Are kids’ fill in the blank thank you cards tacky?

[Anonymous]

When it’s paper, it’s spelled stationery. If you want to brag about how appropriate you are, you should get this right. Spelling and grammar are an even greater indication of being classy than forcing your children to write thank you notes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Thank PP. DC parents are so rude. These are the same parents who can’t be bothered to RSVP to parties either or post things like “what do I do on a play date?” And “why don’t I have friends”— seems so DC, so basic and tedious. Now manners and gratitude are out of style?

Nope. I always RSVP, I host tons of playdates, and have a lot of friends. But I think thank you notes as a tradition cannot go away fast enough. Also equating "gratitude" with "thank you note" is just silly and egotistical.

How in the world is it egotistical to thank someone for a gift? Is it because it’s written? Is that what makes it egotistical? How do your kids thank people for their gifts in a personal way?

Equating "gratitude" with "thank you note" is indeed egotistical, because you are putting your desire for a specific, very limited, and proscribed format of expressing gratitude ahead of the expression of gratitude itself.

Honestly, don't give gifts if all you care about is the format of the thank you. You are missing the point entirely of giving. I love giving gifts, and I do not care if I get a text, a note, a call, or whatever. It's irrelevant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When it’s paper, it’s spelled stationery. If you want to brag about how appropriate you are, you should get this right. Spelling and grammar are an even greater indication of being classy than forcing your children to write thank you notes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank PP. DC parents are so rude. These are the same parents who can’t be bothered to RSVP to parties either or post things like “what do I do on a play date?” And “why don’t I have friends”— seems so DC, so basic and tedious. Now manners and gratitude are out of style?

Nope. I always RSVP, I host tons of playdates, and have a lot of friends. But I think thank you notes as a tradition cannot go away fast enough. Also equating "gratitude" with "thank you note" is just silly and egotistical.

How in the world is it egotistical to thank someone for a gift? Is it because it’s written? Is that what makes it egotistical? How do your kids thank people for their gifts in a personal way?

Equating "gratitude" with "thank you note" is indeed egotistical, because you are putting your desire for a specific, very limited, and proscribed format of expressing gratitude ahead of the expression of gratitude itself.

Honestly, don't give gifts if all you care about is the format of the thank you. You are missing the point entirely of giving. I love giving gifts, and I do not care if I get a text, a note, a call, or whatever. It's irrelevant.

+ a million

[Anonymous]

Did any of you read the Diary of a Wimpy kid where Greg uses a template to thank his aunt for sending him pants? It was pretty funny.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank PP. DC parents are so rude. These are the same parents who can’t be bothered to RSVP to parties either or post things like “what do I do on a play date?” And “why don’t I have friends”— seems so DC, so basic and tedious. Now manners and gratitude are out of style?

Nope. I always RSVP, I host tons of playdates, and have a lot of friends. But I think thank you notes as a tradition cannot go away fast enough. Also equating "gratitude" with "thank you note" is just silly and egotistical.

How in the world is it egotistical to thank someone for a gift? Is it because it’s written? Is that what makes it egotistical? How do your kids thank people for their gifts in a personal way?

Equating "gratitude" with "thank you note" is indeed egotistical, because you are putting your desire for a specific, very limited, and proscribed format of expressing gratitude ahead of the expression of gratitude itself.

Honestly, don't give gifts if all you care about is the format of the thank you. You are missing the point entirely of giving. I love giving gifts, and I do not care if I get a text, a note, a call, or whatever. It's irrelevant.

But I'm not. I'm the same PP who said that I'm fine with a text, email, in-person thank you, etc. Your wording above was ambiguous at best. You seem to be saying that the expectation of a mandatory written note is problematic, but what you said could easily be taken to mean that the choice to write physical thank you notes is egotistical.

Whatever. We agree. Except I admit to caring a tiny bit about getting some sort thank you, vs. none at all. I don't stop giving gifts-- even to that child or adult-- on account of it, but it would be really nice. And I don't like people advocating for not bothering to thank others (AT ALL) for their generosity.

It's prescribed, though. Not proscribed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your opinion? Is it better for me to writ something out and have him sign?

Yes to your first question and yes that you should write them and hevsigns.

[Anonymous]

Ew I didn’t know there was such thing. Yes write something out. I’d be a little offended

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ew I didn’t know there was such thing. Yes write something out. I’d be a little offended

Just don't give gifts to anyone, and everyone will be happier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank PP. DC parents are so rude. These are the same parents who can’t be bothered to RSVP to parties either or post things like “what do I do on a play date?” And “why don’t I have friends”— seems so DC, so basic and tedious. Now manners and gratitude are out of style?

