Texting etiquette

[Anonymous]

I know how to silence it at night, but we I don't anymore. Because of the time I woke up to firefighters in my house to investigate because the neighbor (shared walls) was having an emergency, and called us to warn us but I didn't answer because it was in night mode. They thought we were dead, f iire fighters broke our windows to enter.

Oher neighbors have ongoing medical problems and once needed emergency care for their child in the middle of the night and couldn't reach us.

When the kids get older and do sleepovers or get to stay out late, they need a way to reach me.

I should be able to keep my phone on at night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know how to silence it at night, but we I don't anymore. Because of the time I woke up to firefighters in my house to investigate because the neighbor (shared walls) was having an emergency, and called us to warn us but I didn't answer because it was in night mode. They thought we were dead, f iire fighters broke our windows to enter.

Oher neighbors have ongoing medical problems and once needed emergency care for their child in the middle of the night and couldn't reach us.

When the kids get older and do sleepovers or get to stay out late, they need a way to reach me.

I should be able to keep my phone on at night.

Look, there's no perfect situation. You could have a land line and have that be for emergencies. Or keep your phone on all night, and take the the risk of being woken up occasionally by off hour texts. Or don't engage in texting, period. Not everyone lives their life on your hours - I would never expect someone to abide by my hours. So I answer texts sent at night, early in the morning. No one knows what specific circumstances you are ok with being woken up for, and which are not - as a grownup, it's up to you to manage your own phone and consequences - it's not the responsibility of others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have to be able to receive emergency texts from work, so, my phone is on all night. People get one request, two warnings, and then are permanently placed in do not disturb mode. Basically this means I don't ever get alerted to their texts until I'm looking at my text screen. So far it's an even split between a boomer, a millennial, and a Gen-X'er whom I've silenced!

Me too (phone needs to be on all night for work calls). But if it is the same person texting you late all the time, just keep it on do not disturb for that person only all the time. Easy to do on an iphone, not sure about other kinds of phones. I have a couple of people and text groups put on this setting and just see their messages in the morning. Not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know how to silence it at night, but we I don't anymore. Because of the time I woke up to firefighters in my house to investigate because the neighbor (shared walls) was having an emergency, and called us to warn us but I didn't answer because it was in night mode. They thought we were dead, f iire fighters broke our windows to enter.

Oher neighbors have ongoing medical problems and once needed emergency care for their child in the middle of the night and couldn't reach us.

When the kids get older and do sleepovers or get to stay out late, they need a way to reach me.

I should be able to keep my phone on at night.

You can keep it on at night but understand that most people won’t know your specific circumstances so will text unless you tell them not to. I like to take a nap on the weekend but can’t be upset if someone doesn’t know that and calls me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know how to silence it at night, but we I don't anymore. Because of the time I woke up to firefighters in my house to investigate because the neighbor (shared walls) was having an emergency, and called us to warn us but I didn't answer because it was in night mode. They thought we were dead, f iire fighters broke our windows to enter.

Oher neighbors have ongoing medical problems and once needed emergency care for their child in the middle of the night and couldn't reach us.

When the kids get older and do sleepovers or get to stay out late, they need a way to reach me.

I should be able to keep my phone on at night.

Ok, so silence text notifications and allow phone calls. Notify your work answering service (or whomever is calling you at night for work) that you prefer to be called for emergencies rather than texted. There is no reason you can’t make this work somehow, with all these suggestions.

[Anonymous]

On an iPhone you can still block texts at night but still receive phone calls. You can choose who you want to receive phone calls from or choose a setting that if someone calls twice within 3 minutes or so the second call is not quiet.

My only point is it doesn't seem worth getting upset over receiving a text late at night when there are solutions to it. Don't worry about what other people are doing and take control of your technology

[Anonymous]

I'm 40 and have friends of all ages and old people family members who text at weird times. It never occurred to me to chastise them for this. Instead I put my phone on DND.

[Anonymous]

You must be old

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know how to silence it at night, but we I don't anymore. Because of the time I woke up to firefighters in my house to investigate because the neighbor (shared walls) was having an emergency, and called us to warn us but I didn't answer because it was in night mode. They thought we were dead, f iire fighters broke our windows to enter.

Oher neighbors have ongoing medical problems and once needed emergency care for their child in the middle of the night and couldn't reach us.

When the kids get older and do sleepovers or get to stay out late, they need a way to reach me.

I should be able to keep my phone on at night.

