Hey, asshole, I'm talking to you. I've never met you, but you must be an asshole.

[Anonymous]

the FU poster is a nasty disgusting woman. thank goodness she is not the mother of my child. just gross to act that way in front of a little kid.

[Anonymous]

I would have told her to mind her own f-ing business; don't let it bother you so much, you were having a bad day so you were overly sensative. Just envision yourself sticking your foot out and tripping her as she walks off the curb, that should make you feel better

[Anonymous]

Whether the F U poster finds those terms offensive or not is exactly the problem. It doesn't matter. It's whether her audience finds it offensive that is important. I am sure that the man she was having the dispute with couldn't care less. Even in a civilized world, you can pick your nose in private, but when someone sees it is when it is deemed disgusting. Curse in the privacy of your own home, and leave the rest of us be.

Everyone around her is so "self-centric", OP included. Does your back story really matter if you get hit by a car because you weren't paying attention because for the first time in years you decided to use your ancient cell phone?

Does it really matter that the F U mom was listening to voicemail? To the rest of us mortals, it looks like you were multi-tasking when you should have been single tasking on getting your kid into the cart. You not only didn't give a damn about the other people you were holding up, you chose to use profanity as your very intelligent retort to a situation in which someone called you out.

Good god people, grow up.

Yes - THIS!! FU Poster, it's clear that you don't find your language offensive or inappropriate; you're obviously proud to have the mouth of a trucker. The society in which you live, however, does find it offensive.

I'm almost sorry to learn you're a parent. I hope your child has other adults in her life who will teach her that she's not entitled to shout "Fuck you!" in public because someone is "being a dick" and she's not going to "take any crap from someone." Just because your toddler's not using profanity (yet) doesn't mean she's not getting the message. You'll have fun when she's a teenager -- "F U, Mom!" is just a few short years away!

[Anonymous]

The thing is, lots of people are on cell phones EXCESSIVELY, every day. It's annoying for any number of reasons: people driving and going too slow (don't even get me started on the growing number of jerks TEXTING while driving) or not paying attention, talking loudly for all to hear (I hear some outrageous and what should be private conversations on metro).

Who needs to be on the phone that much? What and who the hell are you talking to? I see people jabbering away at 630 in the morning and I wonder who are they? Aide to the president? No one is that important.

Yeah, I get that emergencies happen, OP. And it was true in your case. But, don't expect people to know that in an age where people have to flip open their cells at West Falls Church to announce to their wife and the world that "I WILL BE AT VIENNA IN 10 MINUTES. ARE WE HAVING MEATLOAF FOR DINNER?" People are just sick of it. It is rude, annoying and sometimes dangerous. The lady who spoke to you probably just hit her limit with it. Though I doubt I would have acted as she did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whether the F U poster finds those terms offensive or not is exactly the problem. It doesn't matter. It's whether her audience finds it offensive that is important. I am sure that the man she was having the dispute with couldn't care less. Even in a civilized world, you can pick your nose in private, but when someone sees it is when it is deemed disgusting. Curse in the privacy of your own home, and leave the rest of us be.

Everyone around her is so "self-centric", OP included. Does your back story really matter if you get hit by a car because you weren't paying attention because for the first time in years you decided to use your ancient cell phone?

[b]Does it really matter that the F U mom was listening to voicemail? To the rest of us mortals, it looks like you were multi-tasking when you should have been single tasking on getting your kid into the cart. You not only didn't give a damn about the other people you were holding up, you chose to use profanity as your very intelligent retort to a situation in which someone called you out.

Good god people, grow up.

Very sensible post and agree 100%.

To F U mom, keep posting--lunatic trash talking is so entertaining! You're right on track to get your own reality show with Balloon dad, Octomom and Jon Gosselin.

[Anonymous]

I'm from the planet Venus-we don't have cell phones but lots of other space age technology-when I want to know what my husband wants for dinner, I simply transmit my thoughts to his and he responds almost immediately because it's subconcious. We don't hold each other up with traffic or banal communication because all of us are home from work in less than fifteen nanoseconds. Manners are, while a thing of the past, also a built in part of our existence because most of us have never met one another. We don't care if someone cuts in front of us in their space cruiser because they're going to quadrant nine and we're headed for quadrant six and we'll both get there in the same time. We all wear the same thing (basic leggings and tunic silver colored unless the subject is infected with TY1n62). There's no such thing as profanity-it's illegal and doesn't transmit over the radio waves and everyone speaks Venusian anyway(no one telling you Fuck You in Italian). I really like the fact that we're all the same (other than our designated quadrants), we all wear the same thing, all drive the same way, all think the same way and all look the same way-makes things just so much more homey.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm from the planet Venus-we don't have cell phones but lots of other space age technology-when I want to know what my husband wants for dinner, I simply transmit my thoughts to his and he responds almost immediately because it's subconcious. We don't hold each other up with traffic or banal communication because all of us are home from work in less than fifteen nanoseconds. Manners are, while a thing of the past, also a built in part of our existence because most of us have never met one another. We don't care if someone cuts in front of us in their space cruiser because they're going to quadrant nine and we're headed for quadrant six and we'll both get there in the same time. We all wear the same thing (basic leggings and tunic silver colored unless the subject is infected with TY1n62). There's no such thing as profanity-it's illegal and doesn't transmit over the radio waves and everyone speaks Venusian anyway(no one telling you Fuck You in Italian). I really like the fact that we're all the same (other than our designated quadrants), we all wear the same thing, all drive the same way, all think the same way and all look the same way-makes things just so much more homey.

