High school 11th and 12th grade girls at huge college Halloween parties. Wtf?

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Anonymous wrote:When I read posts like this, I sometimes wonder if I'm the only person in the DC area who actually went to high school herself. No, I wouldn't want my high schoolers going to drunken college parties, but how is it shocking to anyone that this happens? It happened when we were kids, why would our kids be different? Know your kids, know your kids friends, have a check-in system, make sure they know your expectation and the consequences for failing to meet them. It's not a guarantee that they won't get in trouble, but it goes a long way.

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Judging and trying to police other peoples' children only draws attention to you and your child, and gets you and your child shunned. Mind your own house and mind your own children and stop worrying about WTH everyone else is doing - because you really have no idea. None.

If being accepted by a group involves having your teenage HS kid going to frat parties and who knows what else....maybe being shunned is not a bad thing? Just sayin'.

Point being these outrageous stories 1.) have very little credence and 2.) are usually started by the gossip mongering mean moms who want to accuse "other kids" of doing wrong, when they don't even discipline their own out of control child. and 3.) it's always someone else's kid that is to blame, isn't it (usually the American kids -- of they have a single mom, all the better to blame them). I am foreign, and I know what this crap is about, and it is despicable. That way, I can claim that my child is "perfect", and any wrongs committed are by Bobby down the street, "not my kid!!"

Are you saying that these gossipy mean moms start untrue rumors about other kids partying? If so, they truly suck. I would avoid them like the plague.

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Anonymous wrote:When I read posts like this, I sometimes wonder if I'm the only person in the DC area who actually went to high school herself. No, I wouldn't want my high schoolers going to drunken college parties, but how is it shocking to anyone that this happens? It happened when we were kids, why would our kids be different? Know your kids, know your kids friends, have a check-in system, make sure they know your expectation and the consequences for failing to meet them. It's not a guarantee that they won't get in trouble, but it goes a long way.

+1

Judging and trying to police other peoples' children only draws attention to you and your child, and gets you and your child shunned. Mind your own house and mind your own children and stop worrying about WTH everyone else is doing - because you really have no idea. None.

If being accepted by a group involves having your teenage HS kid going to frat parties and who knows what else....maybe being shunned is not a bad thing? Just sayin'.

Point being these outrageous stories 1.) have very little credence and 2.) are usually started by the gossip mongering mean moms who want to accuse "other kids" of doing wrong, when they don't even discipline their own out of control child. and 3.) it's always someone else's kid that is to blame, isn't it (usually the American kids -- of they have a single mom, all the better to blame them). I am foreign, and I know what this crap is about, and it is despicable. That way, I can claim that my child is "perfect", and any wrongs committed are by Bobby down the street, "not my kid!!"

Are you saying that these gossipy mean moms start untrue rumors about other kids partying? If so, they truly suck. I would avoid them like the plague.

In some cases. In other cases, I am sure that the partying does happen - you would be either incredibly stupid to think your kid would never consider going to a party; or incredibly naive to think it doesn't happen. What matters is not the "blame game" that is so important to some parents, but (big concept here) PARENTING YOUR OWN CHILD. I have school administrators (not just teachers, but well above teachers) in my family, and some of the parents put on quite a show - more occupied with appearances than teaching right and wrong in (another big concept here) THEIR OWN HOUSE.

I have also seen parents who claim that THEIR snowflake doesn't do anything wrong - they are just perfect, because we (the parents) are so perfect. Better watch that superior attitude. Boy, does that bite them in the arse HARD when they find out HOW untrue that is with their snowflake. Which is fine, everyone makes mistakes, the kids are still growing, but don't try to crucify other families or children in the process. Like I said, the "my way is the best way" bites them HARD in the arse - every time.

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It is surprising how revealing the HS costumes are- my DD showed me pics because she wasn't allowed to wear anything too revealing and was trying to prove her point "see what all the other girls wear?" I could care less because they aren't my daughters, but boy, it's amazing how skimpy the outfits are- basically a bra and/or shorts that go 1/2 way up the behind. I don't get it. And these were H.S. parties...

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Anonymous wrote:My HS niece posted scantily clad, alcohol toting pics from a college party this weekend. My sister's excuse is basically that she was cool too, did all of that and worse but turned into a productive adult so doesn't see anything abnormal about the behavior. I was a dork. My daughter will either be a dork or hate me but she won't be following in her cousin's footsteps.

Ha, she just won’t let you find out about it.

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Anonymous wrote:When I read posts like this, I sometimes wonder if I'm the only person in the DC area who actually went to high school herself. No, I wouldn't want my high schoolers going to drunken college parties, but how is it shocking to anyone that this happens? It happened when we were kids, why would our kids be different? Know your kids, know your kids friends, have a check-in system, make sure they know your expectation and the consequences for failing to meet them. It's not a guarantee that they won't get in trouble, but it goes a long way.

