middle school just sucks for girls

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.
Thanks for all the kind thoughts!

My daughter does have a few kind and low-key friends and she plays a sport 3 days a week with a great group of girls. They attend about a dozen different schools and there's no drama between them at all.
And she has a sister and a brother and a pretty great home-life. She'll be okay in the long run.

But geez.. the stuff that her "former BFF" is pulling. Example: my daughter, BFF and 2 friends texting about hanging out on Sat. BFF calls the other 2 friends and invites them over and lies and tells them that my daughter is busy. Ignores my daughter's texts.
The next days she lies and tells my daughter that "she didn't see her texts about being available". When clearly she did.

Just last year (5th grade) this girls and my daughter just had silly, goofy fun together--pretend play, making slime, cooking etc. Now she's excluding my daughter and lying. Give me strength.

Omg get a life if your own.

You should be this involved in your daughters social life.

NP. Stop with the "get your own life." If you can't understand a parent being sad that their child is hurting, that's kind of your own issue. And since when is knowing what is going on with your kids being "involved in your daughter's social life?"

Go away.

No it's the knowing all the exact details of who did what and when and THEN REPORTING IT ALL HERE and it turns out they're all 12 years old. Get a freaking life! Your daughter will figure it out on her own and she'll be stronger for it. We all did.

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It is kind of weird to do this.

Right, in the first post OP says both she and her DD know the friend is lying...why is OP inserting herself in middle school drama?

OP here. I'm not inserting myself into any drama. I posting about it online because my daughter shares things with me.
I don't interfere in real life--my daughter is the only one interacting with these friends and she is solving her own problems. I'm a bystander to this.

But way to be a jerk here when my kid is struggling. Does that make you feel better about yourself?
And we wonder why the girls are so mean.
You post about kids struggling on here and grown adults women all over you and imply that you're an idiot.

Op Ignore her. I can commiserate with how you’re feeling. I went through this with my son a few years ago. It was the absolute worst thing ever and I felt very lost and did not know what to do. It was my saddest time as a parent. Thankfully people started to realize and see for them selves that the mean boys were trouble. I did reach out more to parents han I would normally recommend someone doing but honestly it got us through a terrible time and now he’s doing great and has a ton of friends. He came out of that terrible time stronger and better. He and I both know that I really helped him get through it and it’s a special bond with your kid when you’re in the trenches like that. It will get better. Reach out and make an effort and fill in the voids with mom/daughter outings.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter is going to middle school next year...I am dreading it. Does ANYONE actually like middle school and have a positive social experience?

My daughter is in 6th and is having the time of her life. She pushes herself to get straight As and stays well organized, has friends from a few groups and does cheer with the city we live in. It helps I love her school.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter is going to middle school next year...I am dreading it. Does ANYONE actually like middle school and have a positive social experience?

My daughter loves it. It is positive for her. She has lucked out. She has lots of friends and things seem to be OK so far. Honestly sometimes it’s just the luck of the draw and I’m grateful we lucked out. I also feel badly for those that have not. Keep tight communication with your kids and be supportive as you can and try to encourage several different friends would be my best advice. It’s not getting in their business it’s just helping them.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter is going to middle school next year...I am dreading it. Does ANYONE actually like middle school and have a positive social experience?

Mine has had a great experience (now in 8th grade) -- become involved in a variety of clubs, kept her closest friends from ES but expanded that group too, has loved the opportunities to do more in science (her favorite subject), and has really grown in confidence.

There was a bit of a rough patch in 6th grade when someone new joined their friend group where DD felt like that girl was taking what DD saw as her "role" in the group but worked through that and she learned that your BFF can have other friends and still be your friend.