If you are a female in the corporate world…isn't having a female boss the WORST?

[Anonymous]

I started in my career in the late 70's and I've seen a big change. Back then the few female bosses I knew knew little about teamwork or how to lead. Not many had played in team sports where you do learn a lot about both. Women now seem to have a much better understanding of teamwork and leadership. But there are plenty of terrible female bosses just as there are plenty of terrible male bosses. So there is at least equality in one area!

[Anonymous]

I am a woman. My favorite boss who taught me so much about how to carry myself to was female. My worst boss was also female. Everyone else has been male so I guess I can't generalize.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For awhile I thought this was just my personal random experience. The past few years as Ive moved up in my field Ive started attending more networking events and out of town conferences. Dinners out after daily meetings have led to casual conversation about our working experience and almost all the females Ive met have admitted that our female bosses put us through hell. We all had similar stories and it made me really reflex on what type of boss I am. I really dont think I am like that and make a conscious effort to support all my team members but am curious if something happens along the way that makes women scorin and become one of "those" women bosses. Anyone else notice this? I am in accounting if it matters.

Yes, working for women is awful. Especially ones who are menopausal. Most are absolute nutcases, very very few stable female "leaders" out there and I use the word leader in quotations for a reason. Total micromanagers. If I were a man, no doubt I would be a homosexual.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The worst kind of boss, IME, is a married man with a stay at home wife. They have absolutely no understanding of what childcare entails and the idea that some couples split domestic duties, yet they expect their employees (who mostly have working spouses) to adhere to the same face time standards they do (with a non-working spouse). They tend to discount the work people do if, e.g., they go home and put the kids to bed and then log back in for another 2-3 hours, because they don't see it.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a female in government rather than the private sector but over the course of my career have also consistently found my female bosses much less pleasant to work for than male bosses, largely because they have tended to be more rigid and micromanaging. Also at my agency the vast majority of female managers are single while most male managers are married with kids so I've found my male managers to be more understanding and supportive of work/life balance, child care constraints, etc.

You're not very smart, are you?

If the only women making it to management at your agency are single and childless, then that means married women and mothers are being weeded out. Instead of being a traitorous bitch and undermining the women who do make it, you should be really alert about the obvious signs that you're not going to make it up the ladder if you seek any kind of balance as a woman. Maybe the women in your agency don't like you because they see how clueless you are.

[Anonymous]

Worked in big law for a long time. Total mix. Some of the women I have worked for have been truly unbelievable and amazing and some have sucked - just like the men I have worked for.

[Anonymous]

I have not had this problem, OP, and I've had several female bosses (and am one myself).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Worst boss ever had by a larger margin was a South Indian woman h1b

Arrogant and incompetent

And racist

I don't think she was the racist one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The worst kind of boss, IME, is a married man with a stay at home wife. They have absolutely no understanding of what childcare entails and the idea that some couples split domestic duties, yet they expect their employees (who mostly have working spouses) to adhere to the same face time standards they do (with a non-working spouse). They tend to discount the work people do if, e.g., they go home and put the kids to bed and then log back in for another 2-3 hours, because they don't see it.

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Agree. The worst bosses and the worst co-workers.

[Anonymous]

I had one female boss who was kind of a nightmare and two others who were my best mentors ever. I also had several male bosses who covered a similar range.

[Anonymous]

No, they can be just as good or bad as males.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The worst kind of boss, IME, is a married man with a stay at home wife. They have absolutely no understanding of what childcare entails and the idea that some couples split domestic duties, yet they expect their employees (who mostly have working spouses) to adhere to the same face time standards they do (with a non-working spouse). They tend to discount the work people do if, e.g., they go home and put the kids to bed and then log back in for another 2-3 hours, because they don't see it.

No. The absolute worst boss are women who are 2nd, 3rd wives of rich men, have grown step-children and no biological kids of their own. They call themselves "moms" but have not an iota of understanding about what it means. They do not do domestic chores, they do not do childcare and they are unaware of what it means to have a limited income.

The men boss with SAHMs actually appreciate the women employees a lot more because they know that their own lives would have been messed up if not for their wives. They may be a bit clueless but they are always amenable if your child is sick and you want leave. The childless bitches on the other hand are horrendous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The worst kind of boss, IME, is a married man with a stay at home wife. They have absolutely no understanding of what childcare entails and the idea that some couples split domestic duties, yet they expect their employees (who mostly have working spouses) to adhere to the same face time standards they do (with a non-working spouse). They tend to discount the work people do if, e.g., they go home and put the kids to bed and then log back in for another 2-3 hours, because they don't see it.

No. The absolute worst boss are women who are 2nd, 3rd wives of rich men, have grown step-children and no biological kids of their own. They call themselves "moms" but have not an iota of understanding about what it means. They do not do domestic chores, they do not do childcare and they are unaware of what it means to have a limited income.

The men boss with SAHMs actually appreciate the women employees a lot more because they know that their own lives would have been messed up if not for their wives. They may be a bit clueless but they are always amenable if your child is sick and you want leave. The childless bitches on the other hand are horrendous.

NP. Absolute horse shit. I work in an industry in which the majority of men have SAHWs and these men have no respect for women. Regardless of the patronizing little quips they make about the wives being "boss," they perceive their wives as less intelligent than they are and generalize this to all women. They also take child care for granted because it has never been an issue for them and think that women who aren't comfortable yucking it up should just quit and stay home like their wives did.

[Anonymous]

The worst type of boss are women that are obviously unhappy with their job, marriage, children, life in general or any combination and you are happy, women whose peers are all men yet you are not 24/7 in awe of them or women who make a lot more than you but your "stuff" (car, clothing, jewelry, home, spouse, vacation) is far nicer than theirs.

[Anonymous]

Studies have shown that women bosses treat other women the worst and are bad overall.