Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?

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Anonymous wrote:What you get for bragging about being a woman of leisure is that people now know you are a woman of leisure.

Oh lord. I likely would have said the same thing after my last little one went to school. There is nothing wrong with it.

+1. The people saying it was an obnoxious post have obviously never spent time as a stay at home parent. It is exhausting and 24/7. Nothing wrong with being excited to get a little time to yourself back.

I’m a SAHM of two. It IS exhausting and neither kid is in school yet. Occasionally I get my mom to take them both and I aimlessly shop at Target or HomeGoods OR if I can get my husband to do the drop off on his way to work then I stay home and sleep. Both options are glorious. I’m on FB all the time but NEVER would I make an obnoxious post bragging about my free time. At most I’d mention it directly to other SAHM friends at a later time who get how nice a middle of the day break is but it’s childish and silly to make a FB status about it. Clearly OP has learned this and left social media but I think she asked for it in this case and shouldn’t be petty to the neighbor. If neighbor dad lashed out on a non-bragging post (ex. if she posted something sentimental about sending her last little one off to school instead of bragging about lounging around and doing nothing and he still told her to go get a job) then I’d feel differently.

for real? Your husband drops your kids off so you can stay home and sleep? What about the working moms that drop their kid off and then go to work all day? You’re life is so hard!

[Anonymous]

I was SAH with one kid from age 0-2. At 18 months he started a part day program from 9-12 daily. It was amazing and having that time did wonders for my mental health. I’m not sure I would have put it on FB- not bc it’s wrong but bc I don’t need side eye from the patriarchy. Op, you’d be my hero if you told him no, with that clap back posted up thread. What an utterly inappropriate thing for him to say on FB, and tagging your spouse- sheesh. You reap what you sow.

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Charge him.
Tell him that you started a part time job watching other people's kids.
$30/hr sound reasonable?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Charge him.
Tell him that you started a part time job watching other people's kids.
$30/hr sound reasonable?

PREACH- put some visibility on that invisible labor.

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Anonymous wrote:Posting that was obnoxious. He responded in kind. You can either help out a neighbor who is a struggling single dad who doesn’t have additional help, or you can’t. That’s on you.

Agree. OP, your post was totally obnoxious. Are you really this obtuse? Your post was just asking for a negative response and your neighbor jokingly called you on it. The reason you are so jacked up is because deep down you know it was a stupid and obnoxious thing to do and you hate that he called you out in front of DH. You are lashing out in anger instead of learning a lesson. So many equally mean-spirited, immature, insecure women on this thread egging you on to keep acting like a spoiled child. Y'all need to grow up.

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Anonymous wrote:I was SAH with one kid from age 0-2. At 18 months he started a part day program from 9-12 daily. It was amazing and having that time did wonders for my mental health. I’m not sure I would have put it on FB- not bc it’s wrong but bc I don’t need side eye from the patriarchy. Op, you’d be my hero if you told him no, with that clap back posted up thread. What an utterly inappropriate thing for him to say on FB, and tagging your spouse- sheesh. You reap what you sow.

OP is the one reaping what she's sown. Maybe don't post your every thought on social media like a teenager.

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This seems to petty. I guess it’s good you deleted your account, sounds like inane social media stuff sends you into a tailspin.

No one seems to be asking this question: what is this guy like normally? Nice? A hole? I mean for real, that seems way more telling than a comment he made two months ago. Some ppl are social awkward and put their foot in their mouth (especially via text vs in person) , you shouldn’t judge people on one interaction but the whole of your interactions.

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Anonymous wrote:I was SAH with one kid from age 0-2. At 18 months he started a part day program from 9-12 daily. It was amazing and having that time did wonders for my mental health. I’m not sure I would have put it on FB- not bc it’s wrong but bc I don’t need side eye from the patriarchy. Op, you’d be my hero if you told him no, with that clap back posted up thread. What an utterly inappropriate thing for him to say on FB, and tagging your spouse- sheesh. You reap what you sow.

OP is the one reaping what she's sown. Maybe don't post your every thought on social media like a teenager.

What exactly is wrong with the op posting that she likes peace and quiet while her kid is at preschool?

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Anonymous wrote:If you are at all spiritual, it is lent and the season for repentance. I would do it as part of a greater sacrifice. It’s important to lighten each other’s loads

Totally agree. Try to see his post in a lighthearted way, forgive and move on.

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Anonymous wrote:I guess I am the I my one who got Bob’s sense of humor. He was joking. Just relax and be kind.

You aren't the only one. I agree he was likely joking to his friend and I personally wouldn't take it seriously.

-SAHM secure in my own choices

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Anonymous wrote:Posting that was obnoxious. He responded in kind. You can either help out a neighbor who is a struggling single dad who doesn’t have additional help, or you can’t. That’s on you.

Agree. OP, your post was totally obnoxious. Are you really this obtuse? Your post was just asking for a negative response and your neighbor jokingly called you on it. The reason you are so jacked up is because deep down you know it was a stupid and obnoxious thing to do and you hate that he called you out in front of DH. You are lashing out in anger instead of learning a lesson. So many equally mean-spirited, immature, insecure women on this thread egging you on to keep acting like a spoiled child. Y'all need to grow up.

Completely agree.

[Anonymous]

Did you all read the OP that it wasn’t just the one post? He “jabs her about it often”. That would be a firm no from me.

[Anonymous]

How is he contradicting himself? You are wondering if everyone else that you posted this to thinks it’s self serving and obnoxious. Spoiler: it is. And they do.

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Anonymous wrote:He asked a yes or no question. You have two ways to respond. Yes. Or. No.

This.
Also, stop musing on FB. It’s not your diary or journal.

I regret posting it and I’ve since deleted my account because I assessed my behavior and believe it’s desperate to post on FB. But he’s still a jerk who can’t stop wondering when I’m going to get a job.

I wonder when you are going to get a job too.

[Anonymous]

He is a jerk.

You are overreacting and overly sensitive.