Worst mother's day stories

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Anonymous wrote:Husband was out of town visiting a relative who had just had surgery. I figured I'd make reservations to treat my mom, my kids and myself to a nice Mother's Day brunch at a lovely and usually wonderful scenic little restaurant.

Arrived at the restaurant 15 minutes before our reservation and it was jam packed chaos. Hostess told us to wait and she would seat us. We stepped aside as she requested and she never acknowledged us again. We waited for over an hour, standing the entire, no place for my 80+ year old mother to sit down . It became apparent to us that the people who had been seated were waiting forever for their food to arrive....the staff completely unapologetic...

We left to go somewhere, anywhere else. By that point McDonald's sounded good.

That sucks. We dine out frequently and we have noticed that service in many restaurants is very disappointing. From hostesses, to sercers5, and even manages on duty. Frankly, the only ones worthy of a tip are busboys. (Yes, I know you don't too hostesses and managers)

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Anonymous wrote:Um no. And what do you when someone disrespects you at work, at the grocery store, on 495...

It’s a teaching moment. Hard parenting. Kid was looking for a reaction and some attention. He’s 12 and hormonal. You discipline without violence setting a boundary for acceptable language. Time for a lengthy talk.

I was a horrible teen and the worst punishment ever was an hour long chat with Dad. Looking back, he was a wonderful father and role model of calm. Not a doormat at all.

Listen, I think you are nuts and a bad mother, and you think I'm nuts and a bad mother, let's just move on. Happy Mother's Day and enjoy what little is left of it!

Ok. I was a NP. I didn’t say anyone was a bad mom. I just don’t believe in corporal punishment. A 12 year old boy told his Mon to quit bitching on Mother’s day. It was disrespectful, foul language, bad character... slapping that kid isn’t going to teach him anything other than violence. And to the poster’s invoking Daddy to fix the problem, major disrespect to Moms on discipline. Moms can effectively discipline asshole boy tweens/teens behavior without invoking Andre the Giant. Otherwise, what message are you sending when he’s alone with a girl? Girls and women need men as backbones?

Do not underestimate the power of a strong male role model. If a teenage boy back talks his mom and dad doesn't bat an eye about it or laughs and rolls his eyes or has some other inappropriate reaction.... that sends a message to the kid that it is acceptable to back talk Mom. If a father immediately steps in and stands up for his wife and tells the boy to respect his Mom - that is also a very, very strong message to that boy: The men in our house respect women.

maybe the issue is not respecting women and more two people who push each other’s buttons. Many time another person with a different personality or not so emotional involved in the argument can cool things down. Raising kids is not just about some moving bar about respecting women.

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Anonymous wrote:Um no. And what do you when someone disrespects you at work, at the grocery store, on 495...

It’s a teaching moment. Hard parenting. Kid was looking for a reaction and some attention. He’s 12 and hormonal. You discipline without violence setting a boundary for acceptable language. Time for a lengthy talk.

I was a horrible teen and the worst punishment ever was an hour long chat with Dad. Looking back, he was a wonderful father and role model of calm. Not a doormat at all.

Listen, I think you are nuts and a bad mother, and you think I'm nuts and a bad mother, let's just move on. Happy Mother's Day and enjoy what little is left of it!

Ok. I was a NP. I didn’t say anyone was a bad mom. I just don’t believe in corporal punishment. A 12 year old boy told his Mon to quit bitching on Mother’s day. It was disrespectful, foul language, bad character... slapping that kid isn’t going to teach him anything other than violence. And to the poster’s invoking Daddy to fix the problem, major disrespect to Moms on discipline. Moms can effectively discipline asshole boy tweens/teens behavior without invoking Andre the Giant. Otherwise, what message are you sending when he’s alone with a girl? Girls and women need men as backbones?

Do not underestimate the power of a strong male role model. If a teenage boy back talks his mom and dad doesn't bat an eye about it or laughs and rolls his eyes or has some other inappropriate reaction.... that sends a message to the kid that it is acceptable to back talk Mom. If a father immediately steps in and stands up for his wife and tells the boy to respect his Mom - that is also a very, very strong message to that boy: The men in our house respect women.

