High school 11th and 12th grade girls at huge college Halloween parties. Wtf?

[Anonymous]

I was taken advantage of at a college party when I was 17. I wouldn't characterize it as rape but I was drinking way too much and the fraternity boy was probably 20-21.

On a campus featuring thousands of female students, they're inviting high school girls for one reason: Gullible, low-alcohol tolerance, easy prey.

College men don't want to hear about your daughter's AP courses, they want to get her drunk and/or high to have sex with her.

[Anonymous]

I grew up in Mobile. We all went up to homecoming at Alabama. My boyfriend in 11th and 12th was in college locally; my friends and I went to his frat parties. When I met him, I was a sophomore and he was a senior.

The high school parties really weren't less rowdy. Hardly any of the people at either are of legal drinking age, anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I grew up in Mobile. We all went up to homecoming at Alabama. My boyfriend in 11th and 12th was in college locally; my friends and I went to his frat parties. When I met him, I was a sophomore and he was a senior.

The high school parties really weren't less rowdy. Hardly any of the people at either are of legal drinking age, anyway.

This is precisely the mentality that is so dangerous. The thought process goes that if the young adult college students aren't old enough to drink at these parties, what difference does it make that 14/15/16/17 year old HS kids are drinking at the parties, too?

Back when I was in college, people at the door of these parties checked for student IDs. We didn't want HS kids crashing our parties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I grew up in Mobile. We all went up to homecoming at Alabama. My boyfriend in 11th and 12th was in college locally; my friends and I went to his frat parties. When I met him, I was a sophomore and he was a senior.

The high school parties really weren't less rowdy. Hardly any of the people at either are of legal drinking age, anyway.

This is precisely the mentality that is so dangerous. The thought process goes that if the young adult college students aren't old enough to drink at these parties, what difference does it make that 14/15/16/17 year old HS kids are drinking at the parties, too?

Back when I was in college, people at the door of these parties checked for student IDs. We didn't want HS kids crashing our parties.

DP here: If you were a sheltered teen, PP do you expect that your teen will be sheltered also? What are you going to do if they are not? Because your way of thinking is NOT helping your kid, I know that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I grew up in Mobile. We all went up to homecoming at Alabama. My boyfriend in 11th and 12th was in college locally; my friends and I went to his frat parties. When I met him, I was a sophomore and he was a senior.

The high school parties really weren't less rowdy. Hardly any of the people at either are of legal drinking age, anyway.

This is precisely the mentality that is so dangerous. The thought process goes that if the young adult college students aren't old enough to drink at these parties, what difference does it make that 14/15/16/17 year old HS kids are drinking at the parties, too?

Back when I was in college, people at the door of these parties checked for student IDs. We didn't want HS kids crashing our parties.

DP here: If you were a sheltered teen, PP do you expect that your teen will be sheltered also? What are you going to do if they are not? Because your way of thinking is NOT helping your kid, I know that.

This idea that it is inevitable that HIGH SCHOOL children will wind up drinking at college fraternity parties is ridiculous. It is not inevitable. In fact, most HS kids do not do that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you foreign, raised by foreign parents, or both? Because I find your cluelessness to be something that is prevalent in these circles. My advice is for you to watch YOUR OWN KID. I know your M.O. is blaming someone else, but that is not going to work when you are raising teens.

The most self righteous parents of high school teens that I have seen have by far the most troublesome teens. By far.

You sound pretty self righteous. Not all parents go to college or have been to college parties. My husband went later in life and never had the experience. He's not clueless but doesn't fully know.

If your kids are going, teach them to be safe, go with a friend, never leave without the friend and drink only from closed containers, never punch and make sure no one can stick anything in it by keeping the opening closed.

[Anonymous]

Also, as a young adult college student, I had zero (and I do mean ZERO) interest in dating/hooking up with a HS teenager.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you foreign, raised by foreign parents, or both? Because I find your cluelessness to be something that is prevalent in these circles. My advice is for you to watch YOUR OWN KID. I know your M.O. is blaming someone else, but that is not going to work when you are raising teens.