You have no point. And you just wasted a lot of time proving it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm from the planet Venus-we don't have cell phones but lots of other space age technology-when I want to know what my husband wants for dinner, I simply transmit my thoughts to his and he responds almost immediately because it's subconcious. We don't hold each other up with traffic or banal communication because all of us are home from work in less than fifteen nanoseconds. Manners are, while a thing of the past, also a built in part of our existence because most of us have never met one another. We don't care if someone cuts in front of us in their space cruiser because they're going to quadrant nine and we're headed for quadrant six and we'll both get there in the same time. We all wear the same thing (basic leggings and tunic silver colored unless the subject is infected with TY1n62). There's no such thing as profanity-it's illegal and doesn't transmit over the radio waves and everyone speaks Venusian anyway(no one telling you Fuck You in Italian). I really like the fact that we're all the same (other than our designated quadrants), we all wear the same thing, all drive the same way, all think the same way and all look the same way-makes things just so much more homey.

You have no point. And you just wasted a lot of time proving it.

Also, what does the term asshole mean? You sound like you would know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm from the planet Venus-we don't have cell phones but lots of other space age technology-when I want to know what my husband wants for dinner, I simply transmit my thoughts to his and he responds almost immediately because it's subconcious. We don't hold each other up with traffic or banal communication because all of us are home from work in less than fifteen nanoseconds. Manners are, while a thing of the past, also a built in part of our existence because most of us have never met one another. We don't care if someone cuts in front of us in their space cruiser because they're going to quadrant nine and we're headed for quadrant six and we'll both get there in the same time. We all wear the same thing (basic leggings and tunic silver colored unless the subject is infected with TY1n62). There's no such thing as profanity-it's illegal and doesn't transmit over the radio waves and everyone speaks Venusian anyway(no one telling you Fuck You in Italian). I really like the fact that we're all the same (other than our designated quadrants), we all wear the same thing, all drive the same way, all think the same way and all look the same way-makes things just so much more homey.

Dumbest post ever on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

two words: brain tumors

[Anonymous]

PPs-look up in the sky-see that little black dot over your heads?-that's the PPs post going over it. Now go to bed and wish for sugarplums and fairies that bring insight and intelligence beyond your own. Click your heels together and say "I wish I had a brain, I wish I had a brain, I wish I had a brain". Maybe you'll wake up tomorrow happy without any knowledge of what 'crackberry' means.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Haven't read other comments but just wanted to say that OP's story is a good reminder that I don't always know what is going on with the other person and should try not to prejudge. thanks, OP!

Bravo. It's disheartening (but not surprising) that so few PPs took this away from the OP's post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not looking for validation of my choices, folks. I really don't care if you don't agree with my choice of words. I'm not asking any of you to tell someone off. You do whatever works for you. I, personally, don't find "fuck" or even "fuck you" all that offensive. Would "go to hell" be preferred? Or "Asshole!!"?

The fact is that I don't fell guilty, ashamed or embarrassed. No one asked me to leave the store and no one carted me off in a straight jacket for saying what I wanted to say. It was several months ago and the toddler still has not used any foul language. My intention was to make my feelings known with as few words as possible, and I did.

The entire point of the original post was to give an example of a man being rude about a phone and to explain that his assumptions were wrong.

If you don't want me to utter obscenities in the grocery store, don't be an asshole. That is even more true if you want to be an asshole when you don't understand what is actually happening.

but his assumptions weren't wrong -- if you had not been talking on the cell phone you wouldn't have taken so long with the buckle on the cart and/or would have gotten out of the way of people who needed carts. the problem wasn't his reaction as much as your thinking that the whole world is supposed to work around you while you listen to your voice mail (instead of paying attention to your kid) and then blocking traffic while you tried to do too many things at once.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Haven't read other comments but just wanted to say that OP's story is a good reminder that I don't always know what is going on with the other person and should try not to prejudge. thanks, OP!

Bravo. It's disheartening (but not surprising) that so few PPs took this away from the OP's post.

Yet you're failing to see OP is doing the same exact judging to the person she's venting about! Who knows - as a PP said- maybe this stranger has had horrible incidents occur b/c of careless cell phone use, distracted drivers, etc. Maybe the person was just having a bad day! Why does OP get to vent and judge someone for doing the same to her??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Haven't read other comments but just wanted to say that OP's story is a good reminder that I don't always know what is going on with the other person and should try not to prejudge. thanks, OP!

Bravo. It's disheartening (but not surprising) that so few PPs took this away from the OP's post.

Yet you're failing to see OP is doing the same exact judging to the person she's venting about! Who knows - as a PP said- maybe this stranger has had horrible incidents occur b/c of careless cell phone use, distracted drivers, etc. Maybe the person was just having a bad day! Why does OP get to vent and judge someone for doing the same to her??

Think you are missing the point. I don't care what kind of day that woman was having, she didn't HAVE to make a snide comment. She wasn't saving anyone from danger. People with breast cancer, death in the family, laid off, etc. walk around all the time. If everyone were to make snide, rude comments, the world would be a much sadder place in deed.

We've all had bad days, and tough times. But that doesn't give me the right to go off on the guy at Starbucks for getting my order wrong, or for making rude comments. People who make rude comments for no reason are bitter, unhappy people, pure and simple. I doubt that lady felt better, or her day was improved, after making that snide comment.

I have found, whenever I am rude to a stranger, frankly it makes me feel like shit. So I don't do it, even if it is "deserved." I am a very lucky person, I'm healthy, my family is healthy, etc. I try to remember that every day. The small stuff is not important and I don't want to make someone feel bad, or make myself feel superior in some way, just because I can.