Look, there's no perfect situation. You could have a land line and have that be for emergencies. Or keep your phone on all night, and take the the risk of being woken up occasionally by off hour texts. Or don't engage in texting, period. Not everyone lives their life on your hours - I would never expect someone to abide by my hours. So I answer texts sent at night, early in the morning. No one knows what specific circumstances you are ok with being woken up for, and which are not - as a grownup, it's up to you to manage your own phone and consequences - it's not the responsibility of others.

Would you be just as selfish about calling someone at those hours? Or are you able to abide by normal limits for phone calls but just not text?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know how to silence it at night, but we I don't anymore. Because of the time I woke up to firefighters in my house to investigate because the neighbor (shared walls) was having an emergency, and called us to warn us but I didn't answer because it was in night mode. They thought we were dead, f iire fighters broke our windows to enter.

Oher neighbors have ongoing medical problems and once needed emergency care for their child in the middle of the night and couldn't reach us.

When the kids get older and do sleepovers or get to stay out late, they need a way to reach me.

I should be able to keep my phone on at night.

Look, there's no perfect situation. You could have a land line and have that be for emergencies. Or keep your phone on all night, and take the the risk of being woken up occasionally by off hour texts. Or don't engage in texting, period. Not everyone lives their life on your hours - I would never expect someone to abide by my hours. So I answer texts sent at night, early in the morning. No one knows what specific circumstances you are ok with being woken up for, and which are not - as a grownup, it's up to you to manage your own phone and consequences - it's not the responsibility of others.

Would you be just as selfish about calling someone at those hours? Or are you able to abide by normal limits for phone calls but just not text?

Who calls anyone anymore? The only people I call are people very close to me - and I text them first if "it's a good time."

Why are you so selfish to think that everyone should adjust their hours to yours? You know not everyone has the same wake/sleep hours, right? Some people work at night? Good lord you're stubborn to basic technological adaptions.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know how to silence it at night, but we I don't anymore. Because of the time I woke up to firefighters in my house to investigate because the neighbor (shared walls) was having an emergency, and called us to warn us but I didn't answer because it was in night mode. They thought we were dead, f iire fighters broke our windows to enter.

Oher neighbors have ongoing medical problems and once needed emergency care for their child in the middle of the night and couldn't reach us.

When the kids get older and do sleepovers or get to stay out late, they need a way to reach me.

I should be able to keep my phone on at night.

Look, there's no perfect situation. You could have a land line and have that be for emergencies. Or keep your phone on all night, and take the the risk of being woken up occasionally by off hour texts. Or don't engage in texting, period. Not everyone lives their life on your hours - I would never expect someone to abide by my hours. So I answer texts sent at night, early in the morning. No one knows what specific circumstances you are ok with being woken up for, and which are not - as a grownup, it's up to you to manage your own phone and consequences - it's not the responsibility of others.

Would you be just as selfish about calling someone at those hours? Or are you able to abide by normal limits for phone calls but just not text?

I only call my parents. I have called my mom between the hours of 11pm and 1 am. I call her cell not the house because my dad is asleep. I presume if people don’t want to be bothered they use dnd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know how to silence it at night, but we I don't anymore. Because of the time I woke up to firefighters in my house to investigate because the neighbor (shared walls) was having an emergency, and called us to warn us but I didn't answer because it was in night mode. They thought we were dead, f iire fighters broke our windows to enter.

Oher neighbors have ongoing medical problems and once needed emergency care for their child in the middle of the night and couldn't reach us.

When the kids get older and do sleepovers or get to stay out late, they need a way to reach me.

I should be able to keep my phone on at night.

Look, there's no perfect situation. You could have a land line and have that be for emergencies. Or keep your phone on all night, and take the the risk of being woken up occasionally by off hour texts. Or don't engage in texting, period. Not everyone lives their life on your hours - I would never expect someone to abide by my hours. So I answer texts sent at night, early in the morning. No one knows what specific circumstances you are ok with being woken up for, and which are not - as a grownup, it's up to you to manage your own phone and consequences - it's not the responsibility of others.

Would you be just as selfish about calling someone at those hours? Or are you able to abide by normal limits for phone calls but just not text?

Who calls anyone anymore? The only people I call are people very close to me - and I text them first if "it's a good time."

Why are you so selfish to think that everyone should adjust their hours to yours? You know not everyone has the same wake/sleep hours, right? Some people work at night? Good lord you're stubborn to basic technological adaptions.

Ah, so you are capable of being considerate when it comes to calling people. You just can't extend that basic decency to texting them at all hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know how to silence it at night, but we I don't anymore. Because of the time I woke up to firefighters in my house to investigate because the neighbor (shared walls) was having an emergency, and called us to warn us but I didn't answer because it was in night mode. They thought we were dead, f iire fighters broke our windows to enter.

