wife keeps her name

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Anonymous wrote:I hate that my wife kept her name. It's one thing I would change about her and our marriage if I could. It's embarrassing to me and makes me sad that we will never be able to send out Christmas cards from the (last name)

Are you a dude? Do you have monogrammed towels? WTF?

Haha point taken! I've never sent out christmas cards (yet), but it was just a tangible way of giving an example of not being the (last name) family .. instead we are (first name and first name)

Hope you get what I meant

My social milieu is about 50/50 keepers/takers. As for the Christmas cards, you write "Love, the Smith/Jones family."

I have no problem with women keeping their names, but I absolutely see PP's point. My best friend kept her name and it really bothers her husband for that reason. As a kid I hated when my friends' moms had different last names...it was awkward ("Thank you Mr. Williams and Mrs...I mean Miss Bridges?") and I just avoided saying their names

To be honest (and I can be since this is an anonymous forum), I'd rather not send cards at all than send them from a Smith/Jones family

And if my wife ever corrected someone who called her Mrs. Smith instead of Mrs. Jones when our kids are named Smith .. I'd feel pretty lame.

Jesus Christ, the two previous posts are the ultimate in snowflakery. How do people like you manage to make it through life?

By complaining on DCUM.

And any dude whose manhood is sufficiently challenged by his wife not changing her name to post about it on the internet didn't have much manhood to begin with.

[Anonymous]

Pretty funny comments from the cat ladies and divorcees of DCUM as usual. If my comments come off as unusual to you, it's because you women are not usually privy to conversations like this.

The only reason you can read them now is because we are on an anonymous message board and I thought I'd share some real thoughts with you.

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This thread is right up there with the one about judging people's grocery carts.

Some people are really, weirdly judgy about tiny things, and some people are really, weirdly super-self-conscious about tiny things.

[Anonymous]

the worst is the hyphen, looks like you are the second wife or some addition to the family

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pretty funny comments from the cat ladies and divorcees of DCUM as usual. If my comments come off as unusual to you, it's because you women are not usually privy to conversations like this.

The only reason you can read them now is because we are on an anonymous message board and I thought I'd share some real thoughts with you.

"Waaaah, I'm a grown man whose ego is so fragile that I can't bear to write the correct name on a Christmas card!"

Growing up, I'm guessing you were the "I'm taking my ball and going home" kid, no?

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Sorry, don't count opinions of women who don't have happy husbands in this thread so won't respond

[Anonymous]

I think it's plain stupid to bless your progeny with quadruple last names "to figure it out."

I changed my name, because Americans can't pronounce my maiden name, and spelling it five times a day every day is exhausting. Otherwise, I wouldn't bother, because I'm too lazy to change documents etc. As a result, I live under two names, and that's fine by me.

I think all this name-related activism is dumb. Like pussy hats are dumb.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, don't count opinions of women who don't have happy husbands in this thread so won't respond

So fragile!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, don't count opinions of women who don't have happy husbands in this thread so won't respond

So fragile!

Haha! Don't you have to update your Tumblr blog?
Did you ever find out the phone number of the guy you slept with on Saturday night?

I love this place, really.

[Anonymous]

I didn't change my name and my husband had no interest in me changing it either. And not, that's not made up weirdo MRA PP. That's why we are well matched. Just like guys who would feel disrespected married to women who see it as a lovely sign of respect to change their names are well matched. This isn't that hard.

[Anonymous]

I don't read much into it. I think it is driven mostly by customs, not by patriarchy or whatever. I am married to a conservative Muslim Arab who has pretty traditional views but women in their culture never take their husband's last name so it never came up. He would be pretty surprised if I asked him, and he couldn't care less.

But I also don't care if someone addresses me by my husband's (and my children's) last name. It's honestly not a big deal. We all know what they mean, why make a fuss?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It makes thing harder. People, doctors and businesses assume you are not married. I know one couple where the wife was in an accident and the hospital/doctors would not allow the husband in the room/give info. Another couple were flying overseas, the airline over sold the main cabin and bumped the husband to first class but not the wife. Finances are not viewed as shared. Etc etc.

Puh leese this does not actually happen

[Anonymous]

I'm a 50 year old DW, and my husband and I have been married more than twenty years, and have three teenaged children. I didn't change my name, my husband couldn't care less, and neithor do my children. Like some previous posters, I don't care if someone calls me Mrs. (husband and children's last name), and use DH's last name on Christmas cards. I don't recall ever having any problem associated with this issue. I have been living in the DC area since my marriage, so it is pretty common for DW's to have different last names.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pretty funny comments from the cat ladies and divorcees of DCUM as usual. If my comments come off as unusual to you, it's because you women are not usually privy to conversations like this.

The only reason you can read them now is because we are on an anonymous message board and I thought I'd share some real thoughts with you.

Christ what a whiny snowflake loser. I’m happily married and so glad my desire not to change my name kept me from wasting time dating fragile little man-children like you

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, don't count opinions of women who don't have happy husbands in this thread so won't respond

So fragile!

Haha! Don't you have to update your Tumblr blog?
Did you ever find out the phone number of the guy you slept with on Saturday night?

I love this place, really.

My husband? Sure, I think I have his number around here somewhere.

Btw, I love that your idea of an insult is to say that I got laid last weekend