+100, especially if he looks up to his father.

And an even stronger message to the boy is the Dad who doesn’t eyeroll or disrespect his wife and cedes to her discipline on a matter of a kid disrespecting her. She can handle it without a bodyguard. Imagine the reverse where a Mom steps in to discipline a teen disrespecting their Dad. It’s ridiculous gender bias. Teaches boys not to respect a woman’s authority unless backed by a male.

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Anonymous wrote:Um no. And what do you when someone disrespects you at work, at the grocery store, on 495...

It’s a teaching moment. Hard parenting. Kid was looking for a reaction and some attention. He’s 12 and hormonal. You discipline without violence setting a boundary for acceptable language. Time for a lengthy talk.

I was a horrible teen and the worst punishment ever was an hour long chat with Dad. Looking back, he was a wonderful father and role model of calm. Not a doormat at all.

Listen, I think you are nuts and a bad mother, and you think I'm nuts and a bad mother, let's just move on. Happy Mother's Day and enjoy what little is left of it!

Ok. I was a NP. I didn’t say anyone was a bad mom. I just don’t believe in corporal punishment. A 12 year old boy told his Mon to quit bitching on Mother’s day. It was disrespectful, foul language, bad character... slapping that kid isn’t going to teach him anything other than violence. And to the poster’s invoking Daddy to fix the problem, major disrespect to Moms on discipline. Moms can effectively discipline asshole boy tweens/teens behavior without invoking Andre the Giant. Otherwise, what message are you sending when he’s alone with a girl? Girls and women need men as backbones?

Do not underestimate the power of a strong male role model. If a teenage boy back talks his mom and dad doesn't bat an eye about it or laughs and rolls his eyes or has some other inappropriate reaction.... that sends a message to the kid that it is acceptable to back talk Mom. If a father immediately steps in and stands up for his wife and tells the boy to respect his Mom - that is also a very, very strong message to that boy: The men in our house respect women.

+100, especially if he looks up to his father.

And an even stronger message to the boy is the Dad who doesn’t eyeroll or disrespect his wife and cedes to her discipline on a matter of a kid disrespecting her. She can handle it without a bodyguard. Imagine the reverse where a Mom steps in to discipline a teen disrespecting their Dad. It’s ridiculous gender bias. Teaches boys not to respect a woman’s authority unless backed by a male.

Huh? No. In this situation where the kid has disrespected a parent and the other parent gives the strong message that the disrespect will not be tolerated, that means a lot. When the parents are on the same page and expect a certain amount of respect from their offspring that is a message of strength - for both parents.

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Anonymous wrote:Um no. And what do you when someone disrespects you at work, at the grocery store, on 495...

It’s a teaching moment. Hard parenting. Kid was looking for a reaction and some attention. He’s 12 and hormonal. You discipline without violence setting a boundary for acceptable language. Time for a lengthy talk.

I was a horrible teen and the worst punishment ever was an hour long chat with Dad. Looking back, he was a wonderful father and role model of calm. Not a doormat at all.

Listen, I think you are nuts and a bad mother, and you think I'm nuts and a bad mother, let's just move on. Happy Mother's Day and enjoy what little is left of it!

Ok. I was a NP. I didn’t say anyone was a bad mom. I just don’t believe in corporal punishment. A 12 year old boy told his Mon to quit bitching on Mother’s day. It was disrespectful, foul language, bad character... slapping that kid isn’t going to teach him anything other than violence. And to the poster’s invoking Daddy to fix the problem, major disrespect to Moms on discipline. Moms can effectively discipline asshole boy tweens/teens behavior without invoking Andre the Giant. Otherwise, what message are you sending when he’s alone with a girl? Girls and women need men as backbones?

Np, my teenaged daughter was going through a phase where she was being sassy with her dad/my husband for no reason at all. He tried correcting her, but for whatever reason it fell on deaf ears with her and she continued on. After about a week of him trying, I swiftly stepped in, spoke woman to woman with her and became an extremely nasty bitch. Scarred the bejesus out of her, but absolutely straightened her out.