+1

Judging and trying to police other peoples' children only draws attention to you and your child, and gets you and your child shunned. Mind your own house and mind your own children and stop worrying about WTH everyone else is doing - because you really have no idea. None.

If being accepted by a group involves having your teenage HS kid going to frat parties and who knows what else....maybe being shunned is not a bad thing? Just sayin'.

Point being these outrageous stories 1.) have very little credence and 2.) are usually started by the gossip mongering mean moms who want to accuse "other kids" of doing wrong, when they don't even discipline their own out of control child. and 3.) it's always someone else's kid that is to blame, isn't it (usually the American kids -- of they have a single mom, all the better to blame them). I am foreign, and I know what this crap is about, and it is despicable. That way, I can claim that my child is "perfect", and any wrongs committed are by Bobby down the street, "not my kid!!"

Are you saying that these gossipy mean moms start untrue rumors about other kids partying? If so, they truly suck. I would avoid them like the plague.

In some cases. In other cases, I am sure that the partying does happen - you would be either incredibly stupid to think your kid would never consider going to a party; or incredibly naive to think it doesn't happen. What matters is not the "blame game" that is so important to some parents, but (big concept here) PARENTING YOUR OWN CHILD. I have school administrators (not just teachers, but well above teachers) in my family, and some of the parents put on quite a show - more occupied with appearances than teaching right and wrong in (another big concept here) THEIR OWN HOUSE.

I have also seen parents who claim that THEIR snowflake doesn't do anything wrong - they are just perfect, because we (the parents) are so perfect. Better watch that superior attitude. Boy, does that bite them in the arse HARD when they find out HOW untrue that is with their snowflake. Which is fine, everyone makes mistakes, the kids are still growing, but don't try to crucify other families or children in the process. Like I said, the "my way is the best way" bites them HARD in the arse - every time.

Yeah, we all know that given the right set of circumstances all kids could wind up at a party. No kidding. What this thread was about was specifically HS kids routinely going to college parties, and even more specifically a college Halloween party. Yes, I'm sure that this has happened somewhere at sometime. But to suggest that this is a routine thing for HS kids is ridiculous and implying that the ones who don't do it are "goody goodies" isn't right. Most kids in HS do not go to college parties. In fact, I knew college kids who spent 4 years away at a univeristy who never attended any college parties.

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Anonymous wrote:When I read posts like this, I sometimes wonder if I'm the only person in the DC area who actually went to high school herself. No, I wouldn't want my high schoolers going to drunken college parties, but how is it shocking to anyone that this happens? It happened when we were kids, why would our kids be different? Know your kids, know your kids friends, have a check-in system, make sure they know your expectation and the consequences for failing to meet them. It's not a guarantee that they won't get in trouble, but it goes a long way.

+1

Judging and trying to police other peoples' children only draws attention to you and your child, and gets you and your child shunned. Mind your own house and mind your own children and stop worrying about WTH everyone else is doing - because you really have no idea. None.

If being accepted by a group involves having your teenage HS kid going to frat parties and who knows what else....maybe being shunned is not a bad thing? Just sayin'.

Point being these outrageous stories 1.) have very little credence and 2.) are usually started by the gossip mongering mean moms who want to accuse "other kids" of doing wrong, when they don't even discipline their own out of control child. and 3.) it's always someone else's kid that is to blame, isn't it (usually the American kids -- of they have a single mom, all the better to blame them). I am foreign, and I know what this crap is about, and it is despicable. That way, I can claim that my child is "perfect", and any wrongs committed are by Bobby down the street, "not my kid!!"

Are you saying that these gossipy mean moms start untrue rumors about other kids partying? If so, they truly suck. I would avoid them like the plague.

In some cases. In other cases, I am sure that the partying does happen - you would be either incredibly stupid to think your kid would never consider going to a party; or incredibly naive to think it doesn't happen. What matters is not the "blame game" that is so important to some parents, but (big concept here) PARENTING YOUR OWN CHILD. I have school administrators (not just teachers, but well above teachers) in my family, and some of the parents put on quite a show - more occupied with appearances than teaching right and wrong in (another big concept here) THEIR OWN HOUSE.

I have also seen parents who claim that THEIR snowflake doesn't do anything wrong - they are just perfect, because we (the parents) are so perfect. Better watch that superior attitude. Boy, does that bite them in the arse HARD when they find out HOW untrue that is with their snowflake. Which is fine, everyone makes mistakes, the kids are still growing, but don't try to crucify other families or children in the process. Like I said, the "my way is the best way" bites them HARD in the arse - every time.

