St. Patrick’s vs NPS

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t have a dog in this fight but what’s wrong with snobby people keeping to themselves? It sounds like it’s just the parents anyway as many of you had said that your kids are friends with their kids. So who cares? It’s perfectly normal to spend your free time with people who share your values and common experiences. Liberals do it. Conservatives do it. People of color do it, too. It’s really no cause for alarm or hurt feelings.

I agree with you except that there is a tendency in dc for kid cliques to follownthe parent cliques, unless parents are more intentional about not promoting that. And that can be hurtful/harmful to kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I live near Wesley Heights and have no clue who these people are. Then again, my kids go to other schools. That said, one of the wealthiest families I know, lives near Wesley Heights and sends their kids to St. Pats and they are the nicest, most down to earth, generous, welcoming friendly etc people I have ever met. OFF the charts great. Probably have enough money to buy the punk types out and flush them down the toilet. Amazing how putrid little people can be and how great other folks are.

Oh do you now. Not that you are those people. Nice try.

[Anonymous]

Posters who think they know the identity of other posters are so weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I live near Wesley Heights and have no clue who these people are. Then again, my kids go to other schools. That said, one of the wealthiest families I know, lives near Wesley Heights and sends their kids to St. Pats and they are the nicest, most down to earth, generous, welcoming friendly etc people I have ever met. OFF the charts great. Probably have enough money to buy the punk types out and flush them down the toilet. Amazing how putrid little people can be and how great other folks are.

Oh do you now. Not that you are those people. Nice try.

I am not. I am calling out “those” people by comparing them to nice people so you made no point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We used a top educational consultant in the area who told us St Pats was the better school academically and that NPS was a gentler environment.

I'm sure they meant gentler if you are white. It is an outwardly friendly school with some real race issues. Not unlike the rest of the US, but NPS pretends that it doesn't happen there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think grouping entire neighborhoods into one category may be a bit extreme.

And you may be reading a bit much into an afternoon birthday party. Often, parents have afternoon birthday parties because people (both nannies and parents) find it easier to go straight from pick-up. Which is much easier for people who live far away from the school, like I do.

It never occured to me of having a children's party in the middle of the week. A playdate, sure. Otherwise, it just looks like you're trying to exclude kids in the extended day programs. It's also fairly predictable who intentionally does this. Most of us -even the most clueless- can almost guess the parents that always pull that move.

As far as that neighborhood, these schools are pretty small. Word gets around and people can't help themselves but to talk. When your reputation extends to other schools, because of common experiences, then it's more than just a generalization. Just be careful of whom you express your prejudices to. You might think just because someone lives on your street and is also a SAHM doesn't mean they like you or agree with your values. Kids also talk to each other.

NPS parents do this all the time. When we went there my ds got more invites during the week than weekend parties. Also, the entire class would take Friday off and go to NYC for tea and a Broadway show. The kids were always so excited and talked about it and the kids who didn't have the money or had working parents always felt so left out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think grouping entire neighborhoods into one category may be a bit extreme.

And you may be reading a bit much into an afternoon birthday party. Often, parents have afternoon birthday parties because people (both nannies and parents) find it easier to go straight from pick-up. Which is much easier for people who live far away from the school, like I do.

It never occured to me of having a children's party in the middle of the week. A playdate, sure. Otherwise, it just looks like you're trying to exclude kids in the extended day programs. It's also fairly predictable who intentionally does this. Most of us -even the most clueless- can almost guess the parents that always pull that move.

As far as that neighborhood, these schools are pretty small. Word gets around and people can't help themselves but to talk. When your reputation extends to other schools, because of common experiences, then it's more than just a generalization. Just be careful of whom you express your prejudices to. You might think just because someone lives on your street and is also a SAHM doesn't mean they like you or agree with your values. Kids also talk to each other.

NPS parents do this all the time. When we went there my ds got more invites during the week than weekend parties. Also, the entire class would take Friday off and go to NYC for tea and a Broadway show. The kids were always so excited and talked about it and the kids who didn't have the money or had working parents always felt so left out.

Wow. How did your DS like it overall?

[Anonymous]

We go to St Pat’s and I literally don’t recognize the school based on these crazy descriptions. We are a two-income family. If my kids get invited to something on a weekday (rarely), I just text another parent and ask if they can take to the party, I can pick up. My offer is often very appreciated because a 5:30 or so pick up time can be hectic with kids’ activities.

We’ve been invited to an event at someone’s house in Dexter St. but it was an auction fundraiser (something like $50 tickets towards financial aid), *everyone* was invited (do not exclusive) and there was a diverse set of people there. I didn’t feel iced out or excluded at all. We moved here from out of town and that whole community had been nothing but wonderful and welcoming. We love that school and community and feel it’s particularly warm and friendly.

We liked St Pat’s over NPS because it goes through 8th grade. I think there are some high schools that could be a good fit for our family so we wanted that as an option.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think grouping entire neighborhoods into one category may be a bit extreme.

And you may be reading a bit much into an afternoon birthday party. Often, parents have afternoon birthday parties because people (both nannies and parents) find it easier to go straight from pick-up. Which is much easier for people who live far away from the school, like I do.

It never occured to me of having a children's party in the middle of the week. A playdate, sure. Otherwise, it just looks like you're trying to exclude kids in the extended day programs. It's also fairly predictable who intentionally does this. Most of us -even the most clueless- can almost guess the parents that always pull that move.

As far as that neighborhood, these schools are pretty small. Word gets around and people can't help themselves but to talk. When your reputation extends to other schools, because of common experiences, then it's more than just a generalization. Just be careful of whom you express your prejudices to. You might think just because someone lives on your street and is also a SAHM doesn't mean they like you or agree with your values. Kids also talk to

NPS parents do this all the time. When we went there my ds got more invites during the week than weekend parties. Also, the entire class would take Friday off and go to NYC for tea and a Broadway show. The kids were always so excited and talked about it and the kids who didn't have the money or had working parents always felt so left out.

