What age is your personal cut off on having kids?
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Anonymous
Do you have children? |
Anonymous
| I always said 35. My parents had me at 40/41 and I've always felt that was too old. Had DS at 30. |
Anonymous
| Wanted to be done at 30, but it ended up being 31. I wouldn’t want to have anymore past 34. |
Anonymous
| 43 is my cut off. I got pregnant right away at 35 and had an easy pregnancy. We started trying right away for baby number 2 and we’re still trying but will give up when I turn 43 and just accept having an only child. I turn 43 in a few months. |
Anonymous
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I definitely wanted to be done before 40. Had first two at 33 and 35 and am pregnant with #3 now at 38. Personally I haven't found the AMA pregnancies to be very different from the first one, except for being marginally more uncomfortable this time around. But we'll see if it's harder to bounce back after delivery after #3 arrives.
If I could have planned out my life, I would have wanted to have my kids earlier as I see a lot of advantages to being done by your early-mid 30s. But in my case I didn't get married till 29, then had trouble getting pregnant with DS1. So I'm just glad I was able to have the kids when I did. |
Anonymous
| My mental cutoff was 45 but no 2 ended up coming at 46. For me the issue is not the pregnancy but later on looking at retirement while paying for college. And living long enough to get them launched. I was so focused on getting pregnant that I really neglected to think long range. But Hoda Kotb just adopted an infant at 55 so I’m a spring chicken. |
Anonymous
| I don’t really have a specific cut off. I’m 39 & would love another kid, but we will see. I’ve never wanted to “get the baby part over with.” In contrast, it goes by way too fast to me. My mom had a baby in her late 40s. |
Anonymous
Two "ended up" coming? So that's IVF--no exactly a matter of chance....I can't imagine how utterly self-consumed you would have to be to adopt an infant at 55. |
Anonymous
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I don’t have a specific age (I’m 33 now) but I know I won’t do IVF, and if I have another miscarriage I’d probably stop.
I have been leaning towards adoption and I don’t have a cut off for that. |
Anonymous
I'm not the pp but it's clear she said number 2. And even if she had Ivf and ended up with two at 46 what is it to you? |
Anonymous
| 35 |
Anonymous
| I had my second baby at 36 and it was a very easy, fit pregnancy. I considered the option of having another at 38 but decided against it. So, I guess my personal cutoff for myself would be 38. |
Anonymous
| Probably 37. I’m 34 now and have two kids. I don’t think a third is in the cards for us at all, but a tiny piece of me wants a third. If it’s going to happen, it will happen by 37. |
Anonymous
| I had my kids at 30 and 33. I would never ever have children in my 40s. So, I guess 39 is my cutoff! |
Anonymous
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43 I guess? I'm currently pregnant with number 1 at 41. Later than I'd hoped, but infertility.
We have one genetically-normal embryo left and a part of me says go for #2 at 43 and just let fate decide with that one embryo. Another part of me hesitates based on age. But no matter what, we're done with fertility treatments. |