S/O: Tipping makes me feel great! Tell your stories.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tipping is like giving money to beggars
It makes me feel awkward, feel like I am humiliating someone

+1

That's why European have both giving and receiving tips.

It's demeaning.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel great when everyone is paid a living wage.

I was about to say this. No one else find this post super icky and self-congratulatory?

OP here. You know what I, personally, can't do? Guarantee everyone a living wage.

Here's what I CAN do:
1) Vote in ways I feel is consistent with my social values.
2) Advocate for policies I feel are consistent with my social values.
3) Create jobs in my organization (CHECK)
4) Tip well when and where I can
5) Start feel-good threads

I've done good in the ways that I have the capacity to do good today. Have you?

Omg you’re insufferable.

No, she or he is quite entirely correct.

If you do not want to tip, eat at home, do not stay at hotels, and carry your own luggage. Saying that people should be paid a living wage and thus you’re off the hook is too often a cover for contempt for “menial” workers.

You are missing the lint. I think nearly everyone tips at sit down restaurants with waiters. I also think most people tip bellman, taxis, hairdressers and other people where tipping is generally understood to be part of accepting the service. Most people don’t tip housekeeping in a hotel. It is not generally accepted that that industry requires a tip of you use them. Im sure I encounter thousands of people annually who do something to help my life and they are making $10-$11 an hour and I don’t tip them. I can’t tip everyone and neither can you. It doesn’t make me a bad person or you a good one because you tip maids. You can’t give to every beggar, every gofundme, every sob story, etc. that’s fine that you tip maids but to have a thread like this is kinda sad.

Show me exactly where anyone has suggested on this thread that you need to tip EVERYONE who makes a low wage, or EVERYONE is helpful to you.

I'll wait.

Oh, but no one has said that! People are sharing nice stories of giving or receiving a tip. Point blank period. This is not meant to be a "tip everyone or else you are a bad person" thread. So your "points" are completely moot, because you're arguing against statements that were never made. Sorry!

Someone above said, “If you don’t want to tip, don’t stay at hotels.” I was responding to that. I am not tipping housekeeping at hotels. If you do, great. You’re not better than a non-tipper but you sure like to be self-congratulatory.

You don't tip housekeeping at all when you stay at hotels?

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Anonymous wrote:I feel great when everyone is paid a living wage.

I was about to say this. No one else find this post super icky and self-congratulatory?

OP here. You know what I, personally, can't do? Guarantee everyone a living wage.

Here's what I CAN do:
1) Vote in ways I feel is consistent with my social values.
2) Advocate for policies I feel are consistent with my social values.
3) Create jobs in my organization (CHECK)
4) Tip well when and where I can
5) Start feel-good threads

I've done good in the ways that I have the capacity to do good today. Have you?

Omg you’re insufferable.

No, she or he is quite entirely correct.

If you do not want to tip, eat at home, do not stay at hotels, and carry your own luggage. Saying that people should be paid a living wage and thus you’re off the hook is too often a cover for contempt for “menial” workers.

You are missing the lint. I think nearly everyone tips at sit down restaurants with waiters. I also think most people tip bellman, taxis, hairdressers and other people where tipping is generally understood to be part of accepting the service. Most people don’t tip housekeeping in a hotel. It is not generally accepted that that industry requires a tip of you use them. Im sure I encounter thousands of people annually who do something to help my life and they are making $10-$11 an hour and I don’t tip them. I can’t tip everyone and neither can you. It doesn’t make me a bad person or you a good one because you tip maids. You can’t give to every beggar, every gofundme, every sob story, etc. that’s fine that you tip maids but to have a thread like this is kinda sad.

Show me exactly where anyone has suggested on this thread that you need to tip EVERYONE who makes a low wage, or EVERYONE is helpful to you.

I'll wait.

Oh, but no one has said that! People are sharing nice stories of giving or receiving a tip. Point blank period. This is not meant to be a "tip everyone or else you are a bad person" thread. So your "points" are completely moot, because you're arguing against statements that were never made. Sorry!

