Middle of divorce and job loss

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, you sound like a user. You are only concerned about getting handouts from your ex husbamd or state run summer camps. Why are you entitled to all of this? His employer wont just add you to his insurance either. He has to make an effort and want that to happen. Employers dont like covering spouses and would prefer a spouse get insurance from their own employer. EVen if you delayed your divorce until a judge mandates that he has to add you to his insurance you really have no option. Courts aren't taking low priority cases now. It sounds like you need to focus on getting another job and/or navigating your options during this crises.

He could add her to the insurance but she'd lose it once the divorce is finalized. If that happens, she needs to chip in a portion of the insurance if it increases costs. However, she need to make a divorce plan. She expects everything from him and is going to end up spending a fortune on attorneys and not get much as she's asking for things from post separation. Even if a judge wants to order it, post divorce she cannot be on his insurance. She has to get her own insurance. He can only cover the kid.

[Anonymous]

From a financial perspective, delaying things and offering to reimburse him for the cost of adding you to his insurance could save you a significant amount of money vs. going on the exchanges depending on what his plan looks like. Not sure what, if anything, you'd have to offer him to make that happen but that's an option worth considering. It will probably be difficult for you to find another job given the state of the economy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about hit pause....no Judge is going to think your case is a priority right now. Your Ex pays child support so what is the rush? I’d concentrate on getting a new job. What is the precise dispute regarding separation date and how does that impact $$. What is an RSU?

my ex owns some company stock (restricted stock units). the dispute is whether he received them before or after separation date.

RSUs come with a very specific “grant” date. The before or after should be simple to solve so long as you have a clear separation date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about hit pause....no Judge is going to think your case is a priority right now. Your Ex pays child support so what is the rush? I’d concentrate on getting a new job. What is the precise dispute regarding separation date and how does that impact $$. What is an RSU?

my ex owns some company stock (restricted stock units). the dispute is whether he received them before or after separation date.

RSUs come with a very specific “grant” date. The before or after should be simple to solve so long as you have a clear separation date.

They have two clear separation dates. He took the job after the separation date so not entitled to either. They have the date he moved out and the date she filed.

[Anonymous]

May God help you and your son.
I'm very sorry for your son.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:From a financial perspective, delaying things and offering to reimburse him for the cost of adding you to his insurance could save you a significant amount of money vs. going on the exchanges depending on what his plan looks like. Not sure what, if anything, you'd have to offer him to make that happen but that's an option worth considering. It will probably be difficult for you to find another job given the state of the economy.

+1
Forget trying to value the RSU for now.