Denny or Dennie for a girl?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There is a 2d Circuit judge, Denny Chin- so I guess there's the counterpoint for saying "she'll never be successful if Denny is at the top of her resume."

But he is a man! Big difference. At least don't saddle her with a nickname of a dude! Danielle is cute! And then you can call her Denny? Why do this to your child who will have to live with this name for the rest of their lives ( or go through the hassle of changing it?)

Why? Dennys who are men can be successful, but Dennys who are women are doomed to failure, because...?

You are missing the point I was trying to make. You never said Denny Chin was a male or female so it sounded like he was a successful woman with that name. I am not assuming that op's Dennie/Denny/Deni will fail at life. What I am saying is it is fine as a nn as long as you give your daughter a real girl's name so she can choose to go by her male name or her own name! That is what I am saying.

If you give her only one choice than there is a chance that she will get tired of explaining why her mother gave her a boys nickname as her name.

[Anonymous]

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You are missing the point I was trying to make. You never said Denny Chin was a male or female so it sounded like he was a successful woman with that name. I am not assuming that op's Dennie/Denny/Deni will fail at life. What I am saying is it is fine as a nn as long as you give your daughter a real girl's name so she can choose to go by her male name or her own name! That is what I am saying.

If you give her only one choice than there is a chance that she will get tired of explaining why her mother gave her a boys nickname as her name.

Um.

I would never ask somebody named Denny (or Dennie) why her mother gave her a boy nickname as her name. I would consider that a rude question and none of my business. Would you ask that?

I'm not the OP. My kids have DCUM-approved royalty-of-England names. It's possible that, when they grow up, they will choose to go by a nickname or a different name, or to change their names. Just as it's possible that your child(ren) may choose to do that, or Denny/Dennie may choose to do that.

[Anonymous]

I don't get why it's so important to have a gender-conforming name? Many popular names these days are gender neutral, e.g. Taylor, Parker and many historically boy names are now being used for girls - Charlie, Ryan, etc. Who cares! If anything, it will give the kid a leg-up in terms of resume review if they think she's a man!!

[Anonymous]

Dennie is better, but this is a lesser of two evils situation.

If any sliver of you is still open to using this as a nickname, I'll add Magdalene as a full name I could see Dennie working as a nickname for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't get why it's so important to have a gender-conforming name? Many popular names these days are gender neutral, e.g. Taylor, Parker and many historically boy names are now being used for girls - Charlie, Ryan, etc. Who cares! If anything, it will give the kid a leg-up in terms of resume review if they think she's a man!!

I personally don't like androgynous names for my own kids, but that's not a view I externalize to other people's name choices. But what I really don't like about these two choices are that no matter how you spell it, it's a nickname as a full name. Feels like you expect your kid to never be in a situation where they need/want to be taken seriously. I'd say the same if OP was asking whether to spell her future son's given name Timmy or Timmie. Just name him Timothy and call him whatever diminutive you prefer!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Denny is itself a nickname for Dennis. It's like Tommy to Thomas. So you're asking if you should spell your daughter's male name nickname in the traditional way (for the nickname) or in a creative made up way.

I do think you or your daughter will regret this choice and you should choose another name and then call her a nickname.

Oh my, this made me laugh.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't get why it's so important to have a gender-conforming name? Many popular names these days are gender neutral, e.g. Taylor, Parker and many historically boy names are now being used for girls - Charlie, Ryan, etc. Who cares! If anything, it will give the kid a leg-up in terms of resume review if they think she's a man!!

I personally don't like androgynous names for my own kids, but that's not a view I externalize to other people's name choices. But what I really don't like about these two choices are that no matter how you spell it, it's a nickname as a full name. Feels like you expect your kid to never be in a situation where they need/want to be taken seriously. I'd say the same if OP was asking whether to spell her future son's given name Timmy or Timmie. Just name him Timothy and call him whatever diminutive you prefer!

So are Sally, Peggy, Nancy, Sue, Molly, Maggie, and Betsy. I have known grown women whose names were these names, and I never had any problem taking the women seriously. These women were, respectively, a boss, a teacher, a friend, my mother-in-law, a friend, a colleague, and a teacher.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I don't get why it's so important to have a gender-conforming name? Many popular names these days are gender neutral, e.g. Taylor, Parker and many historically boy names are now being used for girls - Charlie, Ryan, etc. Who cares! If anything, it will give the kid a leg-up in terms of resume review if they think she's a man!!

