Platonic texting and boundaries

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wife feels in her gut that something is wrong. Husband is being dismissive of her feelings.

That sort of settles it for me. Something is off, and they need to figure it out.

YOUR decision to trust or not trust or snoop or not snoop or not care about who your spouse is texting is irrelevant. What matters here is the fact that OP is uncomfortable, and asked her DH to talk about it, and he basically called her crazy because he's "private" and tried to shut it down.

Sounds like she has reason to be concerned.

Did you even read the OP??? DH didn't shut her down or tell her she is crazy...

He simply said he didn't tell her about the new friend because he is private. She asked to see his phone and he gave it to her... She looked through the texts, and there is nothing there...

Learn how to read and comprehend.

I did read, and I did comprehend. But we analyzed it differently. He is "private" when he isn't private about other things? I don't buy it. Her gut says something is off, and usually that is right. Just because there is nothing on the phone doesn't mean there isn't anything there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wife feels in her gut that something is wrong. Husband is being dismissive of her feelings.

That sort of settles it for me. Something is off, and they need to figure it out.

YOUR decision to trust or not trust or snoop or not snoop or not care about who your spouse is texting is irrelevant. What matters here is the fact that OP is uncomfortable, and asked her DH to talk about it, and he basically called her crazy because he's "private" and tried to shut it down.

Sounds like she has reason to be concerned.

Did you even read the OP??? DH didn't shut her down or tell her she is crazy...

He simply said he didn't tell her about the new friend because he is private. She asked to see his phone and he gave it to her... She looked through the texts, and there is nothing there...

Learn how to read and comprehend.

My gut tells me a married woman at work likes me. Should I act on it because my gut tells me

I did read, and I did comprehend. But we analyzed it differently. He is "private" when he isn't private about other things? I don't buy it. Her gut says something is off, and usually that is right. Just because there is nothing on the phone doesn't mean there isn't anything there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He already had a inappropriate relationship once. Why is he texting befriending other women you don't know? Especially single ones.

OP he has a problem, it's not you.

OP could you provide more details or link to previous thread about his 'EA' if you're still reading? What happened before matters a lot in determining whether what's happening now is a problem or not.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he has an ego problem, OP and is looking for constant ego stroking. Eventually, he will be looking for real life stroking. Look, if he's really the kind of person who is truly into privacy or whatever, try an experiment and see if the what's good for the goose is good for the gander. Get your own friendly single male friends and text funnies to them all the time and see if he's super into privacy then. Yeah, I think he won't be.