Jealous of women who find husbands in their early twenties

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your sister’s friend will stop enjoying sex with her husband in a few years. She will tell him he needs to do more chores and helping with kids. They will have a near sexless marriage and he will cheat. Or she will lose attraction to him inexplicably and cheat with a guy at work. It’s statistically certain.

I think this was meant to be sarcastic but there is truth in parody. My wife and I look like the perfect marriage on paper, the fun, successful attractive couple. We rarely have sex, there is an underlying tension when the kids go to bed, there have been undiscovered affairs, etc.

You never know what actually goes on.

[Anonymous]

OP, I’m 32 and recently engaged but will be 34 when I get married (fiancé will be 36).
I was an idiot in my twenties, so I’m glad I did not settle down then. Yes, some days I feel like a loser for not having my shit together (including not being married or having a family yet) but it’s so. much. better... than rushing into it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm in my mid 40's now and went through similar feelings of envy when I was in my late 20's/early 30's. My husband is in a field that isn't high earning and it used to be bother me and I felt envious of others supposedly perfect marriages and lives. Since then I've seen a lot of these "perfect" marriages implode. Now I am so happy and thankful to have my husband-a good guy and someone I am still attracted to and have fun with. I have a lot more perspective than I did 15 years ago.

Social media blows and for the most part is a waste of time. Limit your time on social media or get off completely. Focus on your own life. If there are things in your marriage that you can work on, focus on that or work on improving your finances, etc. If you love your husband and are happy other than the financial aspect don't waste time wishing you were with a guy that made more money. Seriously. I look back and am really thankful that I didn't let my envy re: money influence me to throw away or ruin a good thing.

I am 34 and also not a better person than OP. Guess what, I got off of Facebook and really do not struggle with these feelings of inadequacy anymore! My own life is busy enough and making your life the way you want it to be is work. I am happy with my life and kids and working hard to make the changes I want to make as an individual and in reality without social media in the mix I don’t really have a lot of time to dwell on other people.

[Anonymous]

Married when I was 24, divorced when I was 43. The only good thing to come out of the marriage are the kids. Don’t be jealous, OP. Seriously.

[Anonymous]

The OP is married. She mentioned her husband in her very first post! Why do people keep referring to her as being single??

The posters on this board have the worst reading comprehension! Especially the super idiot who posted right after the OP and told her to enjoy her singlehood, lol.

For a supposedly well educated group, I'm just not impressed with the reasoning and deduction skills of the DCUM crowd.

[Anonymous]

Hey OP! I married in my early twenties Have 3 kids and a very nice but messy house. You can borrow them at any time.

[Anonymous]

All this speculation about how her friends aren’t doing well is stupid.

You do know there are a lot of happy rich people out there right? Easier to be happy when you’re rich vs. poor.

[Anonymous]

I work at a family law firm and have seen it all. Nothing to be envious about. Fakebook is fun but keep it light.

Run your race.

[Anonymous]

Don’t follow FB. I am 29, female, and single. Personally never cared to be married by 30, and don’t want kids until at least 35. I know two guys that got married out of college. Both put on a picture perfect life in social media, but are super unhappy. Both cheat on their wives. Have a couple of friends who are already divorced. I’m personally fine waiting until I’m older to settle down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just noticed a friend of my younger sisters is pregnant on my Facebook feed. She is 26.married at 24. Her husband is also 26. I notice he is a stem major and probably makes bank. They look like they have their life figured out.

Meanwhile husband and I are early thirties. Still can’t afgord a child. Or a house.

Lol. Feel like a loser.

I think it depends on a person's personality really.

I got married at 24, DH was 35. So he was well established in his career when we married and its been an easy road. I love that I married young by todays standards. It probably wouldn't suit other people. Been married almost 22 years.

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand what marrying young has to do with you & your spouses’s educational choices - aka not STEM.

I got married at 25 and am about to turn 35. We too were not in the STEM field so had to work our way up. Couldn’t afford a kid in DC until age 32 and realized we have infertility struggles. The only benefit of not yet having a kid is that we’ve saved a lot toward a down payment so we can buy a nice home around here with a decent commute soon.

Marriage at any age has nothing to do with career field areas.

Also get off FB and stop comparing your life to others who probably live in a lower COL area.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t follow FB. I am 29, female, and single. Personally never cared to be married by 30, and don’t want kids until at least 35. I know two guys that got married out of college. Both put on a picture perfect life in social media, but are super unhappy. Both cheat on their wives. Have a couple of friends who are already divorced. I’m personally fine waiting until I’m older to settle down.

I know many guys cheating on their spouses.