St. Patrick’s vs NPS

[Anonymous]

Of course, some folks like to have birthday parties on their birthdays. Or maybe there is a different event on the week-end that is not for the class. Get over yourself in planning others' events.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think grouping entire neighborhoods into one category may be a bit extreme.

And you may be reading a bit much into an afternoon birthday party. Often, parents have afternoon birthday parties because people (both nannies and parents) find it easier to go straight from pick-up. Which is much easier for people who live far away from the school, like I do.

Either way you are clueless. It's makes no sense to have a mid week party and it should be expected that many kids for a variety of reasons won't be able to attend, ie two working parents, older siblings after school activities etc. And I've only seen SAHM's pull this so I think that says something. As to St. Pat's, I have friends who have kids there, they are lovely but as noted there is certainly a a cliquey snobby mean mom contingent that is much more prevalent at St. Pats than at any other school. My vote is NPS. It's a really lovely school, never met a parent I didn't like.

My kids are in middle school and this mean mom element was prevalent at St. Pats a decade ago. What is it with this school? When my kids were in preschool all the ice queens sent their kids on to St. Pats. The type of moms who would look through you as of you were invisible when you said hello even though you had met them 6 times before and your kids had 3 play dates together. Mostly SAHMs married to finance or commercial real estate guys. Completely ignored the rest of us who weren't cut from their exact cloth. This crowd all sent their kids on to St. Pats and apparently still are now--10 years later! Crazy. I'm sure there are lots of lovely families at the school but in my experience it was ground zero for snobbery in NW DC.

[Anonymous]

As I stated, it's only some parents that are repeat offenders of this. It's almost always predictable. And they are at every school.

As far as Wesley Heights, not all the kids go to the same school. However, if you go cross reference your school's directory and people that live in that neighborhood, I think that you will find some really common traits.

But most of the families at St. Pat's are great and most importantly, my DC loves it there. So that's why I don't leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think grouping entire neighborhoods into one category may be a bit extreme.

And you may be reading a bit much into an afternoon birthday party. Often, parents have afternoon birthday parties because people (both nannies and parents) find it easier to go straight from pick-up. Which is much easier for people who live far away from the school, like I do.

Either way you are clueless. It's makes no sense to have a mid week party and it should be expected that many kids for a variety of reasons won't be able to attend, ie two working parents, older siblings after school activities etc. And I've only seen SAHM's pull this so I think that says something. As to St. Pat's, I have friends who have kids there, they are lovely but as noted there is certainly a a cliquey snobby mean mom contingent that is much more prevalent at St. Pats than at any other school. My vote is NPS. It's a really lovely school, never met a parent I didn't like.

My kids are in middle school and this mean mom element was prevalent at St. Pats a decade ago. What is it with this school? When my kids were in preschool all the ice queens sent their kids on to St. Pats. The type of moms who would look through you as of you were invisible when you said hello even though you had met them 6 times before and your kids had 3 play dates together. Mostly SAHMs married to finance or commercial real estate guys. Completely ignored the rest of us who weren't cut from their exact cloth. This crowd all sent their kids on to St. Pats and apparently still are now--10 years later! Crazy. I'm sure there are lots of lovely families at the school but in my experience it was ground zero for snobbery in NW DC.

Exactly! I have seen them give this treatment to dual income doctors. It's insane.

[Anonymous]

Interesting parallel between the perceived difference between the Episcopalian church (St Pats) and the Presbyterian church (NPS).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think grouping entire neighborhoods into one category may be a bit extreme.

And you may be reading a bit much into an afternoon birthday party. Often, parents have afternoon birthday parties because people (both nannies and parents) find it easier to go straight from pick-up. Which is much easier for people who live far away from the school, like I do.

Either way you are clueless. It's makes no sense to have a mid week party and it should be expected that many kids for a variety of reasons won't be able to attend, ie two working parents, older siblings after school activities etc. And I've only seen SAHM's pull this so I think that says something. As to St. Pat's, I have friends who have kids there, they are lovely but as noted there is certainly a a cliquey snobby mean mom contingent that is much more prevalent at St. Pats than at any other school. My vote is NPS. It's a really lovely school, never met a parent I didn't like.

