Is 40 old or not?

[Anonymous]

I am turning 40 next month and feel like a kid. I feel younger now than I did at 30. I remember dreading my 30th bday and I have no trepidation about the big 4-0 next month.

I have 2 young kids, I am exactly where I want to be in life. Feel like I sowed the oats and did everythign I wanted before they came along and I look forward to alot of fun in the future. I am established in my career and as a senior employee I have extreme flexibiity in my schedule. I am finally comfortable in my own skin and don't worry so much what others think.

That said---I am usu. mistaken for early 30s. I work out and still run 5 miles a day with zero aches and pain. I am pre-kids size 4. Life is good!!

I don't even feel bad saying how old I am--I wear it proudly.

Get over yourself!

[Anonymous]

guess the young kids make you feel younger. I am the OP and my older one is in middle school! I look young (even carded recently, ha) but the reality sucks. I cannot even fathom planning a new baby/pregnancy at my age. I can definitely FEEL the age inside even if it does not show outside. Even my periods changed, much lighter now than before and I doubt I could conceive easily now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am turning 40 next month and feel like a kid. I feel younger now than I did at 30. I remember dreading my 30th bday and I have no trepidation about the big 4-0 next month.

I have 2 young kids, I am exactly where I want to be in life. Feel like I sowed the oats and did everythign I wanted before they came along and I look forward to alot of fun in the future. I am established in my career and as a senior employee I have extreme flexibiity in my schedule. I am finally comfortable in my own skin and don't worry so much what others think.

That said---I am usu. mistaken for early 30s. I work out and still run 5 miles a day with zero aches and pain. I am pre-kids size 4. Life is good!!

I don't even feel bad saying how old I am--I wear it proudly.

Get over yourself!

Whoopee!

Maybe you should get over yourself instead and embrace a little humility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am turning 40 next month and feel like a kid. I feel younger now than I did at 30. I remember dreading my 30th bday and I have no trepidation about the big 4-0 next month.

I have 2 young kids, I am exactly where I want to be in life. Feel like I sowed the oats and did everythign I wanted before they came along and I look forward to alot of fun in the future. I am established in my career and as a senior employee I have extreme flexibiity in my schedule. I am finally comfortable in my own skin and don't worry so much what others think.

That said---I am usu. mistaken for early 30s. I work out and still run 5 miles a day with zero aches and pain. I am pre-kids size 4. Life is good!!

I don't even feel bad saying how old I am--I wear it proudly.

Get over yourself!

missed the end of your post---my kids are 21 months and 4 years old. My older sister had a really hard time with turning 40---her kids were 13, 11 and 8 at the time. maybe having such young kids is part of the reason I feel like a kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am turning 40 next month and feel like a kid. I feel younger now than I did at 30. I remember dreading my 30th bday and I have no trepidation about the big 4-0 next month.

I have 2 young kids, I am exactly where I want to be in life. Feel like I sowed the oats and did everythign I wanted before they came along and I look forward to alot of fun in the future. I am established in my career and as a senior employee I have extreme flexibiity in my schedule. I am finally comfortable in my own skin and don't worry so much what others think.

That said---I am usu. mistaken for early 30s. I work out and still run 5 miles a day with zero aches and pain. I am pre-kids size 4. Life is good!!

I don't even feel bad saying how old I am--I wear it proudly.

Get over yourself!

Whoopee!

Maybe you should get over yourself instead and embrace a little humility.

Take the stick out! that was sarcasm, you old crow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

No way- I just turned 30 and am a stepmom and am planning to become a bioparent around 37- my whole plan is that I'll still look at hot at 40.... Here's hoping it comes to fruition!

You might want to reconsider this. Not to be a party-pooper, but fertility drops off dramatically at age 37. I had 3 kids very easily in my early 30s. Started trying for #4 at age 38 and am now approaching the one-year mark with no success and not sure if it will ever happen. So, I'm almost 40 and I'm not sure if I still look "hot" but I do look pretty fit and youthful. Regardless of how young I look, though, my eggs are 39 years old & there's no getting around that. Don't get me wrong, I think older moms rock. It's great to have a baby at 40 (or later) when you have so much life experience and wisdom that younger moms may not have. And for some people it's not a choice to wait, it's just a matter of when you are at the point of being able to welcome a child into your life. But you also have to be lucky to have a baby at this age - not everyone can. Maybe you'll get pregnant on your first try at 37 - I sincerely hope you do. But if you don't, and you are now with the partner with whom you want to have children, you may find yourself regretting that you waited when you could have started a couple of years earlier.

