My dad bought me a scale! UPDATE!!

[Anonymous]

To summarize this nutty post:

Sounds like

OP's dad sent her a scale.

He SAYS it's from amazon, but it's wrapped in paper so it's not from amazon...he home-wrapped it.

He must have put something inside there and OP has not opened the scale, so she hasn't found out what.

Because OP hasn't found out what is inside the box (besides the scale), her dad knows she hasn't opened it.

So her dad says "I know you didn't open the box from amazon because they track when gifts are opened." Total BS just to explain why he knows she didn't open the box.

OP believes her dad sent her the scale from amazon, and that amazon is tracking her opening it. She believes her dad's BS

Her dad is really, really nuts in a manipulative or bad way...UNLESS it's a surprise gift and there is something nice inside along with the scale, or a gag gift. (did this scale come on April 1? April Fool's Day?)

SOLUTION: OP open the damn box all the way, and report back to us!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If "you" say could lose 15 lbs that means its probably at leat 20.

Go ahead though, be "healthy at every size."

And blame your father whose motives are probably pure but whose tactics and communication skills are, like all dads, perhaps a bit wanting.

Just because you are seriously raising your risk of heart disease, diabetes, and cancer doesn't mean you will get any of those. Roll those dice!

It is abnormal to obsess about another grown (50+!) adult's weight. It's not like Op is so fat that she is having a hard time getting around and needs intervention. She's put on 15 pounds which is actually not that abnormal for a woman of her age. Her eating habits aren't off the rails and she is managing her own life thank you very much.

Her dad was out of line. Is it possible that he's getting senile?

Agree that his behavior is abnormal. It is tricky because in a lot of ways he is a fantastic father.

My vote is #2

—- op

Three possibilities - 1) misplaced anxiety is causing him to fret and blow small things way out of proportion 2) he is needling you and trying to prompt an angry reaction in you 3) he is losing it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I actually would really like a scale. How is this different than him giving you a yoga mat, running shoes or a diet book for a gift?

Why are you being so passive aggressive? Yell back if you don’t like his gift. A thumbs up obviously isn’t getting your message across.

Because I don’t want to argue with him. I am sure that this is what would happen. Better to deflect and disengage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I actually would really like a scale. How is this different than him giving you a yoga mat, running shoes or a diet book for a gift?

Why are you being so passive aggressive? Yell back if you don’t like his gift. A thumbs up obviously isn’t getting your message across.

DP A scale doesn't help the person get healthy like a yoga mat or running shoes. To me, Dad is the passive aggressive one. Sounds like dad doesn't care how she gets thin. starvation is ok as long as you are thin! I'm sure Dad has communicated that he is disappointed in op and as someone who has a family member do the same thing it gets old and sometimes you do get tired of talking about it. You just want them to my their own business. Especially as a middle aged women!

PP, You hit the nail on the head! Thank you, OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I actually would really like a scale. How is this different than him giving you a yoga mat, running shoes or a diet book for a gift?

Why are you being so passive aggressive? Yell back if you don’t like his gift. A thumbs up obviously isn’t getting your message across.

Because I don’t want to argue with him. I am sure that this is what would happen. Better to deflect and disengage.

I agree with OP. It’s about what she wants and about her family dynamics. Just because someone else has running shoes on her list does not make them a sensitive or welcome gift to everyone. Have empathy, people!

OP, your reaction, or lack thereof, is the perfect way to disengage. It doesn’t matter whether or not your dad actually knows you unwrapped it, etc. He knows you did not welcome the gift and he knows you’re not going to fight about it. End of discussion.

[Anonymous]

Will you just open the damn thing all the way and be done with it? IF you still don’t like what’s inside then give it to someone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait, how would amazon even know it wasn’t opened yet?

Alexa sends the data back to the mother ship.

Yes, she is watching and listening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To summarize this nutty post:

Sounds like

OP's dad sent her a scale.

He SAYS it's from amazon, but it's wrapped in paper so it's not from amazon...he home-wrapped it.

He must have put something inside there and OP has not opened the scale, so she hasn't found out what.

Because OP hasn't found out what is inside the box (besides the scale), her dad knows she hasn't opened it.

So her dad says "I know you didn't open the box from amazon because they track when gifts are opened." Total BS just to explain why he knows she didn't open the box.

OP believes her dad sent her the scale from amazon, and that amazon is tracking her opening it. She believes her dad's BS

Her dad is really, really nuts in a manipulative or bad way...UNLESS it's a surprise gift and there is something nice inside along with the scale, or a gag gift. (did this scale come on April 1? April Fool's Day?)

SOLUTION: OP open the damn box all the way, and report back to us!

AMEN!!! Open the damn box all the way!!!

[Anonymous]

Opened just now!! Just a scale! I also agree the tracking thing sounds like BS, and I promise I am not a troll!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Opened just now!! Just a scale! I also agree the tracking thing sounds like BS, and I promise I am not a troll!

Now let's see how long it takes him to get the notification you opened it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe give it back to him on Christmas?

It would be the ultimate re-gift for a man obsessed with weight!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My brother in law is fat and wants to lose weight. I ask him what he plans to do about it and oh yeah does he own a scale? No

Do you also ask him if he knows how to use a scale? Maybe you need to show him how?

He is thin, obsessed with his weight, and always has been this way..,

—— OP

He probably doesnt eat much and can control cravings?

[Anonymous]

Are you single ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My brother in law is fat and wants to lose weight. I ask him what he plans to do about it and oh yeah does he own a scale? No

Do you also ask him if he knows how to use a scale? Maybe you need to show him how?

He is thin, obsessed with his weight, and always has been this way..,

—— OP

He probably doesnt eat much and can control cravings?

He works out a lot, eats well, indulges occasionally —/ op

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you single ?

I mentioned that I was a single mom (adopted a newborn 5 years ago)