You are literally making this up. Yes, I am calling you a liar.

[Anonymous]

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think grouping entire neighborhoods into one category may be a bit extreme.

And you may be reading a bit much into an afternoon birthday party. Often, parents have afternoon birthday parties because people (both nannies and parents) find it easier to go straight from pick-up. Which is much easier for people who live far away from the school, like I do.

Either way you are clueless. It's makes no sense to have a mid week party and it should be expected that many kids for a variety of reasons won't be able to attend, ie two working parents, older siblings after school activities etc. And I've only seen SAHM's pull this so I think that says something. As to St. Pat's, I have friends who have kids there, they are lovely but as noted there is certainly a a cliquey snobby mean mom contingent that is much more prevalent at St. Pats than at any other school. My vote is NPS. It's a really lovely school, never met a parent I didn't like.

My kids are in middle school and this mean mom element was prevalent at St. Pats a decade ago. What is it with this school? When my kids were in preschool all the ice queens sent their kids on to St. Pats. The type of moms who would look through you as of you were invisible when you said hello even though you had met them 6 times before and your kids had 3 play dates together. Mostly SAHMs married to finance or commercial real estate guys. Completely ignored the rest of us who weren't cut from their exact cloth. This crowd all sent their kids on to St. Pats and apparently still are now--10 years later! Crazy. I'm sure there are lots of lovely families at the school but in my experience it was ground zero for snobbery in NW DC.

So tell what happen to you and name names from 10 years ago. You are such a troll.

[Anonymous]

NPS kids don’t treat each other like that for birthday parties. It was a school policy that you have to invite 1) all the kids in the class or 2) all the kids of the same gender in the class or 3) all the kids in the same section of the grade. It was relaxed a little in the upper grades (5 and 6) but most people invited everyone all the time anyway. It was super inclusive and kind. The kids got a great education and excellent outplacement. They learned to be inclusive of all their peers - but more work needs to be done on diversity. I think they know that and are working on it. NPS was very kind - not the same vibe I got at St Pats but I didn’t send my child there. The st pats grads I know are terrific.

Go visit, trust your gut and love where you end up. Don’t second guess your decision.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think grouping entire neighborhoods into one category may be a bit extreme.

And you may be reading a bit much into an afternoon birthday party. Often, parents have afternoon birthday parties because people (both nannies and parents) find it easier to go straight from pick-up. Which is much easier for people who live far away from the school, like I do.

Either way you are clueless. It's makes no sense to have a mid week party and it should be expected that many kids for a variety of reasons won't be able to attend, ie two working parents, older siblings after school activities etc. And I've only seen SAHM's pull this so I think that says something. As to St. Pat's, I have friends who have kids there, they are lovely but as noted there is certainly a a cliquey snobby mean mom contingent that is much more prevalent at St. Pats than at any other school. My vote is NPS. It's a really lovely school, never met a parent I didn't like.

You need to calm down. I work and my kids get invited to mid week birthday parties and I’ve never felt like it was a personal attack. Our nanny takes them to the party and they have a blast. That’s it. You’re so angry

This. Is. Batsh*t. Insane. Mid-week/mid-day birthday parties?? Send your nanny?!? This is not normal and people should absolutely rebel against this behavior. This reflects extremely poorly on the school community.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think grouping entire neighborhoods into one category may be a bit extreme.

And you may be reading a bit much into an afternoon birthday party. Often, parents have afternoon birthday parties because people (both nannies and parents) find it easier to go straight from pick-up. Which is much easier for people who live far away from the school, like I do.

Either way you are clueless. It's makes no sense to have a mid week party and it should be expected that many kids for a variety of reasons won't be able to attend, ie two working parents, older siblings after school activities etc. And I've only seen SAHM's pull this so I think that says something. As to St. Pat's, I have friends who have kids there, they are lovely but as noted there is certainly a a cliquey snobby mean mom contingent that is much more prevalent at St. Pats than at any other school. My vote is NPS. It's a really lovely school, never met a parent I didn't like.

You need to calm down. I work and my kids get invited to mid week birthday parties and I’ve never felt like it was a personal attack. Our nanny takes them to the party and they have a blast. That’s it. You’re so angry

This. Is. Batsh*t. Insane. Mid-week/mid-day birthday parties?? Send your nanny?!? This is not normal and people should absolutely rebel against this behavior. This reflects extremely poorly on the school community.

Who are you to tell other people’s kids when they can or can’t host their own birthday parties?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think grouping entire neighborhoods into one category may be a bit extreme.

And you may be reading a bit much into an afternoon birthday party. Often, parents have afternoon birthday parties because people (both nannies and parents) find it easier to go straight from pick-up. Which is much easier for people who live far away from the school, like I do.

Either way you are clueless. It's makes no sense to have a mid week party and it should be expected that many kids for a variety of reasons won't be able to attend, ie two working parents, older siblings after school activities etc. And I've only seen SAHM's pull this so I think that says something. As to St. Pat's, I have friends who have kids there, they are lovely but as noted there is certainly a a cliquey snobby mean mom contingent that is much more prevalent at St. Pats than at any other school. My vote is NPS. It's a really lovely school, never met a parent I didn't like.

You need to calm down. I work and my kids get invited to mid week birthday parties and I’ve never felt like it was a personal attack. Our nanny takes them to the party and they have a blast. That’s it. You’re so angry

This. Is. Batsh*t. Insane. Mid-week/mid-day birthday parties?? Send your nanny?!? This is not normal and people should absolutely rebel against this behavior. This reflects extremely poorly on the school community.

This is why no one invites your kid to anything.