The most self righteous parents of high school teens that I have seen have by far the most troublesome teens. By far.

You sound pretty self righteous. Not all parents go to college or have been to college parties. My husband went later in life and never had the experience. He's not clueless but doesn't fully know.

If your kids are going, teach them to be safe, go with a friend, never leave without the friend and drink only from closed containers, never punch and make sure no one can stick anything in it by keeping the opening closed.

Not self righteous. Just experienced. If you are going to get delirious about whose kid is doing what, better mind your own. Just because you are naive doesn't mean that other parents are naive. Deal with your own sh!t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I grew up in Mobile. We all went up to homecoming at Alabama. My boyfriend in 11th and 12th was in college locally; my friends and I went to his frat parties. When I met him, I was a sophomore and he was a senior.

The high school parties really weren't less rowdy. Hardly any of the people at either are of legal drinking age, anyway.

This is precisely the mentality that is so dangerous. The thought process goes that if the young adult college students aren't old enough to drink at these parties, what difference does it make that 14/15/16/17 year old HS kids are drinking at the parties, too?

Back when I was in college, people at the door of these parties checked for student IDs. We didn't want HS kids crashing our parties.

DP here: If you were a sheltered teen, PP do you expect that your teen will be sheltered also? What are you going to do if they are not? Because your way of thinking is NOT helping your kid, I know that.

This idea that it is inevitable that HIGH SCHOOL children will wind up drinking at college fraternity parties is ridiculous. It is not inevitable. In fact, most HS kids do not do that.

+1

Agree. Som parents LOOK for things to get worked about about, and did you notice, "it's never THEIR kid"? Yeah, right.

[Anonymous]

*up

[Anonymous]

We removed our DD from this area because this was the norm in eighth grade! Eighth grade! DD is happily away enjoying being a fifteen year old and sitting around bonfires and pajama parties with all night movies. Boring, possibly to some, but I revel in her being able to just be a girl without all the pressures she faced at her dc private. And so does she.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We removed our DD from this area because this was the norm in eighth grade! Eighth grade! DD is happily away enjoying being a fifteen year old and sitting around bonfires and pajama parties with all night movies. Boring, possibly to some, but I revel in her being able to just be a girl without all the pressures she faced at her dc private. And so does she.

I don't understand this post at all. Does your child look like she is 25? What college was she hanging out at? I don't believe this at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We removed our DD from this area because this was the norm in eighth grade! Eighth grade! DD is happily away enjoying being a fifteen year old and sitting around bonfires and pajama parties with all night movies. Boring, possibly to some, but I revel in her being able to just be a girl without all the pressures she faced at her dc private. And so does she.

Huh. My kid was in eighth grade last year, and she didn't go to college Halloween parties. Nor did any of her friends, as far as I know.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My son is doing overnights for his sport.

You think I should tell the coaches my son can't do an overnight?

The HS athletes are usually pretty well supervised when they travel for sports and they don't play against college teams on college campuses....so there is that.

It's not travel sports. My son is doing overnight visits with college kids in their dorms. All recruited athletes do it. They don't go as a team.

A college coach invites your child to their campus for an official visit and they stay with and are entertained by the college student athletes.

http://www.ncaa.org/student-athletes/future/eligibility-center/what-official-visit

I think I wpuld qlmost rather have my high school daughter partying at the frat house than my son doing a weekend with a college athelete for recruitment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We removed our DD from this area because this was the norm in eighth grade! Eighth grade! DD is happily away enjoying being a fifteen year old and sitting around bonfires and pajama parties with all night movies. Boring, possibly to some, but I revel in her being able to just be a girl without all the pressures she faced at her dc private. And so does she.

Huh. My kid was in eighth grade last year, and she didn't go to college Halloween parties. Nor did any of her friends, as far as I know.

Yes, they got dressed up and went out trick or treating with the rest of their friends. Who the hell would drive a bunch of 8th graders to a college Halloween drop off party?