Someone above said, “If you don’t want to tip, don’t stay at hotels.” I was responding to that. I am not tipping housekeeping at hotels. If you do, great. You’re not better than a non-tipper but you sure like to be self-congratulatory.

You don't tip housekeeping at all when you stay at hotels?

Correct. Neither do most people. Put your peepers back in your head.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Omg the person posting numerous times is like the tipping nazi. Off topic in her opinion? - she’ll call you out on it. Saying you don’t want to tip, makes you u comfortable, move along. Tell her she’s self congratulatory (which she is) - get snipped at.

You tip maids. Great. You want to blab about it because that is what makes you feel good - you did it —so move on.

Couldn't agree more. The "do YOU feel good about what YOU did today?" post is the worst. These people have such blinders on.

[Anonymous]

When I was working two jobs in college, my tips meant so much to me. I worked at a busy restaurant, and we were always slammed around graduation time...but the tips and the stories that came with them were awesome.

I once waited on a table where the graduate was the first one in his family to graduate from college. I brought over complimentary dessert to celebrate, truly not expecting anything more than normal. They tipped $50 on top of what a regular 15-20% tip would have been. It was so nice and I will never forget it.

[Anonymous]

Tips at a restaurant are industry standard, esp since most wait staff make less than minimum wage.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I feel great when everyone is paid a living wage.

I was about to say this. No one else find this post super icky and self-congratulatory?

OP here. You know what I, personally, can't do? Guarantee everyone a living wage.

Here's what I CAN do:
1) Vote in ways I feel is consistent with my social values.
2) Advocate for policies I feel are consistent with my social values.
3) Create jobs in my organization (CHECK)
4) Tip well when and where I can
5) Start feel-good threads

I've done good in the ways that I have the capacity to do good today. Have you?

Omg you’re insufferable.

No, she or he is quite entirely correct.

If you do not want to tip, eat at home, do not stay at hotels, and carry your own luggage. Saying that people should be paid a living wage and thus you’re off the hook is too often a cover for contempt for “menial” workers.

You are missing the lint. I think nearly everyone tips at sit down restaurants with waiters. I also think most people tip bellman, taxis, hairdressers and other people where tipping is generally understood to be part of accepting the service. Most people don’t tip housekeeping in a hotel. It is not generally accepted that that industry requires a tip of you use them. Im sure I encounter thousands of people annually who do something to help my life and they are making $10-$11 an hour and I don’t tip them. I can’t tip everyone and neither can you. It doesn’t make me a bad person or you a good one because you tip maids. You can’t give to every beggar, every gofundme, every sob story, etc. that’s fine that you tip maids but to have a thread like this is kinda sad.

I think of that as completely standard--same as all the others you mentioned.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel great when everyone is paid a living wage.

I was about to say this. No one else find this post super icky and self-congratulatory?

OP here. You know what I, personally, can't do? Guarantee everyone a living wage.

Here's what I CAN do:
1) Vote in ways I feel is consistent with my social values.
2) Advocate for policies I feel are consistent with my social values.
3) Create jobs in my organization (CHECK)
4) Tip well when and where I can
5) Start feel-good threads

I've done good in the ways that I have the capacity to do good today. Have you?

Omg you’re insufferable.

No, she or he is quite entirely correct.

If you do not want to tip, eat at home, do not stay at hotels, and carry your own luggage. Saying that people should be paid a living wage and thus you’re off the hook is too often a cover for contempt for “menial” workers.

You are missing the lint. I think nearly everyone tips at sit down restaurants with waiters. I also think most people tip bellman, taxis, hairdressers and other people where tipping is generally understood to be part of accepting the service. Most people don’t tip housekeeping in a hotel. It is not generally accepted that that industry requires a tip of you use them. Im sure I encounter thousands of people annually who do something to help my life and they are making $10-$11 an hour and I don’t tip them. I can’t tip everyone and neither can you. It doesn’t make me a bad person or you a good one because you tip maids. You can’t give to every beggar, every gofundme, every sob story, etc. that’s fine that you tip maids but to have a thread like this is kinda sad.