I have to agree. All my friends started having children at @37 and ALL of them had fertility problems. It was astonishing. They did end up having children but only after expensive and sometimes painful interventions.

I had my first at 32 and had a miscarriage and then took 6 months to get pregnant. Not a huge big deal but very different from my mom who got pregnant at the drop of a hat at age 20.

Just saying don't count your chickens....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

No way- I just turned 30 and am a stepmom and am planning to become a bioparent around 37- my whole plan is that I'll still look at hot at 40.... Here's hoping it comes to fruition!

You might want to reconsider this. Not to be a party-pooper, but fertility drops off dramatically at age 37. I had 3 kids very easily in my early 30s. Started trying for #4 at age 38 and am now approaching the one-year mark with no success and not sure if it will ever happen. So, I'm almost 40 and I'm not sure if I still look "hot" but I do look pretty fit and youthful. Regardless of how young I look, though, my eggs are 39 years old & there's no getting around that. Don't get me wrong, I think older moms rock. It's great to have a baby at 40 (or later) when you have so much life experience and wisdom that younger moms may not have. And for some people it's not a choice to wait, it's just a matter of when you are at the point of being able to welcome a child into your life. But you also have to be lucky to have a baby at this age - not everyone can. Maybe you'll get pregnant on your first try at 37 - I sincerely hope you do. But if you don't, and you are now with the partner with whom you want to have children, you may find yourself regretting that you waited when you could have started a couple of years earlier.

I have to agree. All my friends started having children at @37 and ALL of them had fertility problems. It was astonishing. They did end up having children but only after expensive and sometimes painful interventions.

I had my first at 32 and had a miscarriage and then took 6 months to get pregnant. Not a huge big deal but very different from my mom who got pregnant at the drop of a hat at age 20.

Just saying don't count your chickens....

These are wise women. However, I got pregnant on the first try with both my kids---second one at age 37. I remember ppl pressuring me to begin procreating immediately when I got married at 29---but I just wasn't ready. i did know that every year i waited could be one year too long---and there's really no way of knowing. I still decided, for me, it was best to begin when we were ready. I was blessed that it happened so easily for us and both pregnancy were uneventful ending in natural deliveries. These ladies are right to be cautious---you just have to weigh if risk of waiting is right for you.

[Anonymous]

I understand the fear factor, but being in your 40s is great if you're in good shape and have a good attitude. I'm in my mid-40s now and I am most definitely in much better shape than I was in my 20s. I don't feel old, I don't look old, I don't feel like I'm missing a step. I've had no plastic surgery. I'm pretty sure that you really never feel old and never really see yourself as the age that you are. I also found that my early 40s especially were fantastic. My kids are still young - had my youngest when I was 41, and I'm assuming they'll keep me on my toes for a while. Look around - there are plenty of 'young' women who are in terrible condition.

[Anonymous]

I'll turn 49 next month and don't feel old ('though I'm sure that I'm perceived as old by youngsters, LOL).

My kids are 12 and 9, so it's essential that I stay young in spirit and body for as long as possible. I am conscious of that on a daily basis.

My DH is 54.

[Anonymous]

The underlying assumption here seems to be that "old" is bad.

That attitude depresses me.

[Anonymous]

what is one good thing about being old?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:what is one good thing about being old?

- Financial stability
- Respect
- Being truly comfortable in yourself and your skin

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:what is one good thing about being old?

You are going to have a very hard time with the aging process. A life lived well ---wisdom, knowledge and confidence gained each year. "Youth is lost on the young".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The underlying assumption here seems to be that "old" is bad.

That attitude depresses me.

I agree, and in the answers of many who say they like being older, they explain why they really are younger than their age (looks, energy, etc).

Can't I just grow old gracefully?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:what is one good thing about being old?

- Financial stability
- Respect
- Being truly comfortable in yourself and your skin

what does the above have to do with age?