Talking with DH about concerns re new extreme diet

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Anonymous wrote:There is no way he is going to be able sustain this diet. Just let him fail on his own.


Yep. He'll fail on this "diet" before too long, so I wouldn't worry too much.
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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Now DH isn't having a morning smoothie -- just tea (with milk sometimes) throughout the day and dinner (sometimes dessert after). This is a guy who loves smoothies and has them every single day usually. I'm not sure if he just started not having them in the morning or if I mistakenly thought he was when he wasn't (he makes them for himself and our kids usually, so I assumed he was having them like normal until I realized yesterday that he wasn't). I let it go yesterday because I figured he was trying to "make up for" eating more on Thanksgiving, but same thing again this morning. There's no arguing that this is a "healthy diet" now, I think. Now I think I need to have a chat with him about what his long-term thoughts are and why he's doing this.


I disagree with the PPs. I was one of the ones who earlier said this didn't seem like an extreme diet because he was having a smoothie packed full of calories in the morning. It's different if he's not eating anything all day until dinner. Drinking sugary liquid is not good for his teeth or health.

I do think you're trying to be a bit controlling, but if you approach it in a concerned way rather than trying to control or judge him, I think it's okay to bring it up. From the sounds of it, he's been doing some version of this for at least a week or a bit more, and you haven't said anything. There's no reason why you can't say, "Hey, I've noticed you've really changed your eating habits. Is everything going okay? I want to support you in this. I think it's great that you're trying to change your eating habits. I just want to make sure everything is okay because it seems like a big change and like you're restricting your intake a lot."


DP. Why are you calling tea sugary? I drink tea every single day, I put no sugar or milk or cream in it. I drink it plain, I make it from tea bags. I do know a family who absolutely ruined their baby's teeth by having him drink sugar tea, but if OP's DH is so stuck on this diet surely he isn't drinking tea with sugar? Or maybe he is, people are stupid.
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A couple of months ago my husband decided he was going to live on juice (not smoothies, juice) for 30 days following some diet he saw online. Bought a ton of veggies. Lasted 3-4 days before he realized he couldn’t focus at work because he wasn’t getting proper nutrition. Same thing will happen with tour husband and his stupid only drinking tea until dinner.

I often joke that I’m going to start posting YouTube videos because DH will listen to them and then tell me something that I’ve already told him multiple times. It’s maddening.
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I don't think it's that bad, but I'd be worried about this kind of behavior around kids if you have any. During the week it won't be a big deal bc they'll still see him eat dinner and breakfast. But really, he's only skipping lunch. Sometimes people need to do things that fit their personality and those don't necessarily fit what a dietitian would recommend.
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THis is for the affair partner. How long have you known he is gay?
Anonymous
If you can get him to have eggs and oats in the morning, his smoothie for lunch and the small dinner, and the tea in the evening instead of snacking this diet would be aces.
Anonymous
OP did he stick with his diet? How did things turn out?
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Anonymous wrote:OP did he stick with his diet? How did things turn out?


I'd like to hear also! Although she may be reluctant to post.

After reading only a few of the the posts, and how OP was ripped apart (shocking....NOT), I felt really bad for her and her DH.

From what OP described in her post it sounds like he was doing intermittent fasting - which is not an extreme diet, and it works for a lot of people.

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