High school 11th and 12th grade girls at huge college Halloween parties. Wtf?

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Anonymous wrote:My son is doing overnights for his sport.

You think I should tell the coaches my son can't do an overnight?

The HS athletes are usually pretty well supervised when they travel for sports and they don't play against college teams on college campuses....so there is that.

It's not travel sports. My son is doing overnight visits with college kids in their dorms. All recruited athletes do it. They don't go as a team.

A college coach invites your child to their campus for an official visit and they stay with and are entertained by the college student athletes.

http://www.ncaa.org/student-athletes/future/eligibility-center/what-official-visit

I think I wpuld qlmost rather have my high school daughter partying at the frat house than my son doing a weekend with a college athelete for recruitment.

I guess it would depend upon how the recruitment visit was handled. If the university sincerely wants the kid to play for them and they return that kid to his/her parent brutally hungover, there might be hell to pay.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When I read posts like this, I sometimes wonder if I'm the only person in the DC area who actually went to high school herself. No, I wouldn't want my high schoolers going to drunken college parties, but how is it shocking to anyone that this happens? It happened when we were kids, why would our kids be different? Know your kids, know your kids friends, have a check-in system, make sure they know your expectation and the consequences for failing to meet them. It's not a guarantee that they won't get in trouble, but it goes a long way.

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Judging and trying to police other peoples' children only draws attention to you and your child, and gets you and your child shunned. Mind your own house and mind your own children and stop worrying about WTH everyone else is doing - because you really have no idea. None.

If being accepted by a group involves having your teenage HS kid going to frat parties and who knows what else....maybe being shunned is not a bad thing? Just sayin'.

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It isn't "all" the 11th/12th grade girls doing this. Their parents are not paying attention.

My 11th grader has a phone paid by me for a reason. It needs to stay charged, be with her, Location tracking on so that I can see where she is and I can check in with her. Simply a condition for having phone paid by me. I'm quite confident that she's not secretly attending college parties.

I also have an 8th grader. A condition for her phone is that I can check her messages and instagram whenever I want. BTW, I do this at random and very irregularly because it's not that interesting. What does shock me is the number of her instagram contacts - other girls from school - posting selfies with very suggestive poses, comments, etc. etc. I guess their parents either don't check or don't care. There are a lot of checked-out parents out there.

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Anonymous wrote:We removed our DD from this area because this was the norm in eighth grade! Eighth grade! DD is happily away enjoying being a fifteen year old and sitting around bonfires and pajama parties with all night movies. Boring, possibly to some, but I revel in her being able to just be a girl without all the pressures she faced at her dc private. And so does she.

Removed your DD from the area? What? This happens literally all over the country. If your DD isn't into college parties, she is just as likely to do normal teen things here as she is anywhere else. Weird.

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Anonymous wrote:Are these the same parents who drop their 13 year olds off at parties without even knowing if the parents are home?

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Anonymous wrote:It isn't "all" the 11th/12th grade girls doing this. Their parents are not paying attention.

I'm 100% confident most if not all of these girls' parents know and allow the college overnights/weekends.

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It's interesting to me because we live by GMU and if anything, the area is so sleepy! I don't think my kids could find a party unless they looked very hard!

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Anonymous wrote:Are these the same parents who drop their 13 year olds off at parties without even knowing if the parents are home?

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Yup, same folks, I'm sure!

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Anonymous wrote:It isn't "all" the 11th/12th grade girls doing this. Their parents are not paying attention.

My 11th grader has a phone paid by me for a reason. It needs to stay charged, be with her, Location tracking on so that I can see where she is and I can check in with her. Simply a condition for having phone paid by me. I'm quite confident that she's not secretly attending college parties.

I also have an 8th grader. A condition for her phone is that I can check her messages and instagram whenever I want. BTW, I do this at random and very irregularly because it's not that interesting. What does shock me is the number of her instagram contacts - other girls from school - posting selfies with very suggestive poses, comments, etc. etc. I guess their parents either don't check or don't care. There are a lot of checked-out parents out there.

x10000

Easier for the checked out or dim parents to blame Bobby down the street, than actually parent their own kids.

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Anonymous wrote:We removed our DD from this area because this was the norm in eighth grade! Eighth grade! DD is happily away enjoying being a fifteen year old and sitting around bonfires and pajama parties with all night movies. Boring, possibly to some, but I revel in her being able to just be a girl without all the pressures she faced at her dc private. And so does she.

Huh. My kid was in eighth grade last year, and she didn't go to college Halloween parties. Nor did any of her friends, as far as I know.

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My daughter is in 8th grade in McLean and was just showing me her Halloween costume for tomorrow. She and her best friend are going to be devils and trick-or-treat in the neighborhood. My high school senior spent this past Saturday night watching horror movies with his "squad" at one of their houses. And we didn't even have to move out of the area to accomplish normal, wholesome Halloweens!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We removed our DD from this area because this was the norm in eighth grade! Eighth grade! DD is happily away enjoying being a fifteen year old and sitting around bonfires and pajama parties with all night movies. Boring, possibly to some, but I revel in her being able to just be a girl without all the pressures she faced at her dc private. And so does she.

