Texting etiquette

[Anonymous]

You need to go into the settings on your phone and reduce the VOLUME in the settings, not the volume on the side of the phone. Some have sounds on media, phone, text, alarm. If you silence all of them, you hear nothing unless you turn it back on in which you have to remember to set the volume on audible level after you wake up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know how to silence it at night, but we I don't anymore. Because of the time I woke up to firefighters in my house to investigate because the neighbor (shared walls) was having an emergency, and called us to warn us but I didn't answer because it was in night mode. They thought we were dead, f iire fighters broke our windows to enter.

Oher neighbors have ongoing medical problems and once needed emergency care for their child in the middle of the night and couldn't reach us.

When the kids get older and do sleepovers or get to stay out late, they need a way to reach me.

I should be able to keep my phone on at night.

Look, there's no perfect situation. You could have a land line and have that be for emergencies. Or keep your phone on all night, and take the the risk of being woken up occasionally by off hour texts. Or don't engage in texting, period. Not everyone lives their life on your hours - I would never expect someone to abide by my hours. So I answer texts sent at night, early in the morning. No one knows what specific circumstances you are ok with being woken up for, and which are not - as a grownup, it's up to you to manage your own phone and consequences - it's not the responsibility of others.

Most people know the time zones of their friends and most people know that the hours of 10pm to 8am are off limits for expecting to contact someone. They can abide by this for phone calls, so they should be able to abide by this for texts. Emailing is perfectly acceptable in the off hours because it does not interrupt people. Texting is not. Many people need to be contacted in emergencies so they CAN NOT switch off their phones. PP explains why it's important to be reached. Imagine you were one of the families in Napa who woke up in the middle of the night to their neighborhood on fire, would you not prefer to be reached in an emergency so that you can save your life? My friend changed her settings when her teen daughter was in a crash with a bunch of friends and not one of them could raise their parents in the middle of the night.

[Anonymous]

You can turn off notifications for just specific people. So you can block receiving texts from an uncle from 10pm onwards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can turn off notifications for just specific people. So you can block receiving texts from an uncle from 10pm onwards.

Not everyone has an iphone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know how to silence it at night, but we I don't anymore. Because of the time I woke up to firefighters in my house to investigate because the neighbor (shared walls) was having an emergency, and called us to warn us but I didn't answer because it was in night mode. They thought we were dead, f iire fighters broke our windows to enter.

Oher neighbors have ongoing medical problems and once needed emergency care for their child in the middle of the night and couldn't reach us.

When the kids get older and do sleepovers or get to stay out late, they need a way to reach me.

I should be able to keep my phone on at night.

Look, there's no perfect situation. You could have a land line and have that be for emergencies. Or keep your phone on all night, and take the the risk of being woken up occasionally by off hour texts. Or don't engage in texting, period. Not everyone lives their life on your hours - I would never expect someone to abide by my hours. So I answer texts sent at night, early in the morning. No one knows what specific circumstances you are ok with being woken up for, and which are not - as a grownup, it's up to you to manage your own phone and consequences - it's not the responsibility of others.

Most people know the time zones of their friends and most people know that the hours of 10pm to 8am are off limits for expecting to contact someone. They can abide by this for phone calls, so they should be able to abide by this for texts. Emailing is perfectly acceptable in the off hours because it does not interrupt people. Texting is not. Many people need to be contacted in emergencies so they CAN NOT switch off their phones. PP explains why it's important to be reached. Imagine you were one of the families in Napa who woke up in the middle of the night to their neighborhood on fire, would you not prefer to be reached in an emergency so that you can save your life? My friend changed her settings when her teen daughter was in a crash with a bunch of friends and not one of them could raise their parents in the middle of the night.

I don't know what kind of special phone you have where email is different from texting. If I go to bed at 8pm to get up at 4am then I can see texts at 4am and answer them then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can turn off notifications for just specific people. So you can block receiving texts from an uncle from 10pm onwards.

Not everyone has an iphone.

Ok, I will give it to you. Not texting or calling people with flip phones after 9pm and before 9am (that was the phone rule when I was growing up).

[Anonymous]

I'm definitely old then. Even though I know people *can* use Do Not Disturb, and use it myself, I still think it's rude to contact people between 9/10 pm and 7 am unless it's an emergency or you know for sure they'll be ok with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can turn off notifications for just specific people. So you can block receiving texts from an uncle from 10pm onwards.

Not everyone has an iphone.

Ok, OP, please tell us what model phone you have so we can try to help you come up with some solutions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can turn off notifications for just specific people. So you can block receiving texts from an uncle from 10pm onwards.

Not everyone has an iphone.

Ok, OP, please tell us what model phone you have so we can try to help you come up with some solutions.

Because clearly it’s not realistic to correct everyone’s bad texting behavior and this is having a profound impact on your quality of life.