Worst mother's day stories

[Anonymous]

Well, nothing horrible. This morning DH ran out and picked up some flowers from the local grocery store.

But definitely none of those fantastic breakfasts made by kids or any adorable heart-felt cards made by kids that everyone's been posting on FB. Definitely no happy photos of happy mom surrounded by happy smiling kids. My kids hate getting their picture taken.

My younger one was at a campout and got back in the afternoon. He hidn't even remember it was mother's day until i called my own mom and then I got a lukewarm "happy mother's day". He has ADHD, obviously didn't sleep at the camp out, and is now fighting with DH over something stupid.

My boys aren't sentimental, definitely aren't the stereotypical "boys who love their mommies," and I have basically written off ever having a Hallmark style Mother's Day. I'll be lucky if they remember to call me when they've moved out of the house. It helps not to have high expectactions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, its a bad sign that DH did jack shit today... right?

Like, no card, no flowers. I suggested a fun brunch place this morning which he was willing to do, but when DC started fussing in the car on the way he suggested we just go to the next closest breakfast place instead.

Are we living the same life? Instead of this amazing brunch place that's also surprisingly kid friendly, DH just crumpled in the face of typical threenager behavior and took us to the McDonald's drive through. And we ate in the parking lot.

I probably would have gotten out of the and told him to enjoy McDonald’s with the kid because I’m going to X place for a decent meal like we planned. Then I’d have done it and had the meal I wanted in peace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sick today and my twelve year old DS told me to "stop whining and bitching about it."

A lot of people think it's terrible that he would speak to me like that- but because I'm his mom, I know his ADHD makes him impulsive but not mean.

It hurt my feelings and of course I talked with him about being respectful. He balances out some nastiness with some exceptionally nice behavior- he used my phone to text back and forth with his elderly grandmother quite bit this morning (she loved it) and he paid attention to our needy, affectionate dog.

DH is on work travel- and family lives far away, so no fancy brunches, but that's okay.

Being a parent is kind of hard and complicated sometimes- especially when kids are in some rough patches of tween and teen. I love my DS and I think he's a blessing (even on bad days).

You are so, so, wrong about this. ADHD has nothing to do with a son who would say this to his mother.

--mother of another 12 yr old with ADHD

And you are so, so wrong that your ADHD experience is universal.

In fact ADHD can absolutely be linked to anger, irritability, and outbursts. It sure is in my family. My father, a couple of brothers, and my own son. And yes, his impulsivity + anger, both of which are related to his ADHD, sometimes means he has outbursts saying things that would shock people like you.

Please don't minimize another mother's experience based simply on your own.

https://psychcentral.com/blog/anger-in-adhd-and-temper-reducing-tools-to-help/

https://www.understood.org/en/learning-attention-issues/child-learning-disabilities/add-adhd/adhd-and-anger-what-you-need-to-know

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5409953/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, nothing horrible. This morning DH ran out and picked up some flowers from the local grocery store.

But definitely none of those fantastic breakfasts made by kids or any adorable heart-felt cards made by kids that everyone's been posting on FB. Definitely no happy photos of happy mom surrounded by happy smiling kids. My kids hate getting their picture taken.

My younger one was at a campout and got back in the afternoon. He hidn't even remember it was mother's day until i called my own mom and then I got a lukewarm "happy mother's day". He has ADHD, obviously didn't sleep at the camp out, and is now fighting with DH over something stupid.

My boys aren't sentimental, definitely aren't the stereotypical "boys who love their mommies," and I have basically written off ever having a Hallmark style Mother's Day. I'll be lucky if they remember to call me when they've moved out of the house. It helps not to have high expectactions.

eh, you didn't call your own mom until late this afternoon?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't have one. But in Family & Relationships there is a mom who is posting because her SIL posted on FB that her 5 year old can ride a bike and then the SIL had the nerve to tag the FB to wish a Happy Mother's Day to her SIL (OP) and MIL. The unmitigated gall of the SIL!!! What a slam by the SIL. According to OP it is a deliberate slap in the face and OP is mad as heck about it … sigh.

Some of the posts here sound sad or upsetting or worrisome. On the other hand, there are a lot of people in this world who are never gonna be happy.

Ha. I hadn't seen that. So this woman is ticked because her SIL had the nerve to recognize her and wish her a Happy Mother's Day? That's the offense?? Seriously?

[Anonymous]

Nothing special, but not unhappy either. DH has been asking, what do you want for mother’s day the past several days. I said I don’t know. What I want is a day off from the kids (age 2 and 5), but my husband’s back has been hurting so I don’t want him to do childcare all day long and make it worse.

