Did anyone else NOT see extended family today?

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I didn’t see a single post like this on social media. My friends list spans the country and world but is mostly concentrated in the south where I grew up. Even there, where many things are reopening, my own family and friends (who are mostly in Tennessee, Georgia, and Louisiana) are still staying away from others as much as possible. Because they are not selfish idiots...

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Anonymous wrote:Of course we didn't. We're not selfish a-holes like most people apparently are.

Your arm must be exhausted from patting yourself on the back. You found an excuse to not visit your parents and grandparents. Yay, you! I'll bet they feel so loved.....

Yep. The excuse was I don't want them to die.

You really don’t have a firm grasp on statistics, do you?

You don’t seem very smart. There’s a pandemic. My parents are elderly. I have young children who could be asymptomatic. I go to the grocery store and DH has to go into the office every now and then. This thing is spreading like wildfire despite social distancing. My parents weren’t comfortable with me coming to their home anyway and neither was I. Is that strange? Are you all really hanging out with your elderly parents? Presumably the CDC is better at statistics than you, PP, and they are recommending against this. Why are you so mad that your fellow citizens are doing their part? Are you feeling bad about your inability to follow guidelines for the greater good?

Visiting your parents outside at a reasonable distance is not dangerous. Ignoring your parents and having them live in isolation is cruel. I can not imagine denying them the ability to see and know their grandchildren.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn’t see a single post like this on social media. My friends list spans the country and world but is mostly concentrated in the south where I grew up. Even there, where many things are reopening, my own family and friends (who are mostly in Tennessee, Georgia, and Louisiana) are still staying away from others as much as possible. Because they are not selfish idiots...

+1. Didn’t see any posts like that either. Because people I’m friends with actually care about their loved ones and don’t want to spread this to them.

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Anonymous wrote:Of course we didn't. We're not selfish a-holes like most people apparently are.

Your arm must be exhausted from patting yourself on the back. You found an excuse to not visit your parents and grandparents. Yay, you! I'll bet they feel so loved.....

PP and many like her prefer being socially distant as a general way of life.

LOL, me staying away from my at-risk parents during a pandemic means I’m cold and uncaring? Well now, don’t we have different views of the world. In case you’re curious, I think people who would visit elderly people during this time are selfish pricks with no grasp on reality and the self control of a 4 year old. It hasn’t been that long.

My elderly parents are at far greater risk of dying suddenly from any number of things other than Covid. If that were to happen I’d feel pretty terrible about not having attempted to see them in person for how long... til there’s a vaccine? Is that when you’ll feel comfortable seeing them again? I don’t think I’m a selfish prick for sitting outside with my parents for an hour on a beautiful sunny day. They wanted us to come and were so happy to see us.

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Anonymous wrote:Of course we didn't. We're not selfish a-holes like most people apparently are.

Your arm must be exhausted from patting yourself on the back. You found an excuse to not visit your parents and grandparents. Yay, you! I'll bet they feel so loved.....

Yep. The excuse was I don't want them to die.

You really don’t have a firm grasp on statistics, do you?

You don’t seem very smart. There’s a pandemic. My parents are elderly. I have young children who could be asymptomatic. I go to the grocery store and DH has to go into the office every now and then. This thing is spreading like wildfire despite social distancing. My parents weren’t comfortable with me coming to their home anyway and neither was I. Is that strange? Are you all really hanging out with your elderly parents? Presumably the CDC is better at statistics than you, PP, and they are recommending against this. Why are you so mad that your fellow citizens are doing their part? Are you feeling bad about your inability to follow guidelines for the greater good?

Visiting your parents outside at a reasonable distance is not dangerous. Ignoring your parents and having them live in isolation is cruel. I can not imagine denying them the ability to see and know their grandchildren.

This has been going on two months. It is not denying people the chance to know their grandchildren unless their grandchildren were just born within the past two months and even then this will not be forever. Visiting outside at a reasonable distance is probably ok. Hugging, kissing, going to a restaurant...not ok. Why take that risk during a pandemic?

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My in laws have not been socially distancing with each other so they had everyone over but we didn’t attend since I’m high risk

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Anonymous wrote:This whole thing has gotten so extremely out of hand. We are weeks past the peak and most of our areas never saw that many people getting seriously sick anyway.

I saw my mom today. We had a nice family get together (less than 9 of us), outside. None of us feel ill or have been around ill people. We didn't hug each other and maintained a reasonable distance.

At this point the chances of Mom getting sick with the Coronavirus from a visit like this is pretty much slim to none. We broke no rules, we used proper caution and we had fun, too.

What area do you think is weeks past the peak? If you look at actual data for DMV... we are still at the peak. More of a plateau, per se

Thank you! DMV has some of the highest rates and not yet declining! Why do people think they're safer NOW, with tens of thousands of cases in the area, than in late March, when there were hundreds?

