The Sex Recession

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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What exaggeration? The article specifically states that women said they'd find it creepy if a guy in an elevator started talking to them.

"Creepy" is when an unattractive guy talks to a woman anywhere - elevator, coffee shop, gym, bookstore, the street, you name it.

If an attractive guy talked to her in the exact same places, she'd be perfectly happy with it.

Not sure I accept your premise, but if so, then so what? If you're not attractive, don't approach women.

Women: "Sorry, unattractive men, but you should all just basically kill yourselves. We will never acknowledge that you having sexual desire like any normal person is acceptable or legitimate."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

What exaggeration? The article specifically states that women said they'd find it creepy if a guy in an elevator started talking to them.

"Creepy" is when an unattractive guy talks to a woman anywhere - elevator, coffee shop, gym, bookstore, the street, you name it.

If an attractive guy talked to her in the exact same places, she'd be perfectly happy with it.

Not sure I accept your premise, but if so, then so what? If you're not attractive, don't approach women.

Women: "Sorry, unattractive men, but you should all just basically kill yourselves. We will never acknowledge that you having sexual desire like any normal person is acceptable or legitimate."

It's OK because they are men and therefore the source of all problems in society, especially if they are white men.

[Anonymous]

Recession? I'm in a Depression!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

What exaggeration? The article specifically states that women said they'd find it creepy if a guy in an elevator started talking to them.

"Creepy" is when an unattractive guy talks to a woman anywhere - elevator, coffee shop, gym, bookstore, the street, you name it.

If an attractive guy talked to her in the exact same places, she'd be perfectly happy with it.

Not sure I accept your premise, but if so, then so what? If you're not attractive, don't approach women.

Women: "Sorry, unattractive men, but you should all just basically kill yourselves. We will never acknowledge that you having sexual desire like any normal person is acceptable or legitimate."

It's OK because they are men and therefore the source of all problems in society, especially if they are white men.

Just stop it. Just stop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

What exaggeration? The article specifically states that women said they'd find it creepy if a guy in an elevator started talking to them.

"Creepy" is when an unattractive guy talks to a woman anywhere - elevator, coffee shop, gym, bookstore, the street, you name it.

If an attractive guy talked to her in the exact same places, she'd be perfectly happy with it.

Not sure I accept your premise, but if so, then so what? If you're not attractive, don't approach women.

Women: "Sorry, unattractive men, but you should all just basically kill yourselves. We will never acknowledge that you having sexual desire like any normal person is acceptable or legitimate."

It's a long way from "don't approach women if you're ugly" to "kill yourself because you have sexual desire." The fact that you would set up such a straw man shows an intense focus on the plight of men and an indifference to the suffering of women.

In any case, if we start from the (questionable) premise that women don't want to have sex with ugly men, then ugly men are just going to have to deal with that, right? I mean, they can be unhappy about it, but unless they're cool with rape or pressuring women into sex, the fact that the women don't want to have sex with them pretty much ends the discussion. They could go gay or deal with abstinence, I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

What exaggeration? The article specifically states that women said they'd find it creepy if a guy in an elevator started talking to them.

"Creepy" is when an unattractive guy talks to a woman anywhere - elevator, coffee shop, gym, bookstore, the street, you name it.

If an attractive guy talked to her in the exact same places, she'd be perfectly happy with it.

Not sure I accept your premise, but if so, then so what? If you're not attractive, don't approach women.

Women: "Sorry, unattractive men, but you should all just basically kill yourselves. We will never acknowledge that you having sexual desire like any normal person is acceptable or legitimate."

It's a long way from "don't approach women if you're ugly" to "kill yourself because you have sexual desire." The fact that you would set up such a straw man shows an intense focus on the plight of men and an indifference to the suffering of women.

In any case, if we start from the (questionable) premise that women don't want to have sex with ugly men, then ugly men are just going to have to deal with that, right? I mean, they can be unhappy about it, but unless they're cool with rape or pressuring women into sex, the fact that the women don't want to have sex with them pretty much ends the discussion. They could go gay or deal with abstinence, I guess.

Ugly men should stick with ugly women and there are millions of them out there

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Interesting how it says men are afraid to talk to women in public because #metoo and a guy talking to a strange woman in an elevator or at a bookstore would be seen as creepy. That's too bad -- I met many women that way when I was single. Barnes and Noble in Georgetown on a Friday evening was a great place to be!

Man here, this also blew me away and makes me sad for this generation that men and women can't simply interact anymore. Nothing beats a fun, flirty conversation when there is mutual chemistry. And yes, I know the difference between mutual chemistry and creeper.

[Anonymous]

Eating is the new sex. Lust has been replaced by obesity.

[Anonymous]

Married to ex for 28 years, a 9 year stretch with no sex. I never strayed. Youngest reached 17, marriage ended soon thereafter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Married to ex for 28 years, a 9 year stretch with no sex. I never strayed. Youngest reached 17, marriage ended soon thereafter.

Are you getting a lot now?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Kate Julian, writing for the Atlantic, has a very long cover story entitled "The Sex Recession."
<https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2018/12/the-sex-recession/573949/>

People are starting to have sex later, they're having less sex across the board, you're probably overestimating the amount of sex other people are having, and there seem to be quite a few potential explanations.

If you guessed “any” you are overestimating the amount of sex I am having.

I'm keeping a spreadsheet so I can be precise about the amount of sex I'm not having.

+1

+2 Starting my own lack of sex spreadsheet starting now so I have ammo to counter DW's gaslighting.

It won't get you more sex, but it might give you peace of mind. When she says "we have plenty of sex" or "oh, it hasn't been that long," you'll know that it's been 6 weeks or whatever.

Yeah that won't get you any sex because it's petulant. But I'm sorry about the gaslighting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Lack of foreplay, no romance and no oral skills.

I think it was this article that said that men are generally more interested in giving oral sex than are women but women, due to body image issues, are much less likely to be comfortable receiving. So, in part, women need to figure out how to get out of their own heads and just enjoy that their guys want to go down.

If a woman does not enjoy receiving oral sex, it is her right to have that preference. She doesn't need to try to force herself to enjoy it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Married to ex for 28 years, a 9 year stretch with no sex. I never strayed. Youngest reached 17, marriage ended soon thereafter.

Are you male or female? How on earth did you survive a 9 year stretch like that? ANY affection at all? No hugs/kissses/etc?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lack of foreplay, no romance and no oral skills.

I think it was this article that said that men are generally more interested in giving oral sex than are women but women, due to body image issues, are much less likely to be comfortable receiving. So, in part, women need to figure out how to get out of their own heads and just enjoy that their guys want to go down.

If a woman does not enjoy receiving oral sex, it is her right to have that preference. She doesn't need to try to force herself to enjoy it.

What? Oral is great. He must not be doing it well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is so sad. I'm so thankful my DH seems to be only interested in the actual act of screwing my brains out and this has been going on for many years. Who needs toys, vibrators and porn when you've got body parts that really work? Am I a dinosaur?

You're not a dinosaur but you've probably never had a good orgasm if all he's interested in is screwing your brains out. What's in it for you?