My point is, sometimes the same sex parent knows how to better speak the language to effectuate the needed change.

Something tells me that OP's son may have learned the behavior from the father.

Do not underestimate the power of a strong male role model. If a teenage boy back talks his mom and dad doesn't bat an eye about it or laughs and rolls his eyes or has some other inappropriate reaction.... that sends a message to the kid that it is acceptable to back talk Mom. If a father immediately steps in and stands up for his wife and tells the boy to respect his Mom - that is also a very, very strong message to that boy: The men in our house respect women.

+100, especially if he looks up to his father.

And an even stronger message to the boy is the Dad who doesn’t eyeroll or disrespect his wife and cedes to her discipline on a matter of a kid disrespecting her. She can handle it without a bodyguard. Imagine the reverse where a Mom steps in to discipline a teen disrespecting their Dad. It’s ridiculous gender bias. Teaches boys not to respect a woman’s authority unless backed by a male.

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Anonymous wrote:Um no. And what do you when someone disrespects you at work, at the grocery store, on 495...

It’s a teaching moment. Hard parenting. Kid was looking for a reaction and some attention. He’s 12 and hormonal. You discipline without violence setting a boundary for acceptable language. Time for a lengthy talk.

I was a horrible teen and the worst punishment ever was an hour long chat with Dad. Looking back, he was a wonderful father and role model of calm. Not a doormat at all.

Listen, I think you are nuts and a bad mother, and you think I'm nuts and a bad mother, let's just move on. Happy Mother's Day and enjoy what little is left of it!

Ok. I was a NP. I didn’t say anyone was a bad mom. I just don’t believe in corporal punishment. A 12 year old boy told his Mon to quit bitching on Mother’s day. It was disrespectful, foul language, bad character... slapping that kid isn’t going to teach him anything other than violence. And to the poster’s invoking Daddy to fix the problem, major disrespect to Moms on discipline. Moms can effectively discipline asshole boy tweens/teens behavior without invoking Andre the Giant. Otherwise, what message are you sending when he’s alone with a girl? Girls and women need men as backbones?

Np, my teenaged daughter was going through a phase where she was being sassy with her dad/my husband for no reason at all. He tried correcting her, but for whatever reason it fell on deaf ears with her and she continued on. After about a week of him trying, I swiftly stepped in, spoke woman to woman with her and became an extremely nasty bitch. Scarred the bejesus out of her, but absolutely straightened her out.

My point is, sometimes the same sex parent knows how to better speak the language to effectuate the needed change.

Something tells me that OP's son may have learned the behavior from the father.

Do not underestimate the power of a strong male role model. If a teenage boy back talks his mom and dad doesn't bat an eye about it or laughs and rolls his eyes or has some other inappropriate reaction.... that sends a message to the kid that it is acceptable to back talk Mom. If a father immediately steps in and stands up for his wife and tells the boy to respect his Mom - that is also a very, very strong message to that boy: The men in our house respect women.

+100, especially if he looks up to his father.

And an even stronger message to the boy is the Dad who doesn’t eyeroll or disrespect his wife and cedes to her discipline on a matter of a kid disrespecting her. She can handle it without a bodyguard. Imagine the reverse where a Mom steps in to discipline a teen disrespecting their Dad. It’s ridiculous gender bias. Teaches boys not to respect a woman’s authority unless backed by a male.

Np, my teenaged daughter was going through a phase where she was being sassy with her dad/my husband for no reason at all. He tried correcting her, but for whatever reason it fell on deaf ears with her and she continued on. After about a week of him trying, I swiftly stepped in, spoke woman to woman with her and became an extremely nasty bitch. Scarred the bejesus out of her, but absolutely straightened her out.

My point is, sometimes the same sex parent knows how to better speak the language to effectuate the needed change.

Something tells me that OP's son may have learned the behavior from the father.

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Anonymous wrote:Um no. And what do you when someone disrespects you at work, at the grocery store, on 495...

It’s a teaching moment. Hard parenting. Kid was looking for a reaction and some attention. He’s 12 and hormonal. You discipline without violence setting a boundary for acceptable language. Time for a lengthy talk.