Oher neighbors have ongoing medical problems and once needed emergency care for their child in the middle of the night and couldn't reach us.

When the kids get older and do sleepovers or get to stay out late, they need a way to reach me.

I should be able to keep my phone on at night.

Look, there's no perfect situation. You could have a land line and have that be for emergencies. Or keep your phone on all night, and take the the risk of being woken up occasionally by off hour texts. Or don't engage in texting, period. Not everyone lives their life on your hours - I would never expect someone to abide by my hours. So I answer texts sent at night, early in the morning. No one knows what specific circumstances you are ok with being woken up for, and which are not - as a grownup, it's up to you to manage your own phone and consequences - it's not the responsibility of others.

Would you be just as selfish about calling someone at those hours? Or are you able to abide by normal limits for phone calls but just not text?

Who calls anyone anymore? The only people I call are people very close to me - and I text them first if "it's a good time."

Why are you so selfish to think that everyone should adjust their hours to yours? You know not everyone has the same wake/sleep hours, right? Some people work at night? Good lord you're stubborn to basic technological adaptions.

Ah, so you are capable of being considerate when it comes to calling people. You just can't extend that basic decency to texting them at all hours.

Well yes, because texting and calling are different. I'm sorry, but I wish you a smooth transition into the 21st century. Otherwise, stick with your land line.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know how to silence it at night, but we I don't anymore. Because of the time I woke up to firefighters in my house to investigate because the neighbor (shared walls) was having an emergency, and called us to warn us but I didn't answer because it was in night mode. They thought we were dead, f iire fighters broke our windows to enter.

Oher neighbors have ongoing medical problems and once needed emergency care for their child in the middle of the night and couldn't reach us.

When the kids get older and do sleepovers or get to stay out late, they need a way to reach me.

I should be able to keep my phone on at night.

Look, there's no perfect situation. You could have a land line and have that be for emergencies. Or keep your phone on all night, and take the the risk of being woken up occasionally by off hour texts. Or don't engage in texting, period. Not everyone lives their life on your hours - I would never expect someone to abide by my hours. So I answer texts sent at night, early in the morning. No one knows what specific circumstances you are ok with being woken up for, and which are not - as a grownup, it's up to you to manage your own phone and consequences - it's not the responsibility of others.

Would you be just as selfish about calling someone at those hours? Or are you able to abide by normal limits for phone calls but just not text?

Who calls anyone anymore? The only people I call are people very close to me - and I text them first if "it's a good time."

Why are you so selfish to think that everyone should adjust their hours to yours? You know not everyone has the same wake/sleep hours, right? Some people work at night? Good lord you're stubborn to basic technological adaptions.

Ah, so you are capable of being considerate when it comes to calling people. You just can't extend that basic decency to texting them at all hours.

Well yes, because texting and calling are different. I'm sorry, but I wish you a smooth transition into the 21st century. Otherwise, stick with your land line.

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know how to silence it at night, but we I don't anymore. Because of the time I woke up to firefighters in my house to investigate because the neighbor (shared walls) was having an emergency, and called us to warn us but I didn't answer because it was in night mode. They thought we were dead, f iire fighters broke our windows to enter.

Oher neighbors have ongoing medical problems and once needed emergency care for their child in the middle of the night and couldn't reach us.

When the kids get older and do sleepovers or get to stay out late, they need a way to reach me.

I should be able to keep my phone on at night.

Look, there's no perfect situation. You could have a land line and have that be for emergencies. Or keep your phone on all night, and take the the risk of being woken up occasionally by off hour texts. Or don't engage in texting, period. Not everyone lives their life on your hours - I would never expect someone to abide by my hours. So I answer texts sent at night, early in the morning. No one knows what specific circumstances you are ok with being woken up for, and which are not - as a grownup, it's up to you to manage your own phone and consequences - it's not the responsibility of others.

Would you be just as selfish about calling someone at those hours? Or are you able to abide by normal limits for phone calls but just not text?

Who calls anyone anymore? The only people I call are people very close to me - and I text them first if "it's a good time."

Why are you so selfish to think that everyone should adjust their hours to yours? You know not everyone has the same wake/sleep hours, right? Some people work at night? Good lord you're stubborn to basic technological adaptions.

Ah, so you are capable of being considerate when it comes to calling people. You just can't extend that basic decency to texting them at all hours.

Well yes, because texting and calling are different. I'm sorry, but I wish you a smooth transition into the 21st century. Otherwise, stick with your land line.

That's fine, I'll keep on being polite and considerate of my fellow humans and show them basic courtesy and you keep on doing things your way. Just don't expect to be friends with me.