What age is too old for the matching Xmas pj photo?

[Anonymous]

Do these instead:
https://www.amazon.com/Union-Girls-Pajamas-Danger-Blast/dp/B075YD1DHP/ref=sr_1_292/?tag=dodoburd-20

[Anonymous]

I think the idea of two parents and a single 11 year old in matching pajamas is a little weird, yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is so embarrassing or scandalous about a photo in Christmas pajamas. I mean we’re talking flannels or t-shirt and pants sets, right? I’ve never seen Christmas pj photos that showed any more than a regular outfit would.

It’s dorky

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is so embarrassing or scandalous about a photo in Christmas pajamas. I mean we’re talking flannels or t-shirt and pants sets, right? I’ve never seen Christmas pj photos that showed any more than a regular outfit would.

It’s dorky

Your mama.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get why it would necessarily be weird. Don’t a lot of schools have pajama days even for older kids? It’s not like inherently embarrassing depending on the style of the PJs.

The problem is that there is an age bracket where putting on matching pajamas is embarrassing. Whether it is or isn’t the debate. Most kids will find it embarrassing, and it’s difficult time for kids to be different.

Then there is the taking a picture and sending cards to friends and family. Social media is even worse. A lot of times it’s done without a kid’s informed consent.

Kids can give consent but for some there might be an urge to please their parents that is hard to overcome.

This is all for the parents’ benefit. I mean if the kid is like, “let’s buy matching pajamas and make Christmas cards!” That’s a different story.

All of these points may be silly to some, but for others it makes all this weird. My personal opinion is do what you feel comfortable with but err on the side of not posting all these embarrassing photos of your kid on the internet for everyone to see for the rest of time. My 11yo just found a pic of her friend from 6 years ago in the bath tub with his little sister on his mom’s Facebook. It’s hella embarrassing. Cute at the time. Embarrassing now. Poor kid.

I have absolutely no problem making my kids do things for my benefit. I do things for their benefit all the time. 95% of my waking hours are spent on things that I do for the benefit of my kids. So, they can repay me by wearing nice clothing to visit their grandparents, and looking decent in the snapshots I take on Christmas.

I don't put the picture on the Christmas card. I don't buy them skin tight pj's. But it's not child abuse that I want my kids to look presentable in the pictures I take when they're opening their presents, and new pj's are a way to do that without horrifying them by making them wait long enough to put on actual clothes.

[Anonymous]

Its fine but at 11 any pictures in their pajamas should not be shown publicly, on social media, on christmas cards, or anywhere else. You want them in cute pjs for you and your husband's own photo collection? go for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the idea of two parents and a single 11 year old in matching pajamas is a little weird, yes.

Would it make it less weird with two 11 year olds?

[Anonymous]

Are people still doing cards? I got less than 10 last year, even though I mailed out about 30. Mostly the older generation carrying on the tradition. Younger generations on my list say that with social media there’s no need to do a card, with or without matching pjs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are people still doing cards? I got less than 10 last year, even though I mailed out about 30. Mostly the older generation carrying on the tradition. Younger generations on my list say that with social media there’s no need to do a card, with or without matching pjs.

Many people are still doing cards -- but yes I feel like they dwindle every year. Partly I think the issue is that my friends and I have children who are getting older. While it was very cute to make holiday cards when they were babies - seems less so when they are teens.