I was a horrible teen and the worst punishment ever was an hour long chat with Dad. Looking back, he was a wonderful father and role model of calm. Not a doormat at all.

Listen, I think you are nuts and a bad mother, and you think I'm nuts and a bad mother, let's just move on. Happy Mother's Day and enjoy what little is left of it!

Ok. I was a NP. I didn’t say anyone was a bad mom. I just don’t believe in corporal punishment. A 12 year old boy told his Mon to quit bitching on Mother’s day. It was disrespectful, foul language, bad character... slapping that kid isn’t going to teach him anything other than violence. And to the poster’s invoking Daddy to fix the problem, major disrespect to Moms on discipline. Moms can effectively discipline asshole boy tweens/teens behavior without invoking Andre the Giant. Otherwise, what message are you sending when he’s alone with a girl? Girls and women need men as backbones?

Np, my teenaged daughter was going through a phase where she was being sassy with her dad/my husband for no reason at all. He tried correcting her, but for whatever reason it fell on deaf ears with her and she continued on. After about a week of him trying, I swiftly stepped in, spoke woman to woman with her and became an extremely nasty bitch. Scarred the bejesus out of her, but absolutely straightened her out.

My point is, sometimes the same sex parent knows how to better speak the language to effectuate the needed change.

Something tells me that OP's son may have learned the behavior from the father.

Do not underestimate the power of a strong male role model. If a teenage boy back talks his mom and dad doesn't bat an eye about it or laughs and rolls his eyes or has some other inappropriate reaction.... that sends a message to the kid that it is acceptable to back talk Mom. If a father immediately steps in and stands up for his wife and tells the boy to respect his Mom - that is also a very, very strong message to that boy: The men in our house respect women.

+100, especially if he looks up to his father.

And an even stronger message to the boy is the Dad who doesn’t eyeroll or disrespect his wife and cedes to her discipline on a matter of a kid disrespecting her. She can handle it without a bodyguard. Imagine the reverse where a Mom steps in to discipline a teen disrespecting their Dad. It’s ridiculous gender bias. Teaches boys not to respect a woman’s authority unless backed by a male.

Np, my teenaged daughter was going through a phase where she was being sassy with her dad/my husband for no reason at all. He tried correcting her, but for whatever reason it fell on deaf ears with her and she continued on. After about a week of him trying, I swiftly stepped in, spoke woman to woman with her and became an extremely nasty bitch. Scarred the bejesus out of her, but absolutely straightened her out.

My point is, sometimes the same sex parent knows how to better speak the language to effectuate the needed change.

Something tells me that OP's son may have learned the behavior from the father.

+1 Well said.

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Anonymous wrote:DH was just diagnosed with Hep A from a recent trip to North Africa. He’s glowing yellow and has been vomiting nonstop for 48h.

I have a cold that will not go away and my head feels filled with concrete, plus I’ll be going back & forth to appointments to have myself & DS tested for exposure to this &$#@ virus. For now, I’m sleeping on the sofa & have been washing sheets and towels like mad.

DS has 4 gigantic papers due by Tuesday. He’s got 1.5 done and is a miserably slow, disorganized writer.

No family nearby.

I hate today. I’m going to pretend Mother’s Day is next weekend.

Oh no, that'a terrible indeed, especially the Hep A. I hope everyone got through the day, PP.

And you're right, you can celebrate another time! Just like the several Christmases in a row that one person in our family (never the same) fell ill with high fever or vomiting on Christmas Day, and we had to cancel plans every year during that period. Completely sucked.

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Anonymous wrote:How about this year I’ll be thinking about my daughter who committed suicide last month. Late dinner reservations? A handmade card? These are your complaints? Be grateful for what you have while you have it. Happy Mother’s Day!

I'm so sorry for your loss. My brother commit suicide in August. Today was a tough day for my mom, that's for sure.

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My child is recovering from depression. My present was his smile.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, nothing horrible. This morning DH ran out and picked up some flowers from the local grocery store.

