Only if your kid got into an Ivy in last 5 yrs. - how'd you do it?

[Anonymous]

Congratulations pp -- that is the true American Dream -- that one does not have to be rich to have a child turn out so nicely and to be so successful...great job! Hope she likes MIT.

[Anonymous]

Okay, this is what I don't get. Why is it when the middle class student from TJ goes on to MIT, everyone clap clap claps. But mention a private school and all of a sudden the parents are horrible schemers? I take nothing away from the PP. Congratulations. But why does it suddenly become sinister if someone with slightly greater financial means acknowledges the same facts: that there are things that a child needs to do to get into a top university?

[Anonymous]

Good question pp -- I was the one who congratulated MIT -- my kid went to a private and now goes to an Ivy. I'm a "love makes the world go around" kind of person. I would never write anything nasty about anyone. I think too many of these posters resent other people too much.

[Anonymous]

Packaging the Pupil
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Parenting=mentoring

Mentoring=grooming

Grooming=packaging

therefore

Parenting=packaging

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Only for those looking through rose-coloured glasses in wonderland

[Anonymous]

insanity & jealousy = previous poster.

OP asked for what distinguished a student who was accepted into an Ivy. OP did not ask for a preachy = preachy post

[Anonymous]

The idea of "grooming" your child into a "package" is gross. I think that with this attitude, your children will quickly figure out you care more about their pedigree than their personality, and they will grow up either to be well-adjusted but resent you, or appreciate what you did but be socially awkward with twisted priorities.


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What is parenting? Leave your 5-year-old on autopilot? Forget about exposure and driving them to sports, music, arts, playground (mud) and tutors? Sounds gross doesn't it? I suppose your progeny gravitate to activities naturally (pooping, crying, eating and sleeping)?

[Anonymous]

Packaging the Pupil
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Parenting=mentoring

Mentoring=grooming

Grooming=packaging

therefore

Parenting=packaging

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sounds quite sane to me

[Anonymous]

insanity & jealousy = previous poster.

OP asked for what distinguished a student who was accepted into an Ivy. OP did not ask for a preachy = preachy post

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we know you are traditionally slow on the uptake but if you don't parent or package no Ivy for thee!

[Anonymous]

Mine is already at an Ivy pp and she wasn't "packaged". She just did the things she loved to do and did them very well.

[Anonymous]

I'm curious OP, what if your child got accepted into an Ivy and then turned it down?

[Anonymous]

She is absolutely miserable for the rest of her life, obviously.

[Anonymous]

Bullshit! I doubt your child was admitted off the street sight unseen. She must have submitted a portfolio/package that included, at the very least, application materials, essays, grades, extracurricular activities, recommendations, scores national exams. Is this not a package. Did your child receive advise from school counselors, teachers, college advisors, parents, siblings, mentors, friends in the course of preparing and crafting her package and presentation to colleges? There is much work, counsel, and practise that goes into preparing and crafting carefully this package.

I guess not from your silly response.

You are not fooling anyone here.

[Anonymous]

Perhaps, she doesn't like the term "package" and prefers another "rose-coloured" euphemism!

[Anonymous]

Mine is already at an Ivy pp and she wasn't "packaged". She just did the things she loved to do and did them very well.



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Crap. Most students that went to Ivy with me did the things they loved and did them very well!

[Anonymous]

Funny, the posters most intent on their kids going to Ivies seem to make the most grammatical mistakes. I wonder why that's so.....