And "none of us feel ill or have been around ill people." FFS. When they test closed groups (like cruise ships), the MAJORITY of COVID carriers are asymptomatic.

You understand that those of us who spent time with our moms were not taking them onto crowded cruise ships. Even those who took their moms out for a Mother's Day brunch or dinner were not going into crowded restaurants. The restaurants that are open all have strict limits in place to keep their customers as safe as is humanly possible.

Most of us who saw our parents did so from outside and from a good distance apart - no hugging, just visiting. If you truly think that this was in anyway dangerous then you need to get treatment for your major anxiety disorder. The sooner the better.

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I dropped dinner off at my mothers but didn’t see my kids or grandkids except on FaceTime. Far from an ideal Mother’s Day.

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Anonymous wrote:My ILs are in their 80s and somewhat frail, but still independent. We have been doing patio visits where we sit outside and them inside, while talking on speakerphone. We did that today and it was nice.

Yes, we did a version of this as well, dropping off a huge fancy takeout dinner that will offer several meals to my widowed MIL.

When I mentioned doing this at Easter, some DCUM beotches claimed we had just killed Grandma to get her inheritance.

People are nuts.

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Anonymous wrote:Of course we didn't. We're not selfish a-holes like most people apparently are.

Your arm must be exhausted from patting yourself on the back. You found an excuse to not visit your parents and grandparents. Yay, you! I'll bet they feel so loved.....

Yep. The excuse was I don't want them to die.

You really don’t have a firm grasp on statistics, do you?

You don’t seem very smart. There’s a pandemic. My parents are elderly. I have young children who could be asymptomatic. I go to the grocery store and DH has to go into the office every now and then. This thing is spreading like wildfire despite social distancing. My parents weren’t comfortable with me coming to their home anyway and neither was I. Is that strange? Are you all really hanging out with your elderly parents? Presumably the CDC is better at statistics than you, PP, and they are recommending against this. Why are you so mad that your fellow citizens are doing their part? Are you feeling bad about your inability to follow guidelines for the greater good?

I am following social distance guidelines. Of course the CDC will recommend staying at home. But once again, statistically the risk is very very VERY low. Your dramatics about not wanting your parents to die show me that you really don’t grasp that.

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Anonymous wrote:I dropped dinner off at my mothers but didn’t see my kids or grandkids except on FaceTime. Far from an ideal Mother’s Day.

Is this because you are sincerely too terrified to see your kids/grandchildren outside and in person or is it because you are afraid of what the neighbor's will think if you dare to do so?

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I saw photos on FB. They were either older photos or photos where the family was sitting/standing 6 feet apart. But it won't surprise me if many people got together yesterday.

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Anonymous wrote:My ILs are in their 80s and somewhat frail, but still independent. We have been doing patio visits where we sit outside and them inside, while talking on speakerphone. We did that today and it was nice.

Yes, we did a version of this as well, dropping off a huge fancy takeout dinner that will offer several meals to my widowed MIL.

When I mentioned doing this at Easter, some DCUM beotches claimed we had just killed Grandma to get her inheritance.

People are nuts.

Agreed. People are either crazy and stupid or they are lowlifes who think that ignoring and isolating old people is A-OKay. Either way they are just awful.

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Anonymous wrote:Of course we didn't. We're not selfish a-holes like most people apparently are.

Your arm must be exhausted from patting yourself on the back. You found an excuse to not visit your parents and grandparents. Yay, you! I'll bet they feel so loved.....

Yep. The excuse was I don't want them to die.

You really don’t have a firm grasp on statistics, do you?

You don’t seem very smart. There’s a pandemic. My parents are elderly. I have young children who could be asymptomatic. I go to the grocery store and DH has to go into the office every now and then. This thing is spreading like wildfire despite social distancing. My parents weren’t comfortable with me coming to their home anyway and neither was I. Is that strange? Are you all really hanging out with your elderly parents? Presumably the CDC is better at statistics than you, PP, and they are recommending against this. Why are you so mad that your fellow citizens are doing their part? Are you feeling bad about your inability to follow guidelines for the greater good?

I am following social distance guidelines. Of course the CDC will recommend staying at home. But once again, statistically the risk is very very VERY low. Your dramatics about not wanting your parents to die show me that you really don’t grasp that.

DP but the risk of dying from covid in my parents’ age group is 13.4% using case fatality rates for their age group so far. Yes, that assumes they could even get the virus from us (highly unlikely since we’ve been isolating ourselves well) but if they did manage to get the virus from us somehow, they’d have a 13.4% chance of dying from it...and an even higher chance of getting seriously ill. That is not a risk I’m willing to take.

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Anonymous wrote:I saw photos on FB. They were either older photos or photos where the family was sitting/standing 6 feet apart. But it won't surprise me if many people got together yesterday.

People aren't going to post photos of real get togethers because they don't want to risk the wrath of the Coronavirus police. Who the heck wants to be "contact traced"?