But definitely none of those fantastic breakfasts made by kids or any adorable heart-felt cards made by kids that everyone's been posting on FB. Definitely no happy photos of happy mom surrounded by happy smiling kids. My kids hate getting their picture taken.

My younger one was at a campout and got back in the afternoon. He hidn't even remember it was mother's day until i called my own mom and then I got a lukewarm "happy mother's day". He has ADHD, obviously didn't sleep at the camp out, and is now fighting with DH over something stupid.

My boys aren't sentimental, definitely aren't the stereotypical "boys who love their mommies," and I have basically written off ever having a Hallmark style Mother's Day. I'll be lucky if they remember to call me when they've moved out of the house. It helps not to have high expectactions.

eh, you didn't call your own mom until late this afternoon?

I called her at 12:30 her time, after she got back from church. Why do you ask?

O.k. I wasn't aware that you were on such different time zones. It sounded like your son got back from camp in the afternoon and after that you called your mom - which I assumed meant that the majority of the day had gone by until you called her.

Did you send her a card or flowers? What about your dh's mom?

NP but hell NO do I take care of DH's mom. If he isn't proactive enough to call his own mom ... Ok, that's a total lie. If I send my mom flowers or a card, I'll send MIL the same. But it pisses me off to no end. Not because i don't love her, because it is not ever reciprocated by any man in the world.

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Anonymous wrote:Husband was out of town visiting a relative who had just had surgery. I figured I'd make reservations to treat my mom, my kids and myself to a nice Mother's Day brunch at a lovely and usually wonderful scenic little restaurant.

Arrived at the restaurant 15 minutes before our reservation and it was jam packed chaos. Hostess told us to wait and she would seat us. We stepped aside as she requested and she never acknowledged us again. We waited for over an hour, standing the entire, no place for my 80+ year old mother to sit down . It became apparent to us that the people who had been seated were waiting forever for their food to arrive....the staff completely unapologetic...

We left to go somewhere, anywhere else. By that point McDonald's sounded good.

That sucks. We dine out frequently and we have noticed that service in many restaurants is very disappointing. From hostesses, to sercers5, and even manages on duty. Frankly, the only ones worthy of a tip are busboys. (Yes, I know you don't too hostesses and managers)

This is why we either go out the week before or the week after mother’s day(and any of these restaurants holidays). Never had a good service or good food on days like these and you paid a lot more for the experience.

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Anonymous wrote:Was waiting for people to start complaining. Typical ungrateful complainers. It's only 7am for pete's sake!

It’s the annual DCUM “My Husband is a Jackass Because He Didn’t Meet My Secret Expectations For Mother’s Day Even Though I am Not His Mother” thread.
Drink up, bitchez!

I'm of the camp that just because a spouse isn't your parent doesn't mean you don't celebrate them.

If nothing else, it's good role modeling to show your child how to give gifts to people you love.

Uh, what about being the mother of his children?

Uh, I guess you missed the "IF NOTHING ELSE."

??? this is in support of celebrating the mother of your children in addition to your own mother.

FFS get a life.

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Anonymous wrote:Abusive ex has sent DD over with a handmade card the last two years. A**hole. He couldn't be bothered to do anything when we were married, and this is just a purppseful mindf***. I hung it up. She tried to write happy mother's day. I love that she wrote it.

He will mever get anything for father's day from me unless school sends it home.

Ha! I'm separated from an abusive man and working towards a divorce. He sent tulips. I gave them to the neighbor with a thank you for being so wonderful to my kids and I.

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Anonymous wrote:I miscarried a very, very wanted pregnancy yesterday. I am utterly destroyed and the coincidence that today is Mother’s Day is just too much to bear.

About 13 years ago I miscarried a wanted pregnancy about a week before Mother's Day. It was horrible. I was sad and depressed. Two years later on Mother's Day I had an adorable baby girl who I adopted. And three years after that I also had a son who I gave birth to. That terrible, horrible Mother's Day is just a blip on my screen now. I have some amazing children. One day you will look back on this day and barely remember it because you will be so busy with your children. Best of luck to you and hugs. Many of us have been there.