S/O: What do DW’s fantasize about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One particular young man gets my wife going full speed. Every.single.time.

Eww. How young? Not like, say, your daughter's boyfriend's age, is it?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When our kids were younger my wife once said, "You know how sex makes you feel a whole lot better? Well that's what a clean house does for me." We've recovered but that was a rough period.

Total BS.

What is BS?

Why is that BS? And what made it a rough period? You both understood what the other person wanted and how to make them happy. And no one wanted anything ridiculous or unreasonable.

It was rough because we weren’t having enough sex for me. And I felt hurt because I thought she thought sex with me was fun, whereas neither of us find cleaning fun.
We understand each other better now. And again, the kids are older, which is huge.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When our kids were younger my wife once said, "You know how sex makes you feel a whole lot better? Well that's what a clean house does for me." We've recovered but that was a rough period.

Total BS.

What is BS?

Why is that BS? And what made it a rough period? You both understood what the other person wanted and how to make them happy. And no one wanted anything ridiculous or unreasonable.

It was rough because we weren’t having enough sex for me. And I felt hurt because I thought she thought sex with me was fun, whereas neither of us find cleaning fun.
We understand each other better now. And again, the kids are older, which is huge.

I get that.
But just to be fair, enjoying a clean house is not the same as enjoying cleaning the house.
Also, it is possible to enjoy an activity and think it’s fun, but not feel like you need it in order to feel good about the rest of your life.

I think you may have been in a wow is me self pitying mood when you chose to interpret her comment the way you did.

[Anonymous]

*woe is me, not wow is me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Sex with an ex? Hollywood celebrity?

Since this is an anonymous forum, I'll just own up to my own weird fantasy:

I consistently fantasize about George Harrison. I think he was honestly one of the sexiest people to ever live. My husband knows about it and just finds it amusing.

I don't feel the need to fantasize about my husband because we have sex regularly.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:One particular young man gets my wife going full speed. Every.single.time.

Eww. How young? Not like, say, your daughter's boyfriend's age, is it?

My final AP before I met my wife and quit for good was a woman whose oldest was my age (she had her daughter at 19). I know I got her going at full speed every single time. We ended it because her husband came dangerously close to catching her, but per the drunken email I got recently, I apparently still get her going every single time

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DC's coach. He's easy to look at and really good with the kids.

Ha!! +1. So glad someone said it, I always feel guilty, but he’s so cute.

[Anonymous]

I have never once thought of any of my exes.

Usually attractive people who I could have been with but declined for fear that people would think I was a slut if I had sex with someone I wasn’t in a serious relationship. <—-reason 1,000 why men should be against slut shaming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have never once thought of any of my exes.

Usually attractive people who I could have been with but declined for fear that people would think I was a slut if I had sex with someone I wasn’t in a serious relationship. <—-reason 1,000 why men should be against slut shaming.

Soooooo true. Slut shaming was common when I was younger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Woman here:

Hot sex
Rough sex
Violent sex
Being driven into cardiac arrest by above sex and the urgent need to save me

None of the men in these fantasies are my husband.

Thank you! Before I read your post, I was starting to doze off from this thread.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
Sex with an ex? Hollywood celebrity?

Since this is an anonymous forum, I'll just own up to my own weird fantasy:

I consistently fantasize about George Harrison. I think he was honestly one of the sexiest people to ever live. My husband knows about it and just finds it amusing.

I don't feel the need to fantasize about my husband because we have sex regularly.

such a slut! lol..you along with many others!

[Anonymous]

Being able to actually please my husband sexually.

Tenderness/affection from my husband. Having intimacy along with the sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sexually-Threesomes/ being with a woman.
Otherwise - getting enough sleep having a Marie kondo organized house and being thin again.

This. I have the upper fantasy 5 days a week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Being able to actually please my husband sexually.

Tenderness/affection from my husband. Having intimacy along with the sex.

Come on. You can be more creative than that. Tap into your freaky side

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These responses are great! I often ask my wife what her fantasies are and she says a small clean apartment. We rarely have sex so now I actually believe her.

What a shame I didn't marry one of the rough sex posters.

Perhaps I can make my wife's fantasy come true if she lets me find mine

Some of us fantasize about rough sex and clean apartments... simultaneously.