I think of that as completely standard--same as all the others you mentioned.

The fact that you do so doesn’t mean it is stands or most people do. The fact that surveys quoted online prove most people do t is what dictates is the standard. We call that reality. Visit it sometime.

[Anonymous]

Stands = standard

[Anonymous]

Somebody was in line in front of me at the grocery store and her card got declined. I paid for her groceries. Does that count?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Omg the person posting numerous times is like the tipping nazi. Off topic in her opinion? - she’ll call you out on it. Saying you don’t want to tip, makes you u comfortable, move along. Tell her she’s self congratulatory (which she is) - get snipped at.

You tip maids. Great. You want to blab about it because that is what makes you feel good - you did it —so move on.

Couldn't agree more. The "do YOU feel good about what YOU did today?" post is the worst. These people have such blinders on.

No, "the worst" is people who stomp all over something nice for no reason. No, of course you can't tip everyone, and of course you personally can't facilitate a living wage for every worker. Do what you can, how you want to. At the very least, don't sneer at someone doing something nice. And yeah, it does feel good to do nice things, that's part of why people do nice things! That's not the sole motivation, but hey...why not feel good?

[Anonymous]

You don’t get it at all. Doing nice things for others feels great for all of us. But following up a thread that specifically discussed how many don’t tip housekeeping at all with a thread patting yourself on the back FOR tipping it’s what annoying. Believe it or not, others can be generous and selfless without gettin’ on a soapbox about it. Try it sometime.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Restaurant workers get over a $100 per evening shift. That is not low wages.
Compare that to what a teacher makes for same amount of time

That's one level of restaurant workers.

My daughter makes about $800-$1000 per week in tips for about 30-35 hrs of work as a server.

One time some drunk Republicans (it was near and after a Trump rally) tipped her $400 on a $100 bar bill when she was bartending.

She makes a good living as a server, she greatly appreciates the tips she gets, she understands when some losers don't get how to tip and leave too little, it doesn't change her attitude toward her work which is to make every patron's experience the best it can possibly be.

I know other servers who make more than she does. One guy I know works in a restaurant in DC just on the weekends and he doesn't get any of the dinner shifts, he makes $400-500 per weekend.

Keep on tipping, that's how that system works, and don't feel sorry for servers. They're mostly doing okay.

Oh, and by the way, the average teacher is making about $40 an hour unless they're brand new.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Somebody was in line in front of me at the grocery store and her card got declined. I paid for her groceries. Does that count?

Someone did that for me once. I had a full cart of groceries and my 3 year old and infant with me. It was about 2 months after my husband left me. I cried the whole way home but it gave me hope that we would be okay (and 10 years later we are)

So thank you very much for doing that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Restaurant workers get over a $100 per evening shift. That is not low wages.
Compare that to what a teacher makes for same amount of time

That's one level of restaurant workers.

My daughter makes about $800-$1000 per week in tips for about 30-35 hrs of work as a server.

One time some drunk Republicans (it was near and after a Trump rally) tipped her $400 on a $100 bar bill when she was bartending.

She makes a good living as a server, she greatly appreciates the tips she gets, she understands when some losers don't get how to tip and leave too little, it doesn't change her attitude toward her work which is to make every patron's experience the best it can possibly be.

I know other servers who make more than she does. One guy I know works in a restaurant in DC just on the weekends and he doesn't get any of the dinner shifts, he makes $400-500 per weekend.

Keep on tipping, that's how that system works, and don't feel sorry for servers. They're mostly doing okay.

Oh, and by the way, the average teacher is making about $40 an hour unless they're brand new.

The bag teacher makes $29/hr. https://work.chron.com/hourly-wages-teachers-2044.html

Your daughter makes more than the avg teachers, at 800-1000 a week. She probably has less student loans, as well. Go see how people feel about giving teacher gifts. I’ll see if I can find the thread.