Yeah, we all know that given the right set of circumstances all kids could wind up at a party. No kidding. What this thread was about was specifically HS kids routinely going to college parties, and even more specifically a college Halloween party. Yes, I'm sure that this has happened somewhere at sometime. But to suggest that this is a routine thing for HS kids is ridiculous and implying that the ones who don't do it are "goody goodies" isn't right. Most kids in HS do not go to college parties. In fact, I knew college kids who spent 4 years away at a univeristy who never attended any college parties.

You are correct - most HS kids do NOT go to college parties - they go to HS parties. And who said anything about "goody goodies"?/ You are projecting WAY TOO MUCH.

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Anonymous wrote:My HS niece posted scantily clad, alcohol toting pics from a college party this weekend. My sister's excuse is basically that she was cool too, did all of that and worse but turned into a productive adult so doesn't see anything abnormal about the behavior. I was a dork. My daughter will either be a dork or hate me but she won't be following in her cousin's footsteps.

Ha, she just won’t let you find out about it.

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The teens with the strictest parents are always the most rebellious. Mark my word on this.

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Anonymous wrote:When I read posts like this, I sometimes wonder if I'm the only person in the DC area who actually went to high school herself. No, I wouldn't want my high schoolers going to drunken college parties, but how is it shocking to anyone that this happens? It happened when we were kids, why would our kids be different? Know your kids, know your kids friends, have a check-in system, make sure they know your expectation and the consequences for failing to meet them. It's not a guarantee that they won't get in trouble, but it goes a long way.

+1

Judging and trying to police other peoples' children only draws attention to you and your child, and gets you and your child shunned. Mind your own house and mind your own children and stop worrying about WTH everyone else is doing - because you really have no idea. None.

If being accepted by a group involves having your teenage HS kid going to frat parties and who knows what else....maybe being shunned is not a bad thing? Just sayin'.

Point being these outrageous stories 1.) have very little credence and 2.) are usually started by the gossip mongering mean moms who want to accuse "other kids" of doing wrong, when they don't even discipline their own out of control child. and 3.) it's always someone else's kid that is to blame, isn't it (usually the American kids -- of they have a single mom, all the better to blame them). I am foreign, and I know what this crap is about, and it is despicable. That way, I can claim that my child is "perfect", and any wrongs committed are by Bobby down the street, "not my kid!!"

Are you saying that these gossipy mean moms start untrue rumors about other kids partying? If so, they truly suck. I would avoid them like the plague.

In some cases. In other cases, I am sure that the partying does happen - you would be either incredibly stupid to think your kid would never consider going to a party; or incredibly naive to think it doesn't happen. What matters is not the "blame game" that is so important to some parents, but (big concept here) PARENTING YOUR OWN CHILD. I have school administrators (not just teachers, but well above teachers) in my family, and some of the parents put on quite a show - more occupied with appearances than teaching right and wrong in (another big concept here) THEIR OWN HOUSE.

I have also seen parents who claim that THEIR snowflake doesn't do anything wrong - they are just perfect, because we (the parents) are so perfect. Better watch that superior attitude. Boy, does that bite them in the arse HARD when they find out HOW untrue that is with their snowflake. Which is fine, everyone makes mistakes, the kids are still growing, but don't try to crucify other families or children in the process. Like I said, the "my way is the best way" bites them HARD in the arse - every time.

Yeah, we all know that given the right set of circumstances all kids could wind up at a party. No kidding. What this thread was about was specifically HS kids routinely going to college parties, and even more specifically a college Halloween party. Yes, I'm sure that this has happened somewhere at sometime. But to suggest that this is a routine thing for HS kids is ridiculous and implying that the ones who don't do it are "goody goodies" isn't right. Most kids in HS do not go to college parties. In fact, I knew college kids who spent 4 years away at a univeristy who never attended any college parties.

You are correct - most HS kids do NOT go to college parties - they go to HS parties. And who said anything about "goody goodies"?/ You are projecting WAY TOO MUCH.

O.k. not all HS parties involve heavy drinking and that sort of thing. HS kids might go to HS parties but it is wrong to say that "most" HS kids go to HS drinking parties, because they don't.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I read posts like this, I sometimes wonder if I'm the only person in the DC area who actually went to high school herself. No, I wouldn't want my high schoolers going to drunken college parties, but how is it shocking to anyone that this happens? It happened when we were kids, why would our kids be different? Know your kids, know your kids friends, have a check-in system, make sure they know your expectation and the consequences for failing to meet them. It's not a guarantee that they won't get in trouble, but it goes a long way.

+1

Judging and trying to police other peoples' children only draws attention to you and your child, and gets you and your child shunned. Mind your own house and mind your own children and stop worrying about WTH everyone else is doing - because you really have no idea. None.