You need to calm down. I work and my kids get invited to mid week birthday parties and I’ve never felt like it was a personal attack. Our nanny takes them to the party and they have a blast. That’s it. You’re so angry

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think grouping entire neighborhoods into one category may be a bit extreme.

And you may be reading a bit much into an afternoon birthday party. Often, parents have afternoon birthday parties because people (both nannies and parents) find it easier to go straight from pick-up. Which is much easier for people who live far away from the school, like I do.

Either way you are clueless. It's makes no sense to have a mid week party and it should be expected that many kids for a variety of reasons won't be able to attend, ie two working parents, older siblings after school activities etc. And I've only seen SAHM's pull this so I think that says something. As to St. Pat's, I have friends who have kids there, they are lovely but as noted there is certainly a a cliquey snobby mean mom contingent that is much more prevalent at St. Pats than at any other school. My vote is NPS. It's a really lovely school, never met a parent I didn't like.

You need to calm down. I work and my kids get invited to mid week birthday parties and I’ve never felt like it was a personal attack. Our nanny takes them to the party and they have a blast. That’s it. You’re so angry

Geez you need to calm down. Who said anything about angry? Clueless is as clueless does. As previously stated mid week parties don’t make sense for a variety of reasons. Thanks st pats mom!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think grouping entire neighborhoods into one category may be a bit extreme.

And you may be reading a bit much into an afternoon birthday party. Often, parents have afternoon birthday parties because people (both nannies and parents) find it easier to go straight from pick-up. Which is much easier for people who live far away from the school, like I do.

Either way you are clueless. It's makes no sense to have a mid week party and it should be expected that many kids for a variety of reasons won't be able to attend, ie two working parents, older siblings after school activities etc. And I've only seen SAHM's pull this so I think that says something. As to St. Pat's, I have friends who have kids there, they are lovely but as noted there is certainly a a cliquey snobby mean mom contingent that is much more prevalent at St. Pats than at any other school. My vote is NPS. It's a really lovely school, never met a parent I didn't like.

You need to calm down. I work and my kids get invited to mid week birthday parties and I’ve never felt like it was a personal attack. Our nanny takes them to the party and they have a blast. That’s it. You’re so angry

I think she’s referring to people who may not have a nanny and some kids are in the after care program so it would pose a problem unless they got a ride with someone else. Surely you understand that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As I stated, it's only some parents that are repeat offenders of this. It's almost always predictable. And they are at every school.

As far as Wesley Heights, not all the kids go to the same school. However, if you go cross reference your school's directory and people that live in that neighborhood, I think that you will find some really common traits.

But most of the families at St. Pat's are great and most importantly, my DC loves it there. So that's why I don't leave.

I think it is more about a certain type of parent than about a school IMO, although there are a lot of those types at St. Pats. I am assuming the club you are referring to is Chevy? Newsflash those families usually also belong to at least one other social club at the same time for a reason which is that they don’t want to make friends or socialize with people outside of that group of people. Clearly they made that clear by joining so many clubs which are predominately white, conservative, and Christian. If you don’t fall into that category they don’t really want to be friends with you. A few token non Christians maybe belong but they have ties to Reagan, Bush, or Kavanaugh so they are considered okay enough by those affiliations. OP, this stuff normally improves with time because the kids take over their own lives. Hang in there!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think grouping entire neighborhoods into one category may be a bit extreme.

And you may be reading a bit much into an afternoon birthday party. Often, parents have afternoon birthday parties because people (both nannies and parents) find it easier to go straight from pick-up. Which is much easier for people who live far away from the school, like I do.

Either way you are clueless. It's makes no sense to have a mid week party and it should be expected that many kids for a variety of reasons won't be able to attend, ie two working parents, older siblings after school activities etc. And I've only seen SAHM's pull this so I think that says something. As to St. Pat's, I have friends who have kids there, they are lovely but as noted there is certainly a a cliquey snobby mean mom contingent that is much more prevalent at St. Pats than at any other school. My vote is NPS. It's a really lovely school, never met a parent I didn't like.

