Is baby girl more desired than baby boy these days?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm female and all of my friends wanted girls. People love buying clothes and doing girly things with their daughters. I have one of each. Nearly everyone was more excited about my daughter except my inlaws. My inlaws wanted a grandson more.

I love both of my kids equally, but enjoyed everything about having a baby girl more. The external stuff like bows, dresses, decorating her room and she looks like me. I love both kids equally though. I don't enjoy playing trucks or trains the way I love playing dolls with my daughter. And I'm sure some of you have boys that like dolls, but that wasn't my kids. It was weird how my son gravitated to the trucks. Both went to a nearly all girl inhome daycare too.

Basically, you reinforced so-called gender norms, and we wonder why more women don't go into STEM. #minime #boymom

+1

I’m so tired of these norms. I work in an STEM field. DH works in retail (gasp!). If anyone were to post #minime, it would be DH about DD, as she is the spitting image of him. They do all kinds of things, like play soccer, chase zombies, and the like. I “run her” at the park, and we jump in muddy puddles, as he doesn’t like getting dirty.

She does cook and clean with me though. I guess there’s a gender norm.

I'm the PP you responded to -- I'm also in STEM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think women want a girl to share things about their identity. Which is female. But less gender normed than the male counterpart. I wanted to do my daughter’s hair, buy pretty dresses, and share makeup tips, but also teach soccer, chess, advanced math, participate in scouts, and go camping and fishing. Then there’s growing up and going out to lunch and shopping. Gossip. I can do all that with a girl. Can’t with a boy.

Ugh. You sound like my mother. It's like you treat your daughter like a real life version of your baby doll or Barbie. Let her be her without some weird ideas about gender likes or dislikes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have two boys but I do think moms prefer a girl. I think its some mix of shared identity, thinking little girls are easier, better behaved. I do think grandparents prefer boys so maybe its a generational thing also.

Maybe they just want girls to share the household duties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think women want a girl to share things about their identity. Which is female. But less gender normed than the male counterpart. I wanted to do my daughter’s hair, buy pretty dresses, and share makeup tips, but also teach soccer, chess, advanced math, participate in scouts, and go camping and fishing. Then there’s growing up and going out to lunch and shopping. Gossip. I can do all that with a girl. Can’t with a boy.

Ugh. You sound like my mother. It's like you treat your daughter like a real life version of your baby doll or Barbie. Let her be her without some weird ideas about gender likes or dislikes.

I didn’t read that from PP. you missed the point. She was saying you can do male and female things with a girl but only male things with a boy

[Anonymous]

I find it interesting we ask, boy or girl? I always ask too. and then when greeted with the answer I'm like,oh. Because I now realize it doesnt matter, it's just small talk. Every gender, every combo of genders has pluses and minuses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think women want a girl to share things about their identity. Which is female. But less gender normed than the male counterpart. I wanted to do my daughter’s hair, buy pretty dresses, and share makeup tips, but also teach soccer, chess, advanced math, participate in scouts, and go camping and fishing. Then there’s growing up and going out to lunch and shopping. Gossip. I can do all that with a girl. Can’t with a boy.

Ugh. You sound like my mother. It's like you treat your daughter like a real life version of your baby doll or Barbie. Let her be her without some weird ideas about gender likes or dislikes.

I didn’t read that from PP. you missed the point. She was saying you can do male and female things with a girl but only male things with a boy

To which I don't 100% disagree. You can do those things with sons, but some people choose not to do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think women want a girl to share things about their identity. Which is female. But less gender normed than the male counterpart. I wanted to do my daughter’s hair, buy pretty dresses, and share makeup tips, but also teach soccer, chess, advanced math, participate in scouts, and go camping and fishing. Then there’s growing up and going out to lunch and shopping. Gossip. I can do all that with a girl. Can’t with a boy.

Ugh. You sound like my mother. It's like you treat your daughter like a real life version of your baby doll or Barbie. Let her be her without some weird ideas about gender likes or dislikes.

I didn’t read that from PP. you missed the point. She was saying you can do male and female things with a girl but only male things with a boy

To which I don't 100% disagree. You can do those things with sons, but some people choose not to do it.

That should be I 100% disagree.

[Anonymous]

Good friends of ours have 2 girls, DS friends with them since K. Parents are girl gushers since we met them 10 years ago. After a few years of playdates, parents constantly say that they never wanted a boy until they met my son. At 16 yo, they tell him this all the time. Stop demonizing boys. Most are very kind, polite, easygoing and a joy.

[Anonymous]

Boys are the BEST.

[Anonymous]

Boys are great, but when they grow up they'll marry and not stay close to your family the way girls do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Boys are great, but when they grow up they'll marry and not stay close to your family the way girls do.

That's because of the way girls are groomed these days. Boys were groomed to be close to their mothers until US decided they needed to separate them so they had more men to send into 20th century wars. In the not so distant past, a fallen soldier's mother not his wife received the flag laid on his casket. Wives (husbands) can find new husbands (wives), but soldiers' mothers are usually too old to bear more children.

[Anonymous]

This is so random but I remember watching a snippet on Maury where there the guy was like "That ain't my kid, I only make boys" lol.