If being accepted by a group involves having your teenage HS kid going to frat parties and who knows what else....maybe being shunned is not a bad thing? Just sayin'.

Point being these outrageous stories 1.) have very little credence and 2.) are usually started by the gossip mongering mean moms who want to accuse "other kids" of doing wrong, when they don't even discipline their own out of control child. and 3.) it's always someone else's kid that is to blame, isn't it (usually the American kids -- of they have a single mom, all the better to blame them). I am foreign, and I know what this crap is about, and it is despicable. That way, I can claim that my child is "perfect", and any wrongs committed are by Bobby down the street, "not my kid!!"

So wait - you're saying that a mom who actually sees the pictures of the scantily clad Halloween costumes via Instagram, must be a "gossip mongering mean mom" if she brings it up here on an anonymous website? Lady, you seem to be taking all of this very seriously indeed. Why is that? If anything, your posts here make you out to be the mean mom.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I read posts like this, I sometimes wonder if I'm the only person in the DC area who actually went to high school herself. No, I wouldn't want my high schoolers going to drunken college parties, but how is it shocking to anyone that this happens? It happened when we were kids, why would our kids be different? Know your kids, know your kids friends, have a check-in system, make sure they know your expectation and the consequences for failing to meet them. It's not a guarantee that they won't get in trouble, but it goes a long way.

+1

Judging and trying to police other peoples' children only draws attention to you and your child, and gets you and your child shunned. Mind your own house and mind your own children and stop worrying about WTH everyone else is doing - because you really have no idea. None.

If being accepted by a group involves having your teenage HS kid going to frat parties and who knows what else....maybe being shunned is not a bad thing? Just sayin'.

Point being these outrageous stories 1.) have very little credence and 2.) are usually started by the gossip mongering mean moms who want to accuse "other kids" of doing wrong, when they don't even discipline their own out of control child. and 3.) it's always someone else's kid that is to blame, isn't it (usually the American kids -- of they have a single mom, all the better to blame them). I am foreign, and I know what this crap is about, and it is despicable. That way, I can claim that my child is "perfect", and any wrongs committed are by Bobby down the street, "not my kid!!"

So wait - you're saying that a mom who actually sees the pictures of the scantily clad Halloween costumes via Instagram, must be a "gossip mongering mean mom" if she brings it up here on an anonymous website? Lady, you seem to be taking all of this very seriously indeed. Why is that? If anything, your posts here make you out to be the mean mom.

What I think is that some people like drama. For example. ^^^

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Why do you cane what other people do with their kids? Even if you don't understand why a parent would allow this, these are not your kids. It's not your business how other people parent their kids, as long as they are not abusing them. Mind your own business.

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Anonymous wrote:My HS niece posted scantily clad, alcohol toting pics from a college party this weekend. My sister's excuse is basically that she was cool too, did all of that and worse but turned into a productive adult so doesn't see anything abnormal about the behavior. I was a dork. My daughter will either be a dork or hate me but she won't be following in her cousin's footsteps.

Ha, she just won’t let you find out about it.

Yes, EVERY teen girl is overtly or secretly a wild drunken trollop. You're just trying to rationalize you and/or your daughter's degenerate behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you cane what other people do with their kids? Even if you don't understand why a parent would allow this, these are not your kids. It's not your business how other people parent their kids, as long as they are not abusing them. Mind your own business.

Do you know what peer pressure is? These degenerate cool sleazy girls signal to peers and younger more impressionable girls that in order to be cool you have to go get drunk and hook up with gross college men who prey on you. In order to get a lot of followers and girls viewing your snap story, 16- and 17-year-old girls need to be drunk at frat darting getting screwed by random men. It's all so disturbing.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you cane what other people do with their kids? Even if you don't understand why a parent would allow this, these are not your kids. It's not your business how other people parent their kids, as long as they are not abusing them. Mind your own business.

Do you know what peer pressure is? These degenerate cool sleazy girls signal to peers and younger more impressionable girls that in order to be cool you have to go get drunk and hook up with gross college men who prey on you. In order to get a lot of followers and girls viewing your snap story, 16- and 17-year-old girls need to be drunk at frat darting getting screwed by random men. It's all so disturbing.

I am 21 so I was in HS not to long ago and it was never "cool" to go get drunk and hook up with older men. Though when I was a freshman I had friends who were seniors (we had gym class together) and I still keep in touch with them. Anyway it's your job to parent your kids even if others are not. You should be the one to teach them it's not cool hooking up with gross college men, even if every other parent is telling their kids it's cool. Just simply don't get involved in other peoples situations, even how they parent their kids. I never dated older men in HS. I also had friends that smoked and I never did. It is because my dad is a smoker and talked about how it's hard to quit and to never stop smoking.