What age is your personal cut off on having kids?
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Anonymous
| 36 for me. I have three (33 now) and if we have another I’d want to conceive no later than 35. Mostly for spacing but I also just enjoy being a younger mom. |
Anonymous
Being 35/36 isn’t being a “younger mom”...it would be a geriatric pregnancy. |
Anonymous
| I think you have to make a choice -- do you want to have freedom to do many things young or old? I took interesting job experiences, did world travel, etc when I was young, so I had my kid older (40). But it also means we will have to wait until our 60s to travel carefree again. There are pluses and minuses to both - we certainly have more resources and don't worry about things like money as much, but we're more tired. |
Anonymous
| I think 40 is my cutoff, but I recognize it's arbitrary. |
Anonymous
| I had my last at 47. Honestly I would have loved to have another but thinking about them being younger when they lose us stopped me. I was so focused on getting pregnant for so long I’m not sure I really realized how “late” it was getting. But I mostly enjoyed the pregnancy itself, even at that age. And I would have preferred having kids earlier but didn’t meet my DH until later in life. |
Anonymous
Pp here, I know that, but I had my other kids at 27, 29, and 32.. so I’m currently a youngish mom for them (at least for around here) and don’t want to fully transition to older mom territory if we had a fourth. |
Anonymous
Why does it matter what other people choose to do? |
Anonymous
Same. |
Anonymous
Np I don't get this attitude at all. To me, having something done and "out of the way" is something you talk about that is an unpleasant experience, like taking a greyhound bus across country or a root canal, not having children. |
Anonymous
Why not wait until #3 is born. Are you collecting beanie babies or real babies? Three is plenty! |
Anonymous
oh the horror, of being an "older mom" fate worse than death, right? |
Anonymous
| I always said 30, but didn’t meet DH until 32. Married at 33. Lost a baby at 34. Had another at 35. Had a second at 38. I’m really shocked that we had kids as late as we did, but I am grateful that they are here. We just couldn’t make our timeline go any faster, due to spacing of life events/ children. Thankfully, my family is relatively fertile on my mom’s side. I’d love more, but if it happens, it will be before 40. |
Anonymous
You are fully on the way to being an older mom if you have a fourth. Nothing wrong with that, but it’s weird that you’re insisting otherwise. |
Anonymous
| Mine was 38. I had my second just before turning 38. Reasoning: too tired and too old. I didn't want to be that old when my kids leave for college. |
Anonymous
| 35-36 is the most normal and safest. Anything older risks mutations, defects, death etc... |