Do women really always know when their DH is cheating or in love with someone else?

[Anonymous]

It’s just sex so who cares? I’m the end, you’re the one he comes home to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"most men cheat when they are about 45-55 because they are having a mid-life crissis - NOTHING to do with their wives. They are unhappy with their jobs, bodies, sexiual function"

No, most of them are unhappy with their wife and/or marriage. so yes it has a lot to do with the wives.

No, the first person was right. They are unhappy with their LIVES and blame their wives. Quite common.

It’s called the Happiness U-curve. Very common to be generally unhappy in your 40’s/50’s regardless of what’s going on around you. Then you blame spouse/job/lifepath/kids/etc and blowup your life. But if you just hold on, it’ll get better naturally.

https://amp.theatlantic.com/amp/article/382235/?client=safari

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just found out my husband has been having an emotional affair. Had no idea. He was neither happier or sadder (at home).

How'd you find out? Are you sure it wasn't physical?

[Anonymous]

I knew something was off when my husband was cheating, but only connected the dots when it was confirmed.

[Anonymous]

I had one friend who was completely blindsided by her live-in boyfriend when he cheated and left her. Then he married the girl he left her for within the year. Meanwhile, my friend had been with him for several years. She didn't see it coming.

And one friend who discovered her husband had been cheating on her from before they were even married. Several years and two kids later, she ends up with an STI and gets suspicious and it all comes out. That one always blows my mind b/c he went into the marriage already cheating on her and she had no idea.

[Anonymous]

Many years ago a guy at work cheated with his secretary who he eventually married and five years later he cheated on her and she was "surprised". Really???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just found out my husband has been having an emotional affair. Had no idea. He was neither happier or sadder (at home).

I don’t mean to be dense, but what is an emotional affair?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had one friend who was completely blindsided by her live-in boyfriend when he cheated and left her. Then he married the girl he left her for within the year. Meanwhile, my friend had been with him for several years. She didn't see it coming.

And one friend who discovered her husband had been cheating on her from before they were even married. Several years and two kids later, she ends up with an STI and gets suspicious and it all comes out. That one always blows my mind b/c he went into the marriage already cheating on her and she had no idea.

This doesn't even make sense to me. Why cheat on a girlfriend? Not that you should ever cheat, but there is no legal commitment to a girlfriend, just break up and whore around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s just sex so who cares? I’m the end, you’re the one he comes home to.

Yes, and he’ll also bring back some nice gifts like HPV, HIV, etc. What more could you ask for?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have 3 friends who did not know their DHs were having affairs and were shocked to learn. Two had DHs who had mistresses...one for 10 years and the other for 12 years. Both of these friends have 3 kids and were busy raising them and juggling work/social obligations. Their DHs seemed attentive and the couples happy. Both friends learned when someone else told them. One learned from the OW and the other from a friend of the OW (and hers). The 3rd’s DH was caught in a 2 year affair when a distant relative some her DH with the OW in another City and videoed it.

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What happened to the three relationships? Divorce?