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Is 40 old or not?
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Why do people feel the need to add statements like this? I liked the post until I read the last line. Signed, soon to be 44 and looking it |
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Yeah, I wonder how many people who are 40 truly pass for 30 (who are they asking? and who is really going to give them an honest opinion?) Why not just be happy with looking good for your age. |
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I don't think 40 is old (and never have) but I think 40 is too old for certain looks or behaviors or speech. Like if some 40-year-old is walking around using teenage expressions or dressing from H&M's trendiest stuff or hitting on 21-year-olds, I will probably think of that person as old and foolish. Very few 40-year-olds are naturally cool enough to make that stuff seem non-ridiculous. But I have quite a few friends in their 40's who are making 40 look really good. They are physically active and attractive, have interesting jobs and outside interests, and have good life stories.
I'm 37. I'll be 38 in a couple months. I'm a little freaked about turning 40 because I'm single - never-married, and "single and 40" seems kind of sad to me. there's a bit of a spinster connotation that makes me nervous. I'm also a little freaked because my mom got sick at 38 and died at 41 and that's messing with my head a little, the irrational fear that I might get sick too, or not live past 41. |
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I'm a new poster to this thread, although I have read it through. I don't see why people don't believe that there are people out there who look younger than their age. I'm 42 and while I would never pass for a thirty-year-old, I do pass for a thirty-five-year-old. Lifelong use of sunscreen means I have almost no wrinkles (and the one I have is a faint thin line only noticeable in some light), and I don't color my hair because I have yet to have any gray hairs. I am within 2-3 pounds of my pre-pregnancy weight. Also, I am not basing this assessment on friends' comments, but on other comments--for example, the mother from the playground (whom I didn't know) commiserating with me on turning 35 and asking how I was going to feel about it when it happened (this when it had happened five years prior!), or the mother in DD's preschool class who made some comment dating herself, and then said "but you probably don't remember that since you are so much younger" when in fact she is only a year older than me. There are tons of other remarks like that that I could cite to "prove" that I look a number of years younger than my true age, but I don't feel the need to further be on the defensive. Instead of (possibly enviously?) dismissing out of hand the possibility that some people do indeed pass for younger, why not accept what posters state at face value (no pun intended  )? Some people just look young.
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I agree. A friend who had the same birthday as me passed away at age 29. I think of her every time I have a birthday, and I'm glad I get to celebrate one more. When my mom's best friend turned 50, I asked my mom if her friend was upset about the big "5-0." My mom said oh no, she's thrilled since a few years before she thought she would be dead before 50. She's a breast cancer survivor. She doesn't see birthdays as a downer that she's a year older. She sees them as reasons to truly celebrate and be thankful she's still here. |
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I read an article recently (sorry- I know how little that's worth without the reference information, which I have forgotten) that claimed most people think they look 10 years younger than they actually look to objective observers. Just as some people certainly are luckier than others, so are some people more honest with themselves than others. |
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I agree. It really negates the how getting older is better argument. From 35 and looking every minute of it and then some. |
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| What I really hate is when I find out someone who looks "old-ish" is actually younger than me! It happens a lot because I always know my patient's DOB! |
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It's not just wrinkles and gray hair that are a sign of age. There's just something about one's face, even in people who look good, that is a sign of their age -- thinning of the face? not sure, it/s not necessarily tangible. I'm 36 and it's hard for me to judge how old I look; but when I compare my face to photos from 10 years ago, I definitely look older. Very few white women to me look much younger than their true age. Now for women with olive complexions or darker, I agree, those women can look even decades younger. I don't know your race so if you are white, you sound like an exception to the rule. In any case, I don't know why people really care that they look young. Just look good and feel good for your age and that's really all that matters. |
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genetics play a huge role. Women in my family were cursed wtih big cheeks (face) in our youth. However, now that I'm 'old'----thank goodness! My face looks better now since everyone's face thins when it ages. WE are also part Italian and the olive skin does not age as much. My grandmother seriously had almost no wrinkles. She used olive oil on her skin and although it did get crepey in her 80s she never had that wrinkled face. I hope I age like her. Being too thin as you age is not good for your face. |
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or maybe their eyesite just isn't as good . I don't wear my glasses when I look in the mirror. Prob. why I think I look 10 years younger than I do.
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I was asked by someone at a museum entrance on Tuesday if I was a student so he could give me the student discount.
I'll be 37 in three weeks. I almost kissed this man. |
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Women over 40 are seriously doing well in Hollywood---Sandra Bullock, Julia Roberts, Cate Blanchett, Halle Barry, Meryl Streep, Jennifer Aniston, Nicole Kidman, J-LO (and following on their heels CameronDiaz, etc)DrewBarrymore)....and
I love, love, LOVE 40-year old Gwen Stefani!!! She is cooler than any 20-year old by far!!! Let's hear it for the old ladies! |
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I continued to get carded at clubs LONG after my 21st bday....it's funny I still can't get over not getting carded at the grocery store anymore....which is absolutely ridiculous given that I am 19 years past 21...HA! Of course--tehre are some places that card everyone and then I get annoyed.
I am the 'baby' of the family and I think I will always feel like the young one. |