Is this rude?
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Anonymous
| Your actions now will do far more to hurt this child’s relationship with her aunts. |
Anonymous
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Op do you not realize it is TACKY to throw a baby shower after your first? Your expectations are ridiculous. It was very nice that one sil sent you a bunch of stuff. You are a gift grabber and no one owes you anything. Tacky! |
Anonymous
You have a kid already. How are they with that kid? |
Anonymous
As already pointed out, there is less interest in a sprinkle. Technically, you aren't supposed to have even a sprinkle for children after your first. A shower is done for the first child of a family because when you have a first child, it can be overwhelming to buy and supply everything for the first child. Plus, it is a congratulations for starting your family. When you have successive children, even years later, it is assumed that you kept things from the first. Even if your new child is several years younger than the older one, many things can still be used, blankets, pajamas, bottles, can all be reused. Yes, some people may want to get you a new outfit or something. Even if you have things that cannot be reused (say a car seat that expires, things that are no longer usable, you want different color clothing, etc), it is assumed that there is less to buy and that you are more financially stable than you were a few years ago and you should be resupplying your baby supplies yourself. Typically, rather than a party, people send announcements for later children and then some people will send gifts if they choose. Etiquette does not approve of showers or sprinkles for later children, even though it has become more common lately. That said, you can throw a sprinkle (many do) and you can have a registry, but if you do, don't expect gifts from everyone, especially people who were around for your first child and sent something for your first child. Expect that you'll get less than half of what you got for your first child and be very grateful and appreciative of what you did get and do not resent anyone who chooses not to give you a gift the second time. It's rude to ask for, imply or even expect a gift for a second child, even from family. You are the one who is rude here, not your SILs. As for etiquette, yes, you follow up with a thank you card. For gifts that arrive before or after the sprinkle, you should be sending those within a day or two of receiving the gift. For the party, you can take a few extra days, but you should have all thank you cards posted within a week of the party at the very outside. Assuming that she sent the gift before the party, she should have received the thank you gift by the day of the party or the next day that there is postal service. |
Anonymous
Why do you go? That’s dumb. Also, why do you think MIL let’s them off the hook for family stuff but not you? Does your husband go? |
Anonymous
| And now the story changes. 2nd kid with registry! I wouldn't go either. |