Nope. I always RSVP, I host tons of playdates, and have a lot of friends. But I think thank you notes as a tradition cannot go away fast enough. Also equating "gratitude" with "thank you note" is just silly and egotistical.

How in the world is it egotistical to thank someone for a gift? Is it because it’s written? Is that what makes it egotistical? How do your kids thank people for their gifts in a personal way?

Equating "gratitude" with "thank you note" is indeed egotistical, because you are putting your desire for a specific, very limited, and proscribed format of expressing gratitude ahead of the expression of gratitude itself.

Honestly, don't give gifts if all you care about is the format of the thank you. You are missing the point entirely of giving. I love giving gifts, and I do not care if I get a text, a note, a call, or whatever. It's irrelevant.

But I'm not. I'm the same PP who said that I'm fine with a text, email, in-person thank you, etc. Your wording above was ambiguous at best. You seem to be saying that the expectation of a mandatory written note is problematic, but what you said could easily be taken to mean that the choice to write physical thank you notes is egotistical.

Whatever. We agree. Except I admit to caring a tiny bit about getting some sort thank you, vs. none at all. I don't stop giving gifts-- even to that child or adult-- on account of it, but it would be really nice. And I don't like people advocating for not bothering to thank others (AT ALL) for their generosity.

It's prescribed, though. Not proscribed.

Have you never heard of auto-correct? My guess if you feel the need to nitpick spelling and auto-correct errors on DCUM, you are also the type who criticizes five-year-olds for their insufficient thank you notes. They are better off without your gifts and your ego. Just stop giving gifts. You'll be happier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank PP. DC parents are so rude. These are the same parents who can’t be bothered to RSVP to parties either or post things like “what do I do on a play date?” And “why don’t I have friends”— seems so DC, so basic and tedious. Now manners and gratitude are out of style?

Nope. I always RSVP, I host tons of playdates, and have a lot of friends. But I think thank you notes as a tradition cannot go away fast enough. Also equating "gratitude" with "thank you note" is just silly and egotistical.

How in the world is it egotistical to thank someone for a gift? Is it because it’s written? Is that what makes it egotistical? How do your kids thank people for their gifts in a personal way?

Equating "gratitude" with "thank you note" is indeed egotistical, because you are putting your desire for a specific, very limited, and proscribed format of expressing gratitude ahead of the expression of gratitude itself.

Honestly, don't give gifts if all you care about is the format of the thank you. You are missing the point entirely of giving. I love giving gifts, and I do not care if I get a text, a note, a call, or whatever. It's irrelevant.

But I'm not. I'm the same PP who said that I'm fine with a text, email, in-person thank you, etc. Your wording above was ambiguous at best. You seem to be saying that the expectation of a mandatory written note is problematic, but what you said could easily be taken to mean that the choice to write physical thank you notes is egotistical.

Whatever. We agree. Except I admit to caring a tiny bit about getting some sort thank you, vs. none at all. I don't stop giving gifts-- even to that child or adult-- on account of it, but it would be really nice. And I don't like people advocating for not bothering to thank others (AT ALL) for their generosity.

It's prescribed, though. Not proscribed.

Have you never heard of auto-correct? My guess if you feel the need to nitpick spelling and auto-correct errors on DCUM, you are also the type who criticizes five-year-olds for their insufficient thank you notes. They are better off without your gifts and your ego. Just stop giving gifts. You'll be happier.

Oh, FFS. I already— repeatedly!— said I’m happy with literally ANY form of thank you. If autocorrect substituted the much less commonly-used proscribed for prescribed, I’d be shocked, but sure. Use my mild correction of your word choice to prove that I’m an evil etiquette witch straight out of Hansel & Gretel. It’s true, you know— when a 5-year-old sends me anything but a 3-page letter written in blood (and cursive), I tear it up in his face while cackling wildly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank PP. DC parents are so rude. These are the same parents who can’t be bothered to RSVP to parties either or post things like “what do I do on a play date?” And “why don’t I have friends”— seems so DC, so basic and tedious. Now manners and gratitude are out of style?

Nope. I always RSVP, I host tons of playdates, and have a lot of friends. But I think thank you notes as a tradition cannot go away fast enough. Also equating "gratitude" with "thank you note" is just silly and egotistical.

How in the world is it egotistical to thank someone for a gift? Is it because it’s written? Is that what makes it egotistical? How do your kids thank people for their gifts in a personal way?

