Parents serving alcohol or allowing it in their homes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
When I invite parents and children over for dinner, and serve wine at that dinner, I ask the teens if they want to taste, with their parents' permission. We are French, and this how children start drinking responsibly in France. A sip, not more.

I can't imagine offering alcohol to minors without their parents' express permission, let along letting them drive themselves home afterward.

Yes, Europeans are much smarter about this. Though the UK seems a bit different culturally, ha ha!

There is absolutely no evidence supporting this belief. Rates of alcohol consumption and alcoholism are higher throughout Europe than they are in the US.

No matter though because in the US drunk morons driving cars manage to kill hundreds of people a day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe how many parents are having teens over and providing or allowing them to drink. My daughter is a freshman and there have been several occasions where this has been the situation. Makes it hard to parent! And what are they thinking? This is private school kids FWIW, but I’m sure that part doesn’t matter.

Of course it does--this is a population of parents who are accustomed to shielding themselves and their kids from undesirable consequences with money. Not that it doesn't happen in public schools, but the private schools are actually built for the purpose.

They raise kids who become lawyers who drive with beers in their cupholders and "know the police" so they aren't worried about getting pulled over (true story; Edina, MN, 1999).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe how many parents are having teens over and providing or allowing them to drink. My daughter is a freshman and there have been several occasions where this has been the situation. Makes it hard to parent! And what are they thinking? This is private school kids FWIW, but I’m sure that part doesn’t matter.

Of course it does--this is a population of parents who are accustomed to shielding themselves and their kids from undesirable consequences with money. Not that it doesn't happen in public schools, but the private schools are actually built for the purpose.

They raise kids who become lawyers who drive with beers in their cupholders and "know the police" so they aren't worried about getting pulled over (true story; Edina, MN, 1999).

May be but I went to a big public school and this happened there too a lot

[Anonymous]

I know a lot of lawyers and MDs who do this. Their kids get all As and are leaders at the school. What exactly is the harm? The pearl clutching is comical.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know a lot of lawyers and MDs who do this. Their kids get all As and are leaders at the school. What exactly is the harm? The pearl clutching is comical.

You want a dead kid? You want sexual assault?

I don't call that pearl-clutching.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know a lot of lawyers and MDs who do this. Their kids get all As and are leaders at the school. What exactly is the harm? The pearl clutching is comical.

Jealously from parents of loser kids. It’s why they are online looking for reassurance that all the bad parents are hosting parties, sorry that we want our kids to enjoy life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know a lot of lawyers and MDs who do this. Their kids get all As and are leaders at the school. What exactly is the harm? The pearl clutching is comical.

Jealously from parents of loser kids. It’s why they are online looking for reassurance that all the bad parents are hosting parties, sorry that we want our kids to enjoy life

Are you for real!?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know a lot of lawyers and MDs who do this. Their kids get all As and are leaders at the school. What exactly is the harm? The pearl clutching is comical.

Jealously from parents of loser kids. It’s why they are online looking for reassurance that all the bad parents are hosting parties, sorry that we want our kids to enjoy life

Are you for real!?

No, it's a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the kiddos have good marks, are involved at school (clubs, sports, stu gov) & volunteer who gives a damn if parents let them booze? Rather have kids enjoy a few beers at my house than be God knows where with kids pushing drugs and random boys creeping on them.

The random boys and drugs are also happening at your house parties, fyi.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the kiddos have good marks, are involved at school (clubs, sports, stu gov) & volunteer who gives a damn if parents let them booze? Rather have kids enjoy a few beers at my house than be God knows where with kids pushing drugs and random boys creeping on them.

The random boys and drugs are also happening at your house parties, fyi.

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

From what I have seen (as an outsider and a mom of kids not in the crowd) its loosely about popularity and a certain culture they are grooming the kid for - like frats and sororities. These kids have the looks and skills to end up in top houses. ALL of these kids will rush.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know a lot of lawyers and MDs who do this. Their kids get all As and are leaders at the school. What exactly is the harm? The pearl clutching is comical.

You want a dead kid? You want sexual assault?

I don't call that pearl-clutching.

That is what happens without parents and a party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:From what I have seen (as an outsider and a mom of kids not in the crowd) its loosely about popularity and a certain culture they are grooming the kid for - like frats and sororities. These kids have the looks and skills to end up in top houses. ALL of these kids will rush.

That's what your "not popular kid wants you to think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:From what I have seen (as an outsider and a mom of kids not in the crowd) its loosely about popularity and a certain culture they are grooming the kid for - like frats and sororities. These kids have the looks and skills to end up in top houses. ALL of these kids will rush.

That's what your "not popular kid wants you to think.

Some parents pay attention to their teens. These parents will notice alcohol on the breath - it doesn't matter if the kid sleeps over elsewhere, the smell is detectable for quite a while. I smell it on drunks like you in the office.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know a lot of lawyers and MDs who do this. Their kids get all As and are leaders at the school. What exactly is the harm? The pearl clutching is comical.

What is the harm of serving minors that are not your kid? You are influencing other children that it is ok to break the law and safe to drink. Sure, these parents may make sure the kids do not drive away from thier house, but they have no control over what they do after they leave. And it likely encourages the kids to drink at other times. You are basically telling the kids that thier own parents rules should be ignored.