You need to calm down. I work and my kids get invited to mid week birthday parties and I’ve never felt like it was a personal attack. Our nanny takes them to the party and they have a blast. That’s it. You’re so angry

I think she’s referring to people who may not have a nanny and some kids are in the after care program so it would pose a problem unless they got a ride with someone else. Surely you understand that?

No, no they don't. I think that a lot of folks would be in a better mood if they had a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As I stated, it's only some parents that are repeat offenders of this. It's almost always predictable. And they are at every school.

As far as Wesley Heights, not all the kids go to the same school. However, if you go cross reference your school's directory and people that live in that neighborhood, I think that you will find some really common traits.

But most of the families at St. Pat's are great and most importantly, my DC loves it there. So that's why I don't leave.

I think it is more about a certain type of parent than about a school IMO, although there are a lot of those types at St. Pats. I am assuming the club you are referring to is Chevy? Newsflash those families usually also belong to at least one other social club at the same time for a reason which is that they don’t want to make friends or socialize with people outside of that group of people. Clearly they made that clear by joining so many clubs which are predominately white, conservative, and Christian. If you don’t fall into that category they don’t really want to be friends with you. A few token non Christians maybe belong but they have ties to Reagan, Bush, or Kavanaugh so they are considered okay enough by those affiliations. OP, this stuff normally improves with time because the kids take over their own lives. Hang in there!

I don't even care about their political leanings or country club they belong to. I don't think that I could care less. I just have an issue when parents agree not to associate with other parents. Yes, that happens. Word eventually comes around and then you have a parent smiling in your face that you know has agreed not to associate with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think grouping entire neighborhoods into one category may be a bit extreme.

And you may be reading a bit much into an afternoon birthday party. Often, parents have afternoon birthday parties because people (both nannies and parents) find it easier to go straight from pick-up. Which is much easier for people who live far away from the school, like I do.

Either way you are clueless. It's makes no sense to have a mid week party and it should be expected that many kids for a variety of reasons won't be able to attend, ie two working parents, older siblings after school activities etc. And I've only seen SAHM's pull this so I think that says something. As to St. Pat's, I have friends who have kids there, they are lovely but as noted there is certainly a a cliquey snobby mean mom contingent that is much more prevalent at St. Pats than at any other school. My vote is NPS. It's a really lovely school, never met a parent I didn't like.

You need to calm down. I work and my kids get invited to mid week birthday parties and I’ve never felt like it was a personal attack. Our nanny takes them to the party and they have a blast. That’s it. You’re so angry

I think she’s referring to people who may not have a nanny and some kids are in the after care program so it would pose a problem unless they got a ride with someone else. Surely you understand that?

Hey look! Awesome you found a solution to the oh so difficult problem. And actually I don’t even know where st pats is so we surely aren’t a st pats family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think grouping entire neighborhoods into one category may be a bit extreme.

And you may be reading a bit much into an afternoon birthday party. Often, parents have afternoon birthday parties because people (both nannies and parents) find it easier to go straight from pick-up. Which is much easier for people who live far away from the school, like I do.

Do they offer to carpool the children of people that work? That would be fairly easy and the working parents could pick them up on way home.

[Anonymous]

I don’t have a dog in this fight but what’s wrong with snobby people keeping to themselves? It sounds like it’s just the parents anyway as many of you had said that your kids are friends with their kids. So who cares? It’s perfectly normal to spend your free time with people who share your values and common experiences. Liberals do it. Conservatives do it. People of color do it, too. It’s really no cause for alarm or hurt feelings.

[Anonymous]

I live near Wesley Heights and have no clue who these people are. Then again, my kids go to other schools. That said, one of the wealthiest families I know, lives near Wesley Heights and sends their kids to St. Pats and they are the nicest, most down to earth, generous, welcoming friendly etc people I have ever met. OFF the charts great. Probably have enough money to buy the punk types out and flush them down the toilet. Amazing how putrid little people can be and how great other folks are.