Difference in age

[Anonymous]

^ not sure why she needs to defend her sister when there have been posts when men have justified having affairs while caring for a wife or wanting to actually divorce the wife. Where is the outrage in those posts?

[Anonymous]

Don't admit to having daddy issues or you will really here from this crowd. On DCUM, it's perfectly OK for a woman to date a man of any age. It's just not OK for men to date much younger women for all the reasons we enjoy them. You should know that by now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are 30 and marry other 30, in next 20 you are both 50.

If you are 30 and marry 50, in 20 years you are 50 and he is 70.

[Gee thanks! Before you pointed this out, nobody knew how to do math.]

If you are looking to start a family, read about how father's age increases the chance of birth issues.

[An increased chance but still very small. Countless older dads have normal kids.]

Also, imagine a child who is 20 having a father who is 70 and everybody thinking it is their grandpa.

[When the kid is 20, neither that kid nor his dad will care what other people think.]

If you thin a 50 something will be chasing after a toddler in the playground, think again.

[Meh. I see it all the time. ]

Sex life? I am sure others covered that

[Any woman who decided to marry an older man has already come to terms with that issue. Or maybe there is no issue at all. Either way it's hard to see why it should concern anyone else but her.]

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Erectile dysfunction will come calling sooner or later. At 50, he may be already there. Viagra is only a temporary solution and some men cannot use it at all.

So...unless you don’t mind having irregular, none, or medicated sex when you are in your 30s, 40s ..I would think carefully about a 20 yr age difference and what that would mean for your sex life.

My 65 year old husband (I’m 36) is active. Plays tennis several times a week and does not meet viagra. If he does one day, we’ll be fine and make it sexy.

He had children late in life (early 40s) and I had children early in life (early 20s)
So our kids are only 10-15 years apart versus the 30 years they could be. We love each other very much.

LOL. He has probably been on viagra the last 10 years and you just don’t know it. Tennis doesn’t keep viagra away. Age does. Good luck with the golden years..they are here now.

I mean.....he hasn’t. We both work from home and spend a ridiculous amount of time together for the 9 years we’ve been together.

[Anonymous]

My husband is 13 years older than me. It’s not a problem for us at all. I have older friends and always surrounded myself with older people especially men. I never dated men my age (always at least 5 years older). My husband is the child in our relationship. He has more energy, stamina, sex drive than me. We have 3 kids together and are really happy. Our whole life dynamic works for us. I wanted to have children young (by DC standards), finish a PhD, etc. those are all things I would not have been able to do with a man my age. In our case, DH was also the only man I never got bored of...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is 13 years older than me. It’s not a problem for us at all. I have older friends and always surrounded myself with older people especially men. I never dated men my age (always at least 5 years older). My husband is the child in our relationship. He has more energy, stamina, sex drive than me. We have 3 kids together and are really happy. Our whole life dynamic works for us. I wanted to have children young (by DC standards), finish a PhD, etc. those are all things I would not have been able to do with a man my age. In our case, DH was also the only man I never got bored of...

I think 13 yrs difference falls in the upper end of reasonable. 20+ yrs difference is a different category that would be difficult for both partners to meet each other’s needs long term.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Erectile dysfunction will come calling sooner or later. At 50, he may be already there. Viagra is only a temporary solution and some men cannot use it at all.

So...unless you don’t mind having irregular, none, or medicated sex when you are in your 30s, 40s ..I would think carefully about a 20 yr age difference and what that would mean for your sex life.

My 65 year old husband (I’m 36) is active. Plays tennis several times a week and does not meet viagra. If he does one day, we’ll be fine and make it sexy.

He had children late in life (early 40s) and I had children early in life (early 20s)
So our kids are only 10-15 years apart versus the 30 years they could be. We love each other very much.

A 30 yr age gap is gross as best, sorry. Great for him, but his best years are behind him and now and he has a young nurse secured.

+1

Sorry that just really gross .. I don’t think your men love you to put this burden on you

[Anonymous]

Have fun but don't stay too long if you plan for children. At 30, you are at a point where you have to plot your family.