So as usual for the weekend, I did the dishes washed the towels and family laundry, decluttered all the stuff little kids move around, emptied the trash, went grocery shopping. I yelled at the kids to finish their breakfast and get dressed. I had to ask my 5 year old to draw me a mother’s day drawing (usually my DH has her do one beforehand that she presents to me wrapped up with flowers and chocolates).

But I’m not saying today was bad. Even when we do not have a back surgery looming, I don’t personally care about events. I care more about what happens on a daily basis the 364 days. And that has been good.

[Anonymous]

My kids won't call or text or email. Quit caring years ago.

I woke up at 11:30 this morning to my husband cooking. He went grocery shopping, did the laundry, got me a bouquet of yellow roses, made a fantastic baked chicken with mashed potatoes and some baked beans. He even got a cherry pie.

God I love him. How my kids ended up so ungrateful shocks me. Must be those bitches they married. Severely p***y whipped pajama boys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, nothing horrible. This morning DH ran out and picked up some flowers from the local grocery store.

But definitely none of those fantastic breakfasts made by kids or any adorable heart-felt cards made by kids that everyone's been posting on FB. Definitely no happy photos of happy mom surrounded by happy smiling kids. My kids hate getting their picture taken.

My younger one was at a campout and got back in the afternoon. He hidn't even remember it was mother's day until i called my own mom and then I got a lukewarm "happy mother's day". He has ADHD, obviously didn't sleep at the camp out, and is now fighting with DH over something stupid.

My boys aren't sentimental, definitely aren't the stereotypical "boys who love their mommies," and I have basically written off ever having a Hallmark style Mother's Day. I'll be lucky if they remember to call me when they've moved out of the house. It helps not to have high expectactions.

eh, you didn't call your own mom until late this afternoon?

I called her at 12:30 her time, after she got back from church. Why do you ask?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Husband great but 4.5 stayed up too late with babysitter and is currently on minute 15 of a screeching tantrum about morning so I'm not particularly feeling the joy of motherhood right now

Same here. I’ve been getting attitude and had my homemade card deliver to me as a rolled up call being thrown by my 5 year old. Awesome.

[Anonymous]

DD and I are recovering from a stomach bug. I thought that would suck, but in fact it's been nice to snuggle on the couch together. I do wish that DH was more proactive with our other kid, with more energy, who is now acting out because he's bored.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, nothing horrible. This morning DH ran out and picked up some flowers from the local grocery store.

But definitely none of those fantastic breakfasts made by kids or any adorable heart-felt cards made by kids that everyone's been posting on FB. Definitely no happy photos of happy mom surrounded by happy smiling kids. My kids hate getting their picture taken.

My younger one was at a campout and got back in the afternoon. He hidn't even remember it was mother's day until i called my own mom and then I got a lukewarm "happy mother's day". He has ADHD, obviously didn't sleep at the camp out, and is now fighting with DH over something stupid.

My boys aren't sentimental, definitely aren't the stereotypical "boys who love their mommies," and I have basically written off ever having a Hallmark style Mother's Day. I'll be lucky if they remember to call me when they've moved out of the house. It helps not to have high expectactions.

eh, you didn't call your own mom until late this afternoon?

I called her at 12:30 her time, after she got back from church. Why do you ask?

O.k. I wasn't aware that you were on such different time zones. It sounded like your son got back from camp in the afternoon and after that you called your mom - which I assumed meant that the majority of the day had gone by until you called her.

Did you send her a card or flowers? What about your dh's mom?

[Anonymous]

I miscarried a very, very wanted pregnancy yesterday. I am utterly destroyed and the coincidence that today is Mother’s Day is just too much to bear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I miscarried a very, very wanted pregnancy yesterday. I am utterly destroyed and the coincidence that today is Mother’s Day is just too much to bear.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I miscarried a very, very wanted pregnancy yesterday. I am utterly destroyed and the coincidence that today is Mother’s Day is just too much to bear.

I am so sorry for your loss . Hugs, thoughts and prayers to you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Abusive ex has sent DD over with a handmade card the last two years. A**hole. He couldn't be bothered to do anything when we were married, and this is just a purppseful mindf***. I hung it up. She tried to write happy mother's day. I love that she wrote it.

He will mever get anything for father's day from me unless school sends it home.

Why do you have to (choose to) read a handmade card as a purposeful mind$&@k? Maybe your daughter wants to make one!

I'm widowed and my Dad took my younger DC shopping and offered to give her money to increase her $3 budget. She was not having it. She must make the card herself and knows the perfect gift for me is a marzipan ritter sport at $2.49.

Why not view your handmade card as a way bigger expression of love than a hallmark canned greeting, made with care and thought into what you will like, and pride in trying to write it out herself?

This. We have DD make handmade cards for many occasions, because she wants to, and because I think they have much more meaning than stupid storebought cards. I love getting handmade cards from the kids!