Huh. My kid was in eighth grade last year, and she didn't go to college Halloween parties. Nor did any of her friends, as far as I know.

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My daughter is in 8th grade in McLean and was just showing me her Halloween costume for tomorrow. She and her best friend are going to be devils and trick-or-treat in the neighborhood. My high school senior spent this past Saturday night watching horror movies with his "squad" at one of their houses. And we didn't even have to move out of the area to accomplish normal, wholesome Halloweens!

I grew up in the DC area and this is how it was back when I was a kid, too.

If your teenager is insisting that "everyone" is going to college drinking parties for Halloween, you might want to reconsider who your kid is hanging out with because that is not the norm. Sorry.

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Anonymous wrote:It isn't "all" the 11th/12th grade girls doing this. Their parents are not paying attention.

My 11th grader has a phone paid by me for a reason. It needs to stay charged, be with her, Location tracking on so that I can see where she is and I can check in with her. Simply a condition for having phone paid by me. I'm quite confident that she's not secretly attending college parties.

I also have an 8th grader. A condition for her phone is that I can check her messages and instagram whenever I want. BTW, I do this at random and very irregularly because it's not that interesting. What does shock me is the number of her instagram contacts - other girls from school - posting selfies with very suggestive poses, comments, etc. etc. I guess their parents either don't check or don't care. There are a lot of checked-out parents out there.

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There is a group in my daughter's middle school who had a Halloween party this past weekend. They are considered the "popular" kids. My daughter was telling me about their IG pictures - Playboy Bunny costumes, etc. I guess their parents either had no clue or just didn't care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We removed our DD from this area because this was the norm in eighth grade! Eighth grade! DD is happily away enjoying being a fifteen year old and sitting around bonfires and pajama parties with all night movies. Boring, possibly to some, but I revel in her being able to just be a girl without all the pressures she faced at her dc private. And so does she.

Huh. My kid was in eighth grade last year, and she didn't go to college Halloween parties. Nor did any of her friends, as far as I know.

+1
My daughter is in 8th grade in McLean and was just showing me her Halloween costume for tomorrow. She and her best friend are going to be devils and trick-or-treat in the neighborhood. My high school senior spent this past Saturday night watching horror movies with his "squad" at one of their houses. And we didn't even have to move out of the area to accomplish normal, wholesome Halloweens!

I grew up in the DC area and this is how it was back when I was a kid, too.

If your teenager is insisting that "everyone" is going to college drinking parties for Halloween, you might want to reconsider who your kid is hanging out with because that is not the norm. Sorry.

THIS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It isn't "all" the 11th/12th grade girls doing this. Their parents are not paying attention.

My 11th grader has a phone paid by me for a reason. It needs to stay charged, be with her, Location tracking on so that I can see where she is and I can check in with her. Simply a condition for having phone paid by me. I'm quite confident that she's not secretly attending college parties.

I also have an 8th grader. A condition for her phone is that I can check her messages and instagram whenever I want. BTW, I do this at random and very irregularly because it's not that interesting. What does shock me is the number of her instagram contacts - other girls from school - posting selfies with very suggestive poses, comments, etc. etc. I guess their parents either don't check or don't care. There are a lot of checked-out parents out there.

+1
There is a group in my daughter's middle school who had a Halloween party this past weekend. They are considered the "popular" kids. My daughter was telling me about their IG pictures - Playboy Bunny costumes, etc. I guess their parents either had no clue or just didn't care.

If your daughter isn't hanging out with those kids, I guess it doesn't affect you, does it?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I read posts like this, I sometimes wonder if I'm the only person in the DC area who actually went to high school herself. No, I wouldn't want my high schoolers going to drunken college parties, but how is it shocking to anyone that this happens? It happened when we were kids, why would our kids be different? Know your kids, know your kids friends, have a check-in system, make sure they know your expectation and the consequences for failing to meet them. It's not a guarantee that they won't get in trouble, but it goes a long way.

+1

Judging and trying to police other peoples' children only draws attention to you and your child, and gets you and your child shunned. Mind your own house and mind your own children and stop worrying about WTH everyone else is doing - because you really have no idea. None.

If being accepted by a group involves having your teenage HS kid going to frat parties and who knows what else....maybe being shunned is not a bad thing? Just sayin'.

Point being these outrageous stories 1.) have very little credence and 2.) are usually started by the gossip mongering mean moms who want to accuse "other kids" of doing wrong, when they don't even discipline their own out of control child. and 3.) it's always someone else's kid that is to blame, isn't it (usually the American kids -- of they have a single mom, all the better to blame them). I am foreign, and I know what this crap is about, and it is despicable. That way, I can claim that my child is "perfect", and any wrongs committed are by Bobby down the street, "not my kid!!"