Jealous of men who fawn over their SOs on social media

[Anonymous]

Yuck - that kind of fawning make me ill.

[Anonymous]

I know a couple that did that when they hated each other. Now that their marriage is doing better the public adoration on facebook is over.

It's a show.

[Anonymous]

I always find this SO weird - you live together why are you posting on facebook to your SO?

[Anonymous]

While I don't jump to the conclusion that there's infidelity or that the marriage is having problems, I do wonder why couples over the age of 30 or so make big pronouncements of love on FB. I think there's a lot of truth in that men do it because their wives demand it, it makes them happy and more likely to want to have sex, etc.

I don't know-to me if you are married the assumption is that you most likely love your spouse, right? Why the need to proclaim it on social media? To brag? Because on some level they feel insecure? I really wonder if people are honest with themselves about their motivations. It's not because they think that other people (besides their spouse and maybe their parents) will enjoy reading an "I love you so much, baby!" FB post. Honestly, I think the majority of people who read those "I love you posts" roll their eyes.

And no-I'm not bitter or jealous-just thoughtful. I'm happily married but have never felt the need to say "I love you" to my husband on FB. What would be the purpose? To make single people or people who are struggling in their relationships feel bad? As a child, I was taught that bragging is inappropriate. I know I sound like an old person, but it disturbs me how braggy and self promoting our culture has become.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While I don't jump to the conclusion that there's infidelity or that the marriage is having problems, I do wonder why couples over the age of 30 or so make big pronouncements of love on FB. I think there's a lot of truth in that men do it because their wives demand it, it makes them happy and more likely to want to have sex, etc.

I don't know-to me if you are married the assumption is that you most likely love your spouse, right? Why the need to proclaim it on social media? To brag? Because on some level they feel insecure? I really wonder if people are honest with themselves about their motivations. It's not because they think that other people (besides their spouse and maybe their parents) will enjoy reading an "I love you so much, baby!" FB post. Honestly, I think the majority of people who read those "I love you posts" roll their eyes.

And no-I'm not bitter or jealous-just thoughtful. I'm happily married but have never felt the need to say "I love you" to my husband on FB. What would be the purpose? To make single people or people who are struggling in their relationships feel bad? As a child, I was taught that bragging is inappropriate. I know I sound like an old person, but it disturbs me how braggy and self promoting our culture has become.

Totally agree. Facebook is just one big brag. But be prepared, all of the defenders will jump on and say, “but all my bragging has nothing to do with YOU! It’s not about you!”

[Anonymous]

Everyone I know who brags about their relationship on Facebook has relationship problems.

[Anonymous]

My gf wants this but she can’t as she’s still with her husband and can’t let her secret out.. Please explain this to me!

[Anonymous]

90% of the time, the couples who post shit like that are the ones with the worst, most superficial and fragile relationships. Count your blessings that you live in real life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My gf wants this but she can’t as she’s still with her husband and can’t let her secret out.. Please explain this to me!

DTMFA

[Anonymous]

A gal friend of mine divorced her abusive and controlling husband and married her abusive and controlling high school sweetheart. For the better part of the two years of that marriage, all she did was post about how he was her soulmate, her “one”, her hottie, blah, blah, blah. We all joked about how f’d up her relationship must really be. How embarrassing for her when it’s all confirmed and she deleted the account.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Usually those dudes are on the way to a divorce.

So true. I know of four guys who do the type of thing regularly. One is now divorced and I have since learned from the wife that the entire marriage was a big disaster. I’d bet my life one is gay but the effusive praise is for his wife. One has been caught cheating on his wife twice. And one seems legitimately happy with his wife but in fairness I don’t know them well at all so could be wrong. Never envy what people choose to present about themselves, their lives, or their relationships on social media. It isn’t real.

[Anonymous]

Just came back from a conference, three people who know were cheating with others of course are the ones on Facebook gushing about their spouse.

I also assume the public announcement is from a couple dealing with infidelity

[Anonymous]

I don't believe all these people on FB are cheaters or about to divorce. They are just sheeple. They do it because other people do it and they believe that is what they are "supposed" to do. And they married other people like them. And their friends are like them, so its all one big echo chamber and they think its normal.

[Anonymous]

My DH does this maybe once a year or less. But he does post pictures of us or our family. From my experience, the men that are super private or don’t post anything on social media about their wives/family are the ones that cheat. I also don’t like when people are posting every other day about how much they love their partner. I don’t care and it’s boring

[Anonymous]

I had to laugh to my DH.... on Easter, I happened to login to facebook (I rarely do) and of course all these families had posted their "we're the happiest family ever!" easter family photos. Of the first four posts in my feed, three of them were either already secretly separated or we know that the DH is desirous of separating.