Can't stop thinking about children in unsafe homes

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think about all the kids who are getting screamed at or worse because their parents are incredibly stressed (rightly so) from being out of work and maybe spending hours everyday trying to deal with unemployment/small business loan/etc.

Children have been raised by parents for 1000's of years. It is only the last couple hundred of years ago that children have had 12 years of schooling.

You people are so out of touch. No parents were never working full time and caring for young kids. Women either didn’t work or grandparents pitched in. It’s not humanly possible to care for infants while teleworking nonstop. I feel like a bunch of SAHMs wrote this drivel

Umm, no. I'm a SAHM and there is a reason why I chose to SAH. The issue now is that working parents are being forced to do both and it is killing them - especially the ones with responsible positions and lots of extra work due to this COVID-19 stuff, this dynamic is not of their choosing, it's been forced upon them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think about all the kids who are getting screamed at or worse because their parents are incredibly stressed (rightly so) from being out of work and maybe spending hours everyday trying to deal with unemployment/small business loan/etc.

Children have been raised by parents for 1000's of years. It is only the last couple hundred of years ago that children have had 12 years of schooling.

You people are so out of touch. No parents were never working full time and caring for young kids. Women either didn’t work or grandparents pitched in. It’s not humanly possible to care for infants while teleworking nonstop. I feel like a bunch of SAHMs wrote this drivel

Umm, no. I'm a SAHM and there is a reason why I chose to SAH. The issue now is that working parents are being forced to do both and it is killing them - especially the ones with responsible positions and lots of extra work due to this COVID-19 stuff, this dynamic is not of their choosing, it's been forced upon them.

Ok great. A lot of us would need to go back to college for us or our spouse to earn enough as a single working parent. How about just opening daycares??

[Anonymous]

I’m sure there are quite a few 5-10 year olds staying home alone because there is no daycare or school. Particularly the low income kids.

I feel like everything needed to be shut down or it should remain open. You can’t have this awful mess of people working and teleworking without childcare or schools.

[Anonymous]

Last week, we started adding the words “deeply concerned” and “counselor home visits” to our emails to students we hadn’t seen since school shut. Our no show/no contact list suddenly dropped by 85%. Students are showing up telling us that they just tuned out, were babysitting siblings and little cousins or even working. So many were working full time (under the table, of course) delivering food. There was only one student we found with a CPS-worthy situation: the girl and her mom were briefly homeless when the mom fled the abusive dad. They were unhoused for three nights sleeping in the mom’s car. They were in an apartment by the fourth night but the district-issued devices were left behind with dad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So on the flip side, what’s the solution? I’m not abusive but I’m way way past my breaking point. My kids are not doing well, I’m not doing well and we spend most of the day crying. Work has us working longer hours than normal and my kids are all under 5. We rented my parents an apartment near by and they came to help us. They come for like an hour or two a day. They trash the house and amp up the kids and then it’s even more work for dh and I. We are still paying a nanny who won’t come. I’ve never felt a rage like this before but I pretty much have to run away from my kids nonstop. I want to spank them for no reason and would love to just scream and scream. I’m on a high dose of antidepressants so no help there.

I just don’t get how everyone thinks we can just keep going working nonstop without daycare? I’m so done and just want to run away.

Stop paying the nanny who won’t come. It’s different if she wants to come, but you don’t want her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think about all the kids who are getting screamed at or worse because their parents are incredibly stressed (rightly so) from being out of work and maybe spending hours everyday trying to deal with unemployment/small business loan/etc.

Children have been raised by parents for 1000's of years. It is only the last couple hundred of years ago that children have had 12 years of schooling.

You people are so out of touch. No parents were never working full time and caring for young kids. Women either didn’t work or grandparents pitched in. It’s not humanly possible to care for infants while teleworking nonstop. I feel like a bunch of SAHMs wrote this drivel

Umm, no. I'm a SAHM and there is a reason why I chose to SAH. The issue now is that working parents are being forced to do both and it is killing them - especially the ones with responsible positions and lots of extra work due to this COVID-19 stuff, this dynamic is not of their choosing, it's been forced upon them.

Ok great. A lot of us would need to go back to college for us or our spouse to earn enough as a single working parent. How about just opening daycares??

Right. I think that everything should reopen. That is my opinion. But reopening only daycares makes little to no sense. If this is really about preventing the spread of the virus then reopening daycares would be unwise. If, however, there is reason to believe that the peak season is past us (and I think that it is) then we should be pretty safe to going back to the life we had before this craziness.