s/o- thanksgiving dinner at bedtime

[Anonymous]

OP here. some of these responses cracked me up.

We went over in the morning. My son took a late nap (which took two hours of coaxing), woke up a mess and starving. I made him a plate of food and he ate while everyone else was setting up. He played while the adults ate which was amazing.

FWIW - we see grandparents all the time. i'm talking weekly, so I have zero guilt about "time spent with grandparents." MIL is very familiar with sons schedule. We push the timing on our visits all the time and are extremely flexible. We are definitely not those parents who say we cannot do something because toddler needs to be in bed by X. Since there was only one other couple and another small child coming, I suggested we don't eat at 7/8 PM or later (I'm sure most of your thanksgiving dinners were wrapped up by that time). This was not an Adult party, but a small family gathering with no reason for a later start time. I was happy for once she gave an inch and slid dinner an hour earlier than anticipated because it made a huge difference. and when we left which turned out to be 9:00 pm, he was done... as was the older child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. some of these responses cracked me up.

We went over in the morning. My son took a late nap (which took two hours of coaxing), woke up a mess and starving. I made him a plate of food and he ate while everyone else was setting up. He played while the adults ate which was amazing.

FWIW - we see grandparents all the time. i'm talking weekly, so I have zero guilt about "time spent with grandparents." MIL is very familiar with sons schedule. We push the timing on our visits all the time and are extremely flexible. We are definitely not those parents who say we cannot do something because toddler needs to be in bed by X. Since there was only one other couple and another small child coming, I suggested we don't eat at 7/8 PM or later (I'm sure most of your thanksgiving dinners were wrapped up by that time). This was not an Adult party, but a small family gathering with no reason for a later start time. I was happy for once she gave an inch and slid dinner an hour earlier than anticipated because it made a huge difference. and when we left which turned out to be 9:00 pm, he was done... as was the older child.

We didn't eat untill 6:45pm the kids were good and everyone hung out until 9pm. Yes there were melted downs but mostly it was good. Glad it worked out for you OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. some of these responses cracked me up.

We went over in the morning. My son took a late nap (which took two hours of coaxing), woke up a mess and starving. I made him a plate of food and he ate while everyone else was setting up. He played while the adults ate which was amazing.

FWIW - we see grandparents all the time. i'm talking weekly, so I have zero guilt about "time spent with grandparents." MIL is very familiar with sons schedule. We push the timing on our visits all the time and are extremely flexible. We are definitely not those parents who say we cannot do something because toddler needs to be in bed by X. Since there was only one other couple and another small child coming, I suggested we don't eat at 7/8 PM or later (I'm sure most of your thanksgiving dinners were wrapped up by that time). This was not an Adult party, but a small family gathering with no reason for a later start time. I was happy for once she gave an inch and slid dinner an hour earlier than anticipated because it made a huge difference. and when we left which turned out to be 9:00 pm, he was done... as was the older child.

OP, I have to admit that your above post "cracked me up". It is interesting how much more information it contained. I certainly think it would have changed the nature of some of the responses that you received. Thrive on drama much? But I'm glad that it all worked out and that you got your jollies!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I disagree and this is one of the times I would be flexible with my 2 yo's bed time. Definitely feed him before, when he's hungry (6pm) but I'm sure for one night you can keep him up until 9pm, or if he's so unbelieably tired I'm sure he will fall asleep in Grandma's bed. Bring his PJ's and change him before you leave.

It's all well and good until the kid is a nightmare because he is overtired and the in-laws complain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. some of these responses cracked me up.

We went over in the morning. My son took a late nap (which took two hours of coaxing), woke up a mess and starving. I made him a plate of food and he ate while everyone else was setting up. He played while the adults ate which was amazing.

FWIW - we see grandparents all the time. i'm talking weekly, so I have zero guilt about "time spent with grandparents." MIL is very familiar with sons schedule. We push the timing on our visits all the time and are extremely flexible. We are definitely not those parents who say we cannot do something because toddler needs to be in bed by X. Since there was only one other couple and another small child coming, I suggested we don't eat at 7/8 PM or later (I'm sure most of your thanksgiving dinners were wrapped up by that time). This was not an Adult party, but a small family gathering with no reason for a later start time. I was happy for once she gave an inch and slid dinner an hour earlier than anticipated because it made a huge difference. and when we left which turned out to be 9:00 pm, he was done... as was the older child.

OP, I have to admit that your above post "cracked me up". It is interesting how much more information it contained. I certainly think it would have changed the nature of some of the responses that you received. Thrive on drama much? But I'm glad that it all worked out and that you got your jollies!

Agree. You left out a lot of important details. I hope you enjoyed your post going 6+ pages.