Are kids’ fill in the blank thank you cards tacky?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not tacky when they're very young (perhaps through 2nd grade?). Good training and certainly faster than making 10-15 cards, which may never get done.

Through second grade?! No! Fine for a preschooler or kindergartener. By first grade, a kid should be able to write his or her own some thank you notes.

[Anonymous]

For the youngest of children I think it’s sorta cute.

Like 3-4, and for people you are close with.

[Anonymous]

Fine for young children, we all understand little hands get tired and you have better things to do than write all the cards.

However, I've never seen one from a child in upper elementary and beyond. At that point, unless there are special needs, kids are expected to be able to write their thank yous by hand.

[Anonymous]

Yes, tacky, but not as bad as a video thank you or a mass “thank you for the gift” email.

[Anonymous]

Tacky is the fact that you actually made a post about it.

[Anonymous]

Don’t care about tacky, but part of the reason I have my kids do thank you notes is that they need the writing practice, so that would defeat the purpose for me.

[Anonymous]

Awful. Hate and judge them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe anyone would think they are tacky. Since my son was 4 he has written his own “form letter” that we have then scanned and printed out for him to fill out. “Dear ______, Thank you for _________, it is __________.” Then he writes I love you and signs his name. It’s adorable to read the descriptors he uses. One year he thanked a giver for a toy football, which he described as “lovely.”

My son is an extremely precocious reader and writer and there is no WAY we could have suffered through the 10-15 notes he would need to write for any given birthday without this form. Even with the form it is a lot of effort on both of our parts to get them done. People have always commented on how they enjoyed the note and a number of moms have complimented and then used “my idea” (in quotes bc of course I didn’t think of it. I may have even read about it on here.) I honestly cannot imagine someone finding it tacky. My son did the form again recently for his 6th birthday. Maybe we will attempt full notes next year but once again, he has been writing for a long time. A lot of kindergartners are still working on letter formation. I can’t imagine anyone holding this against a child.

I don’t find any form of thank you “tacky” but I think it’s silly when parents write the thank you note in the kid’s voice. It’s not teaching the kid anything and feels too cutesy. If the kid is too young to be a part of the note, just thank the person on their behalf in your regular voice.

Omg you’re annoying.
Sincerely,
Everyone

[Anonymous]

I don't like them. Send a real thank you, or none at all and receive no more gifts. Just own it. And for God's sake don't call me- I do not want to talk to your child.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think they’re tacky. I used them with my pre-K and kg kid.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think they’re tacky at all. I might not use them for relatives for Christmas or Birthday gifts but I would use these for a big birthday party when thanking children for their gifts. It’s hard to write 20 thank you notes. My children could not write a note at all at 3 or 4 and at 5 I still have to help spell every word. I know she’ll get better in Kindergarten but her older brother also needed help through the end of first grade on how to write a thank you note. Also, I’d be happy to even receive a thank you note, I haven’t got one in years from a child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends on kid. Since age 3, I expect my kid to make some effort on thank you notes. Even if is just signing her name and drawing a pic. She is 6 now and is on her second order of personalized stationary. Im from the south so I think all cards should be monogrammed (and definitely don't have THANK YOU preprinted on them). Its sooooo tedious but my family really really loves to get them. They also send her tons of gifts so she better show some appreciation and make the effort. No excuses.

We do the same.

The fill-in-the-blank cards are cute, but it feels a bit like a list. The birthday child literally had to write the person’s name, gift, and one adjective before signing their name. It doesn’t feel right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe anyone would think they are tacky. Since my son was 4 he has written his own “form letter” that we have then scanned and printed out for him to fill out. “Dear ______, Thank you for _________, it is __________.” Then he writes I love you and signs his name. It’s adorable to read the descriptors he uses. One year he thanked a giver for a toy football, which he described as “lovely.”

My son is an extremely precocious reader and writer and there is no WAY we could have suffered through the 10-15 notes he would need to write for any given birthday without this form. Even with the form it is a lot of effort on both of our parts to get them done. People have always commented on how they enjoyed the note and a number of moms have complimented and then used “my idea” (in quotes bc of course I didn’t think of it. I may have even read about it on here.) I honestly cannot imagine someone finding it tacky. My son did the form again recently for his 6th birthday. Maybe we will attempt full notes next year but once again, he has been writing for a long time. A lot of kindergartners are still working on letter formation. I can’t imagine anyone holding this against a child.

I don’t find any form of thank you “tacky” but I think it’s silly when parents write the thank you note in the kid’s voice. It’s not teaching the kid anything and feels too cutesy. If the kid is too young to be a part of the note, just thank the person on their behalf in your regular voice.

Omg you’re annoying.
Sincerely,
Everyone

Agree with PP. What kind of person has their child fiill out a form letter?

A TACKY ONE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your opinion? Is it better for me to writ something out and have him sign?

Yes, without equivocation. If your kid cannot write or print, you write the note and kid can scribble his name. Sadly, I have come around to accepting email and text thank you as this is better than none. Verbal thank you for gifts are unacceptable. Teach your kids manners as they will be judged by them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends on kid. Since age 3, I expect my kid to make some effort on thank you notes. Even if is just signing her name and drawing a pic. She is 6 now and is on her second order of personalized stationary. Im from the south so I think all cards should be monogrammed (and definitely don't have THANK YOU preprinted on them). Its sooooo tedious but my family really really loves to get them. They also send her tons of gifts so she better show some appreciation and make the effort. No excuses.

This sounds exhausting.