Equating "gratitude" with "thank you note" is indeed egotistical, because you are putting your desire for a specific, very limited, and proscribed format of expressing gratitude ahead of the expression of gratitude itself.

Honestly, don't give gifts if all you care about is the format of the thank you. You are missing the point entirely of giving. I love giving gifts, and I do not care if I get a text, a note, a call, or whatever. It's irrelevant.

But I'm not. I'm the same PP who said that I'm fine with a text, email, in-person thank you, etc. Your wording above was ambiguous at best. You seem to be saying that the expectation of a mandatory written note is problematic, but what you said could easily be taken to mean that the choice to write physical thank you notes is egotistical.

Whatever. We agree. Except I admit to caring a tiny bit about getting some sort thank you, vs. none at all. I don't stop giving gifts-- even to that child or adult-- on account of it, but it would be really nice. And I don't like people advocating for not bothering to thank others (AT ALL) for their generosity.

It's prescribed, though. Not proscribed.

Have you never heard of auto-correct? My guess if you feel the need to nitpick spelling and auto-correct errors on DCUM, you are also the type who criticizes five-year-olds for their insufficient thank you notes. They are better off without your gifts and your ego. Just stop giving gifts. You'll be happier.

Oh, FFS. I already— repeatedly!— said I’m happy with literally ANY form of thank you. If autocorrect substituted the much less commonly-used proscribed for prescribed, I’d be shocked, but sure. Use my mild correction of your word choice to prove that I’m an evil etiquette witch straight out of Hansel & Gretel. It’s true, you know— when a 5-year-old sends me anything but a 3-page letter written in blood (and cursive), I tear it up in his face while cackling wildly.

NP. Adverbs aren't hyphenated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank PP. DC parents are so rude. These are the same parents who can’t be bothered to RSVP to parties either or post things like “what do I do on a play date?” And “why don’t I have friends”— seems so DC, so basic and tedious. Now manners and gratitude are out of style?

Nope. I always RSVP, I host tons of playdates, and have a lot of friends. But I think thank you notes as a tradition cannot go away fast enough. Also equating "gratitude" with "thank you note" is just silly and egotistical.

How in the world is it egotistical to thank someone for a gift? Is it because it’s written? Is that what makes it egotistical? How do your kids thank people for their gifts in a personal way?

Equating "gratitude" with "thank you note" is indeed egotistical, because you are putting your desire for a specific, very limited, and proscribed format of expressing gratitude ahead of the expression of gratitude itself.

Honestly, don't give gifts if all you care about is the format of the thank you. You are missing the point entirely of giving. I love giving gifts, and I do not care if I get a text, a note, a call, or whatever. It's irrelevant.

But I'm not. I'm the same PP who said that I'm fine with a text, email, in-person thank you, etc. Your wording above was ambiguous at best. You seem to be saying that the expectation of a mandatory written note is problematic, but what you said could easily be taken to mean that the choice to write physical thank you notes is egotistical.

Whatever. We agree. Except I admit to caring a tiny bit about getting some sort thank you, vs. none at all. I don't stop giving gifts-- even to that child or adult-- on account of it, but it would be really nice. And I don't like people advocating for not bothering to thank others (AT ALL) for their generosity.

It's prescribed, though. Not proscribed.

Have you never heard of auto-correct? My guess if you feel the need to nitpick spelling and auto-correct errors on DCUM, you are also the type who criticizes five-year-olds for their insufficient thank you notes. They are better off without your gifts and your ego. Just stop giving gifts. You'll be happier.

Oh, FFS. I already— repeatedly!— said I’m happy with literally ANY form of thank you. If autocorrect substituted the much less commonly-used proscribed for prescribed, I’d be shocked, but sure. Use my mild correction of your word choice to prove that I’m an evil etiquette witch straight out of Hansel & Gretel. It’s true, you know— when a 5-year-old sends me anything but a 3-page letter written in blood (and cursive), I tear it up in his face while cackling wildly.

You don't know how autocorrect works. I use the term regularly, which is why it was substituted, because I use it a lot. Autocorrect learns your language.

[Anonymous]

Autocorrect can also be corrected/ changed when it is wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Autocorrect can also be corrected/ changed when it is wrong.

Yes, but normal, happy people who aren't obsessed with whether five-year-olds write adequate thank you notes in only one particular format also don't tend to worry about autocorrect typos on anonymous random websites. I don't bother fixing mine most of the time.

This thread makes me feel so sad for most of you on this thread. So rigid, so sad.