I personally don't like androgynous names for my own kids, but that's not a view I externalize to other people's name choices. But what I really don't like about these two choices are that no matter how you spell it, it's a nickname as a full name. Feels like you expect your kid to never be in a situation where they need/want to be taken seriously. I'd say the same if OP was asking whether to spell her future son's given name Timmy or Timmie. Just name him Timothy and call him whatever diminutive you prefer!

So are Sally, Peggy, Nancy, Sue, Molly, Maggie, and Betsy. I have known grown women whose names were these names, and I never had any problem taking the women seriously. These women were, respectively, a boss, a teacher, a friend, my mother-in-law, a friend, a colleague, and a teacher.

Unless the name on their birth certificate is Molly or Betsy, you're not disproving my point. I am also a grown, respectable woman who goes by her nickname in nearly all situations, but I'll bet you $100 Peggy has "Margaret" at the top of her resume.

[Anonymous]

It's not a boy name/girl name problem for me. It's that I wouldn't name my kid Arby, Wendy, or Sweetgreen either. So, Dennie is better than Denny because it's different from the restaurant.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't get why it's so important to have a gender-conforming name? Many popular names these days are gender neutral, e.g. Taylor, Parker and many historically boy names are now being used for girls - Charlie, Ryan, etc. Who cares! If anything, it will give the kid a leg-up in terms of resume review if they think she's a man!!

I personally don't like androgynous names for my own kids, but that's not a view I externalize to other people's name choices. But what I really don't like about these two choices are that no matter how you spell it, it's a nickname as a full name. Feels like you expect your kid to never be in a situation where they need/want to be taken seriously. I'd say the same if OP was asking whether to spell her future son's given name Timmy or Timmie. Just name him Timothy and call him whatever diminutive you prefer!

So are Sally, Peggy, Nancy, Sue, Molly, Maggie, and Betsy. I have known grown women whose names were these names, and I never had any problem taking the women seriously. These women were, respectively, a boss, a teacher, a friend, my mother-in-law, a friend, a colleague, and a teacher.

Unless the name on their birth certificate is Molly or Betsy, you're not disproving my point. I am also a grown, respectable woman who goes by her nickname in nearly all situations, but I'll bet you $100 Peggy has "Margaret" at the top of her resume.

I'm the PP you're responding to. Yes, the names on their birth certificates were, respectively, Sally, Peggy, Nancy, Sue, Molly, Maggie, and Betsy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't get why it's so important to have a gender-conforming name? Many popular names these days are gender neutral, e.g. Taylor, Parker and many historically boy names are now being used for girls - Charlie, Ryan, etc. Who cares! If anything, it will give the kid a leg-up in terms of resume review if they think she's a man!!

I personally don't like androgynous names for my own kids, but that's not a view I externalize to other people's name choices. But what I really don't like about these two choices are that no matter how you spell it, it's a nickname as a full name. Feels like you expect your kid to never be in a situation where they need/want to be taken seriously. I'd say the same if OP was asking whether to spell her future son's given name Timmy or Timmie. Just name him Timothy and call him whatever diminutive you prefer!

So are Sally, Peggy, Nancy, Sue, Molly, Maggie, and Betsy. I have known grown women whose names were these names, and I never had any problem taking the women seriously. These women were, respectively, a boss, a teacher, a friend, my mother-in-law, a friend, a colleague, and a teacher.

Unless the name on their birth certificate is Molly or Betsy, you're not disproving my point. I am also a grown, respectable woman who goes by her nickname in nearly all situations, but I'll bet you $100 Peggy has "Margaret" at the top of her resume.

I'm the PP you're responding to. Yes, the names on their birth certificates were, respectively, Sally, Peggy, Nancy, Sue, Molly, Maggie, and Betsy.

That's astonishing to me. I've known only one person with "Vicky" on her birth certificate, and thought it was really shortsighted of her parents. Maybe this is a regional thing. Good luck to Denny.

[Anonymous]

Neither...I don't like it.

[Anonymous]

Denny = Denny's Restaurant. If you're really set on this name, go with Dennie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Denny = Denny's Restaurant. If you're really set on this name, go with Dennie.

You know, I work with a guy who goes by Denny, and I don't think I've ever thought of Denny's restaurant in that context. He's just Denny, the guy I work with.

[Anonymous]

I vote Denny.