotations of whining and demanding) has never really interacted with vegans -- at least not beyond the superficial.

Anyone with a super strict diet by choice is just a sanctimonious picky eater.

I might be with you on the "super strict diet by choice" part but where did that come from? Projecting much?

It came from the English language. Sanc·ti·mo·ni·ous: making a show of being morally superior to other people.

[Anonymous]

Vegetarian, vegan, sapiosexual, demisexual, pescatarian, taking astrology seriously, anything about chakras — these are all red flags that mean “I am a weirdo pain in the ass”

[Anonymous]

My husband did. I’m a lifelong vegetarian but I will cook all types of food for my family. It’s never been a issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was a vegan (and had been for 5 years) when DH and I married. For various personal reasons I’m not a vegan anymore.

Really glad he didn’t reject me over something so minor!

Being a Vegan isn’t “minor”. I dated one picky eater a long time ago and would never choose to do it again.

Oh yes, it is minor. I’ve been with my DH for over 15 years, we have three kids, and we’ve been through our fair share of ups and downs in life. Eating habits are minor - as long as each respects the others’ preferences.

Everyone who replied to this thread should have added whether or not they are happily married and for how long, because I question how someone could endure life’s ups and downs with a partner if they’re so willing to eliminate someone based on veganism.

This. Prior to meeting my vegan DW, I was Mr. "meals are sacred because they are about people sharing the same thing" Foodie. Yes, her veganism takes some restaurants and food experiences off the table, but not nearly as many as most people think. People hear that I have a vegan spouse and are all, "how can you deal with it?!?!?" but she has never tried to "convert" me and after 10 years, it's just not on the radar screen anymore. Dinner is usually vegetable-focused and vegan, and then I frequently add a meat protein and some cheese for myself. It's really not that big a deal, and frankly meals are more interesting and creative as we try to find ways to explore cuisines and flavors in vegetarian ways. And I'm totally with you, PP, life has so many ups and downs, the idea that this would have been the deal-breaker to me -- and early in our relationship I thought it might be -- now seems so childish compared to the !*&% we've been through.

Yup. Exactly.

[Anonymous]

I’m a vegetarian. This doesn’t make me “picky”. Nobody would describe me as “high maintenance. My DH andtwo kids are carnivores and that’s fine by me. I regularly cook them meat dishes — tonight they ate taco pie with ground beef while I paired some vegetarian soup over rice for myself.

[Anonymous]

^^ poured, not paired

[Anonymous]

I went out with a guy for a bit and he never ate a carb in front of me, but we never once discussed it. Perfect way to handle it.

[Anonymous]

Just because someone is a picky eater or has a strict diet, doesn’t mean they’re sanctimonious, unless they try to impose their choices on others or condemn others for making other choices.

[Anonymous]

Vegetarian, no problem. Vegan....eh? I used to be vegetarian and think that is fairly flexible, but I hesitate on vegan. I like to travel and go out to restaurants all the time (pre-Covid) and I think a vegan would really limit options and experiences, so it's far from ideal.